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The marriage event of children is the most concerned and concerned by parents.
Whether you are marrying a daughter-in-law or marrying a daughter, you naturally hope to find the right family. The right thing here is not to refer to how good the other party has economic conditions, but to emphasize that they are in harmony with their own family and have a common language. Only when all aspects are well-matched can they be in the same position.
Otherwise, one side is too arrogant and the other side is too humble. No matter how you get along, you will never have a good ending.
But one thing to remember is that no matter who you are in-laws with, you cannot overestimate human nature. You must learn to be more careful in everything. Only in this way can you not make your children's marriage full of uncertainty because you are too stupid and simple.
A truly powerful parent will ask for three things from his future in-laws before his children get married. This is really not simple.
1: They need to have a clear attitude towards money so that their children will not be bullied after marriage
Some families have vague, split, and even contradictory attitudes towards money.
They never can do what they promised, but they did a lot of effort on the surface, which makes you feel very down-to-earth and at ease, but in fact, he is really just talking and has no action. People like
are not worthy of marriage if they are not honest.
For example, there is such a family around me who promised to give the other party a good gift before getting married, but it was delayed in cashing out.
It turned out that it was because they heard that their in-laws would return the bride price to their daughter in the future and let their daughter take it back. So they felt that if the money was still own, there would be no need to go through the process, so they would not be able to change their minds.
But these are two completely different things. People ask their daughter to take it back is a heart and a love, but if you don’t give it directly, it means there is a problem with your attitude. If you don’t even talk about this principle, it will be enough to show your character and family style.
Therefore, in order not to let children be bullied in the future, parents should carefully observe the attitude of their in-laws towards money in the future, which is very important.
2: They need a good family style and family atmosphere, which is an important source of happiness
Family style is not achieved overnight, but is passed down from generation to generation. Only families with a good family style can raise children with truly tutoring and literate nature.
So from daily interactions, you can feel what kind of parents and family the other person has.
If a family has a bad family tradition and the family atmosphere is tense, then no matter how you bother to manage it, it will be very sad to feel happy, because whether the family is prosperous is closely related to every family member.
If you are uneven with each other and always calculate each other, then it is almost inevitable to decline. And you don’t need to go to this muddy water, don’t marry such a family.
3: To have their good character and correct views, this is the foundation of dealing with people and guaranteeing them.
Good character and correct views are the prerequisites for every good interpersonal relationship. Whether it is to be a family member, a friend, a lover, etc., you must pay special attention to this.
Some families have problems with their character and their values are also very distorted. For example, they prefer boys over girls, and they think that their daughter has the obligation to help their brother or raise their younger brother; for example, morally kidnapped , and they do not distinguish between right and wrong. If they think others are good, they should give themselves a hand. If they don’t, they will be morally corrupt and have no conscience...
These are all bad character and their values are not correct.
If you become a relative of such a person, you will have countless troubles in the future. They are arrogant and unreasonable, have a low level of thought and a small pattern.
It can be said that even basic communication is a problem, so don’t expect them to stand on the same level as you and solve the problem equally and rationally.
For parents, the marriage of their children is a major event for the whole family and must not be taken lightly.
Compared to caring about whether the in-laws will be rich in the future, visionary parents care more about the three points mentioned above, because this is the guarantee for the prosperity of a family.
Only when you have a clear attitude towards money and have a good family tradition and character can you get along better, be reasonable in everything, treat your children well, and make them live a happy life.
And this is what parents really want and care about.
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