Today, I saw an article about getting along with my children. It was not written for a long time, but it was very realistic and practical. The name of the article was "This is the relationship between my two daughters and son-in-law". The author's website name is "The Daily Life of Setting Sun and Beautiful Brocade Horse". The article was written remarkable, maybe it was so memorable that I read it in my mind. I read it three times in a row, and I still had the pleasure. Although the method this old man took is simple, it is worth savoring and imitating.
This article describes the way of getting along with children. In summary, there are "three good things": one is to position them well. "The water splashed by the married daughter", "My home is the home of two daughters, and the daughter's home is not mine." The second is the method is good. "If you have any things, you will contact your two daughters." "You will never bother the children if you can do things." "If you spend money, you will not ask the children if you can solve things." "I don't go empty-handed when I go to the children's house for dinner or stay for two days." Third, have a good attitude. "Turn New Year's money or send red envelopes on WeChat, and they reply with thank you. I'm satisfied."
If people need to study for life, the old man named "The Daily Life of the Sunset Beautiful Brocade Horse" must be a "Three Good Students". People are walking in the garden, but their homes are singing and dancing, and they are in harmony and harmony.
Confucius said that a gentleman has three precepts: when he is young, his blood and energy are not fixed, and he is in color; when he is strong, his blood and energy are strong, and he is in fighting; when he is old, his blood and energy are in decline, and he is in gain. When getting along with children, the key is to "be careful and gain".
: The reason for the gain is to avoid the “three gains”. The gain of one precept belonging. If you think that your children are born from me, you must be my control and listen to me. Nowadays, society is an era of renewing ideas and diversifying ideas. It is born in you, but the thoughts are absolutely not belonging to you. If you want to control your children's thoughts, it is a big mistake. The second precautions for the gain of gratitude. If you think that you have made great contributions to your children, your children should be grateful. In fact, whether you are grateful or not is obvious. If your child is not grateful, what you do is worthy of being grateful. Don’t be too concerned about these nothingness. The rewards of the Three Precepts. Giving your children is both voluntary and responsibility, and raising children is just your responsibility. A hero does not ask for source, and dedication does not seek reward. This is heroism.
In short, nowadays, getting along with children is definitely a big deal. Whenever there is a problem, look for the reasons from yourself. The country should "govern the country according to law" and the family should "govern the family with 'methods'". It is better to think of more ways than to get angry!
The practice of this netizen who "the daily life of the setting sun" is really worth referring to!
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The relationship between me and my two daughters and son-in-law is like this.
Author: Setting Yang Jingjinma's daily life
Usually, he doesn't have much contact with him. He lives his life and I live my life. As the saying goes, the water splashed by a married daughter, my home is the home of two daughters, but my daughter's home is not my home, and I cannot live as my own home.
Usually, you always contact your two daughters when you have something to do, and rarely call your son-in-law. When there are some things to do at home, you will never bother the children if you can do things you can. If you spend money, don’t look for the children if you can solve things you can, because they all have classes to go to and have their own small family to live. Less energies will be less important to pay attention to them.
Transfer New Year’s money to grandchildren or send red envelopes on WeChat during the New Year’s Day, and they reply to thank you. I was satisfied.
When I went to the children's house for dinner or stayed for two days, I didn't go empty-handed, but wanted to get some local specialties or daily necessities, which is also called ritual exchanges.
My wife and I have a retirement pension of more than 7,000 yuan. We are enough to spend, so we don’t have to pay for our lives with two daughters. It's best to live your own life. In this way, there is no need to look at their faces and flatter them.
In short, as an elderly person, you must live with dignity. Walk cleanly and neatly, do not cause annoyance, and do not drag your children down.
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