In the variety show "Sisters Waves", it attracted the attention of a large number of viewers. From the first episode, these sisters have made a lot of money on the topic.
These sisters compete for beauty on the same stage. Some people are still charming in their 50s and boldly challenge those difficult movements. Some people even in their thirties still look ordinary.
They retreated to the front line and gradually faded out of the screen. When they appeared again, many people couldn't help but sigh: Why can the gap between women be so big!
How did the gap between women and women be opened step by step? Perhaps the barrel effect is the best proof.
Thinking caused by the barrel effect
How much water can a bucket hold does not depend on the longest board, but on the shortest board. The barrel effect is also called the shortboard effect by us. Whether it is an organization or a person, it is the shortboard that really determines your comprehensive strength.
Naying said in this program: "I" don't want to challenge them, I'm challenging "self".
Only when we can recognize our shortcomings and dare to break the difficulties that once scared us can we complete the true transformation, and this is the mystery of women's Nirvana and Rebirth.
However, not everyone can know what their shortcomings are, and not everyone can humbly accept others’ accusations against them.
Joey Yung said in the show, "If you don't have a "sense of crisis", you will be "lazy."
When you hear too much praise, or you have been living in a comfortable circle, you will forget the existence of a sense of crisis around you. These are the main factors that keep women away.
Those hidden shortcomings are the most deadly
In the TV series " My First Half of Life ", Luo Zijun lives happily in marriage and lives a rich wife safely. In his opinion, her husband Chen Junsheng loves her and has nothing to worry about, and he can completely live his life like this.
Life like a canary makes her look more comfortable than many women around her, and this has become Luo Zijun's fatal weakness after marriage.
has long been dependent on her husband Chen Junsheng, which has led to Luo Zijun losing her basic ability to make a living in the short term. In the current environment, she is more like a frog in warm water, unknowingly exhausting her value.
When Chen Junsheng changed his mind and filed for divorce with Luo Zijun, Luo Zijun felt that his life was over. Without the help of his good friend, Luo Zijun might find it difficult to get out of this painful process.
If Luo Zijun could use her current material foundation to improve herself after marriage, it might be another result.
There will be more or less shortcomings in each of us, but due to the existence of some illusions, we will blind our eyes, or temporarily let us choose to hide the shortcomings of .
But that doesn’t mean it does not exist. Once you face an emergency, these shortcomings will make you feel unhappy.
Smart women will truly realize that they are imperfect, so they will work hard to fill their shortcomings in life.
Only days without a sense of crisis are scary
In my junior year, a classmate suddenly sent me a message that she was going to get married one night in the summer. I was a little shocked when I heard it.
At the age of studying, everyone is studying hard, but she is about to enter the marriage life early.
She talked to me a lot that day. She said she had found the love in her life. She said that the man loved her very much. She wanted to marry him and give birth to him. When she said this, a hint of satisfaction and joy appeared in her eyes.
This man is 4 years older than her and has worked before she graduated from high school. For him, finding someone to get married early may be a good choice, but for this classmate, the cost-effectiveness of this marriage is not high.
The woman has no job, and the man’s job is not enough to survive in this first-tier city, so the two of them live with their parents-in-law when they get married.
At that time, many of us thought this sounded absurd and advised her to calm down and not be blinded by love, but no one could stop her.
Two years later, some people graduated from college and were rushing to find a job in , and some people chose to study abroad, or entered graduate school and started another dream. When she sent me a message, she was already married.
I remember one time when I went home during the Chinese New Year, I heard some friends around me talk about her. After marriage, the conflict between her and her ex-husband became deeper and deeper.
In the past two years of marriage, she had a third childbirth for the other party, but the man disliked her for being lazy and unreasonable. She filed for divorce with her when she was two months pregnant.
The two people slandered each other after the divorce, and the former couple has now become enemies.
People have no future intentions, they must have immediate worries. Some people always want to seek strength from others to gain a better life, but they ignore self-improvement.
At the age when it should have worked hard, some people choose comfort too early, and their own shortcomings have become irreparable ravines.
Women should have their own principles and bottom line at any time. No matter whether you are living well or not, they should also have a sense of crisis. Relying on their own efforts, they will constantly recharge themselves. When you really sit with other friends, there will be no sense of gap.
Reference materials: "Personal Psychology", "Partial Psychology"
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