Do you know what "PUA" is?
pua has an alias called "Catch up artists".
Some men finally achieve their goals through systematic learning, picking up, pursuing, and manipulating girls.
There are countless cases about pua on the Internet. Behind each case is a girl who is emotionally manipulated and hurt by the other party.
If in an intimate relationship, the following patterns of boys getting along with you are shown, it means that he is trying to manipulate you instead of loving you.
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induced you to perform "compliance test"
What is compliance test?
Simply put, it is:
Boy constantly tests your bottom line until you are introduced into the cage he sets, and then traps you.
The common patterns are:
Primary mode:
When a girl asks a boy to do something for him, the boy will constantly emphasize "conditions".
"If you want me to help you, you can say a few nice words to me first, and I will consider whether to help you."
Intermediate mode:
Under the guise of love, you ask you to do something for him.
If a girl refuses, the boy will say:
"You don't love me anymore. Look at how other people's girlfriends do it, and then look at you. You are not a qualified girlfriend."
Under self-esteem and guilt, girls often go against their wishes to help the boy fulfill this requirement.
Advanced mode:
Constantly belittles you, attacks you, and reverses right and wrong.
For example:
When you squeeze toothpaste, you are used to squeezing from the bottom to the top; the boy just said that you are wrong, this habit is not good, and you are asked to change and do it according to his habit.
He always imposes his thoughts and habits on you, and must ask you to live according to his wishes.
If you refuse, boys will be angry, irritable, and alienate you.
Generally speaking, girls who lose their minds are easily trapped in the trap of "obedience test" set by boys. Boys like
often instill some concepts of wrong views into girls and ask them to accept them.
When he has an ambiguous relationship with other girls, he will not admit his mistakes, but will question the girls:
"I do this not to not love you, but to show that I am very charming; the man you like is so attractive, you should be proud of it."
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intermittently strengthening you
What does it mean?
can also be understood as "playing hard to get", always deliberately alienating you.
When you approach him, he suddenly began to neglect you;
When you are in a low mood, he is enthusiastic again.
slap it and give it a sweet date . This is their usual trick.
The purpose of boys doing this is to mobilize girls' emotions and make them fluctuate with him.
The greater the emotional fluctuation, the deeper the girl will depend on boys; in the end, the boy suddenly leaves, and girls will easily lose their dignity and try to keep boys pitifully.
and do this, just the right thing to do.
pua Your boy is also best at doing this kind of thing.
What does normal love look like?
3 If you never forget it, there will be a response; if you take the initiative, he will respond in time; if you give, he will give you the same reward.
can be found in the minds of this type of boys, they have planned to tame you into a "pet" from the very beginning.
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33constantly picking, always dissatisfied with you
pua's last step is to belittle and slam your self-confidence.
still remember the sensational "Bao Li incident"?
She was constantly pua by her boyfriend Mulinhan , and eventually she was in a dead end.
How does Mou Linhan pua Bao Li?
He often says to Bao Li: "I love you, but you are not clean."
"You are not a virgin, you don't love yourself, a girl like you is not worthy of respect."
Is it scary?
scumbags are best at this. They break through your bottom line bit by bit, constantly test your principles, and ultimately destroy your self-confidence.
If you are a girl with insufficient willpower and lack confidence, you will often fall into his trap and be led by him.
You love beauty and you like to wear beautiful clothes. He will say:
"I don't allow you to wear this kind of clothes. Girls should love themselves. If you wear this way, you don't love yourself."
You occasionally chat with friends of the opposite sex, and he will say:
"You do this, which is an act of disrespect for your feelings. I am so disappointed with you. I didn't expect you to be such a person."
If a person only belittles you occasionally, it will not have any impact on you;
But if the lover who is with you day and night is belittled, hits you, and mocks you everywhere, what will you become?
What awaits you is that your confidence is shattered and becomes a pleasing personality.
is like a child being constantly belittled and hit by his parents. Over time, he loses confidence.
becomes timid, silent, has no opinion, and dare not express himself.
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33333333333How should girls do when they meet your boy?
Girls only need to do one thing: stay away from them.
Don’t think about changing him, don’t think about fighting against such boys, and don’t think about you being able to make boys change their behavior with love.
Because they do not respect girls in their hearts, they just treat girls as "items". When you like
, you should take it as your own; when you don't like
, you should hurt and discard it at will.
You reason with him, but he doesn't get into it;
You talk to him about feelings, but he tries to manipulate you;
You want to move him, but he still thinks you don't pay enough.
You said, how should you love him?
Good love must be based on mutual respect and mutual contribution.
If a person disrespects you, even if he says he loves you, it is temporary.
Respect others is a manifestation of a person's upbringing.
Writer Yishu wrote this sentence in " Round Dance ":
" Only the most obscene men will talk about the right and wrong of women."
If he can't even give you the most basic respect, why do you say he loves you?
Today's topic:
Have you ever experienced emotional pua?
(the article is pictured from the Internet)
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