text | Zhu Sinyong
I believe many people like to watch the scene of "the original wife beat San'er", and they feel that it's too satisfying. But I generally do not recommend this kind of behavior. It is not that I protect Saner and the man, but that this kind of practice is often thankless.
Why? Because if you want to save your marriage, this practice will make the man feel that San'er is at a disadvantage. When he protects San'er, it will cause secondary trauma to his wife.
When a man was maintaining his third child, he had the following psychology:
First, he decided to take his wife, thinking that his wife was under his control.
The man believes that no matter how he does, his wife will not dare to divorce, nor will he divorce.
In this confident mental state, he is very confident and is not afraid of his wife leaving him. He has no awe from the bottom of his heart, so he dares to protect San'er.
If he subconsciously thinks that marriage is unstable, he will definitely protect his marriage first and take care of his wife's emotions first.
Second, comfort San'er, hoping to continue to maintain this relationship.
A man has an extramarital affair. When facing two women, he suppresses and coaxes, and deals with them to maintain a balance and stability.
When the wife beats San'er, the relationship is unbalanced, and the man will jump out to protect San'er. This is a comfort to her, and the purpose is to coax her and prevent her from running away.
Let her see: Look, I am on the united front with you, and I will protect you more. It also let San'er see: Look, I didn't lie to you, my family is just a tigress. She and I really have no feelings for each other and will divorce sooner or later.
In fact, after the farce, the man should go home and continue to be with his wife, and continue to use the method of coaxing and suppressing both sides to maintain the three. The marriage is still not divorced, so San'er continues to waste her youth.
Third, fight back to my wife: the more you make trouble, the more I protect San'er.
He wants to suppress his wife through this method. This kind of protection for Saner in public will make his wife lose her strength and make his wife sad. The weaker his wife is, the more helpful the man will enjoy the tripod.
Fourth, is a man swaying in divorce?
It is possible that men have transferred and protected their property before, and the children are not burdened. They think that the marriage is not worth a lot and the divorce cost is not high. Even the relationship, satisfaction, development, etc. between husband and wife were average before the extramarital affair. Both parties also considered divorce when there was no extramarital affair.
After San'er appeared, marriage is inseparable for men. If your wife doesn't make trouble, she will enjoy three people and two women will please him.
If your wife makes a big fuss, you can also kill the marriage. This situation is also true, and it is relatively rare. The judgment should be made based on the quality of the marriage when the couple has no extramarital affair.
, no matter which one it is, you can see that as long as your wife beats San'er, it is a bad idea. This approach will not allow you to seize the initiative, but will make you very passive.
For San'er, what we need to do is to attack the heart, not to compete for the strength value, but to deal with extramarital affairs, you must think rationally and remove emotional thinking.
San'er has her pain and needs, and her husband has his little plan and routine for San'er.
The wife can first meet with San'er, either humble or arrogant. Recognize and amplify Saner's feelings for her husband, expose her husband's true face, expose her husband's routines and lies, so that Saner can see the true situation of her marriage and the true situation of her extramarital affair.
let San'er see her efforts and sacrifices, and stimulates San'er to jump out to find her husband to say something, take action, make promises, and get results. The more San'er makes the more troublesome, the less her husband benefits from extramarital affair. The more San'er sees the real face of a man, the easier it is to disintegrate an extramarital affair.
wonderful recommendation:
Make three of the old men, what will these women miss?
A man cheated on his deathbed and refused to divorce. What was he thinking in private?
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