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The so-called disaster comes from the mouth. A person who cannot control his mouth and always speaks without any restraint will often inadvertently hurt many people and destroy many relationships.
People who know you may know what kind of person you are and will not easily care about you, but they will still be annoyed over time; people who don’t know you will block you from your heart at the first time and are unwilling to contact and date you at all.
So in interpersonal communication, we must know how to be cautious in our words and actions.
Especially in front of friends, some words can never be said, and once you say it, your relationship may become worse.
1: Don’t say that you have insulted your personality and dignity. This is your cultivation.
Friends get along with each other. The better the relationship, the less you know how to pay attention to the degree and boundaries. You always feel that you are too familiar with each other and don’t have to be so reserved and polite in everything.
But in fact, the better the relationship, the easier it is to cross the boundaries. Only when you know how to restrain your words and deeds can you avoid ruining a relationship because of low emotional intelligence.
No matter how good a relationship is with a person, he cannot insult his dignity and personality, and he must not look down on him. Once you do this, it not only means that you have extremely poor cultivation, but also means that you have not respected him from the bottom of your heart and placed him on the same position as you.
So such a relationship is obviously unbalanced and there is no need to continue to maintain it.
2: Don’t say anything wrong with his parents. This is your most basic respect for him.
Some people always speak in front of their friends. When others complain about their family casually, they will quickly follow it up, and the words they say are ugly and excessive.
Do you think you are venting your anger for your friends? Actually, it's not. You just spread salt on his wound. He complained that his family was just a momentary emotion, and if you complained, it was because you had no quality.
Remember, never say in front of friends what his family is not, especially his parents.
He can say, but you can't. Your identities are different and your positions are different. If you say something you shouldn't say, it will not only make you look low in EQ, but it will also make you look bad-minded and have poor character.
It is not sure whether he is willing to make friends with you.
3: Don’t say anything that strikes or denies him. Know how to understand and support
No matter how good the relationship is and how deep the relationship is, you should not speak unscrupulously and without any restraint when speaking. Because you never know what kind of harm you say inadvertently will cause to others.
It’s not that others are too sensitive or cautious, but that they really value you, so they will pay special attention to what you say.
When a friend decides to do something, even if you think it is unreliable, don’t suppress him as soon as possible, but help him analyze it rationally and comprehensively and make substantive suggestions.
As for whether he wants to listen, that is his business. As a friend, you don’t have to help him make decisions, he has his own life.
Adults should eventually understand mutual respect and give understanding and support as friends. Don’t try to interfere or control each other, this is beyond the boundary.
4: Don’t say that you have sad feelings for each other, no relationship can withstand endless consumption
We all like interpersonal relationships where we are not tired of getting along with each other. The so-called not tired of getting along with each other is to be able to be the real self easily and freely in front of each other without any concerns.
You should know that no matter what you look like, the other party will not look down on you, nor will they say things that hurt each other because they disagree with you.
After all, gentlemen are harmonious but different, villains are the same but not harmonious.
Friends who are truly able to get along must respect each other. Even if you know that there are many different things in your life, they will not easily deny you, suppress you, or say some sad words, because they care about you and are afraid of losing you.
No relationship can withstand endless consumption. Not to mention hurting the relationship, the relationship will be more stable and firmer.
There is no interpersonal relationship and you can reach the end without having to manage it carefully. So no matter how good your relationship is with someone, you must pay attention to some methods and skills when getting along. This is not scheming, but high emotional intelligence, and a kindness that knows how to think about others.
or above four words, don’t tell your friends anyway. If you say it, your relationship may change subtly. If you really care about him, it's better not to say what you shouldn't say.
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