In recent years, the domestic marriage rate has been declining, but the divorce rate has remained high, and divorce is becoming more and more common. The former fairy couple in the circle of friends entered the palace of marriage with blessings, but soon the problems that were not discovered during love gradually emerged and quietly parted ways.
I have encountered many similar situations around me, and my friends have also talked to me about their friends’ experiences. Later I found that those intimate relationships that were rapidly going downhill are roughly the following three types:
The first type: pseudo-intimate relationship
Not long ago, the topic of #What is pseudo-sexual love# suddenly appeared on the hot search list. Actually, this is not a new topic, but the discussion is quite hot.
False love means that two people are just formal love, without spiritual intimacy, and belong to false intimacy. One of the patterns is that although they are lovers, they may have loved each other before, but they gradually only maintain the illusion of intimacy, and in fact they have long been separated from each other.
Some couples are the same. I got married because of love, but I soon discovered that although I ate, drink, play and sleep together every day, I had little spiritual communication and my inner understanding was very low. In such a marriage, the emotional connection is not tight, and cracks will appear with a slight touch, and it will be difficult to last if it is not maintained.
The second type: You chase me and escape relationship
This is not a romantic drama of "she escapes, he chases, he can't fly" performed in TV series or novels. The reality is cruel.
When there is a problem with the relationship, the sensitive and insecure party will chase the other party and constantly seek verification. If the other party has an evasive personality, it is easy to choose silence, and it feels that this can avoid the escalation of conflicts. But the facts are exactly the opposite.
For example, having sex is an indispensable "flavoring agent" in couples' lives. It was very beautiful at the beginning, but the wife gradually found that her husband was a little helpless. She thought her husband had changed and kept asking questions, but because of her face, the husband was unwilling to say that she had ED and was taking Jinge Sildenafil tablets for drug treatment. She just explained lightly that "there was no change in mind" and no longer faced the problem. Then the wife who was worried about gains and losses would only be more and more injured and angry.
You chase, I run away, and so on, as long as one of them is tired, the next step of the collision is likely to face a divorce.
The third type: the relationship between height and height
This relationship can also be called a pleasing relationship, which is a hidden killer of marriage.
In this relationship, people who put themselves in a low position will think that since they have paid, the other party should naturally respond. If the other party fails to meet their expectations, or does not respond, the expectations will also fail. At this time, the party who has been giving will feel that the other party owes him or her, and will unconsciously ask the other party to give an equal response in a criticized tone.
In the other party's view, what it expresses is not love, but hostility. Marriage also starts to have problems here. The other party will choose to defend, evade or fight back, which will eventually lead to constant quarrels and step by step towards divorce.
We all know that no one’s marriage is flawless. Everyone is on the way forward together, facing and solving the friction, difficulties and setbacks encountered in intimate relationships, etc. We should learn to observe the process and the essential reasons of marriage breakdown and make corresponding changes in a targeted manner. In this process, the relationship between the two parties will gradually become stronger and happiness can be controlled by oneself.
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