The Tao Te Ching says: "Those who know others are wise, and those who know themselves are wise."
The greatest cleverness of a person is to recognize himself, know who he is, and know where he is.
Only when you know who you are can you not forget yourself and lose your direction;
Only when you know where you are, can you know what can and what can’t be done.
Many times, many troubles in life are mostly caused by not being able to correct oneself.
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Set yourself up and not proud of yourself
Chen Daoming said: "People who go up the mountain, don't look down on the people who go down the mountain, because others have been glorious, but you are still at the foot of the mountain.
People on the mountain, don't look down on the people who go down the mountain, because when the people at the foot of the mountain will climb up, you must be good."
In life, we will find that once some people succeed, they will look arrogant.
In their opinion, only by being "not rude" to others can one show one's own attitude of being arrogant.
As the saying goes, "A bottle doesn't sound, half a bottle sways."
The more capable a person is, the more humble he will be, because he has seen a broader world and knows his own insignificance;
Only "a frog in the well" can he be "arrogant".
A person cannot achieve his goal by insulting others. Why
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Because of insulting others, it reflects its low quality. How can we elevate ourselves?
The so-called "If virtue is not compatible with one's position, there will be disaster."
does not have deep virtue but occupies a high position. The final result can only harm others and yourself.
Only by being above people, only by becoming more humble, stricter and stricter in self-discipline, and cultivating virtue can we become more diligent and move forward steadily.
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Touch yourself, don't go beyond the rules
"Zengguang Xianwen" says: "Meeting is like a first acquaintance, and you will never feel resentful when you are old."
Some people like to joke about the other person's shortcomings once they get close to each other.
If the other party is not happy, they will accuse the other party: not generous enough and can’t make jokes.
Confucius said: "Do not do to others what you do not want others to do to you."
Only by putting yourself in the shoes of others can you make the relationship lasting and harmonious.
If you just stand on your own standpoint and take it for granted that others are "stingy", but don't reflect on your own mistakes, it will only gradually alienate the originally intimate relationship.
Someone said, "No matter how close you and I are, we will not become."
agrees deeply.
Some people, believing that they have close relationships with each other, make various requests wantonly.
If the other party does not agree, they will complain that the other party is unkind and selfish.
No matter how close the relationship between people is, they cannot expect or demand each other too much.
High expectations often only bring disappointment; unrealistic demands on the other party but not considering the other party's difficulties will only cause the other party to stay away from it.
As the saying goes, "Distance produces beauty."
No matter how close the relationship is, you must keep a little distance and keep a little space. Only in this way can both parties feel comfortable and at ease.
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Correct yourself, don’t worry about other people’s affairs
" Maximuseness Joint " says: "Sit in meditation and think about your own life. Don’t talk about others’ mistakes in chatting."
Some people have not handled their own affairs yet, but they are always keen to talk about other people’s private affairs.
They talked about others in an awesome way, and as a result, they caused many unreasonable troubles to the parties involved.
Although words are invisible, sometimes they hurt people more deeply than swords.
A person’s moral virtue is his morality.
Knowing others does not judge others, and keeping a word from being aware of others is a kindness to others and accumulating blessings for oneself.
Perhaps the most disgusting sentence for many people is "I am for your own good."
Some people always like to control others under the banner of "for your own good" and deprive others of their right to choose.
If others resist, they will accuse the other party of being "unfair" with confidence.
Under the banner of "for your good", it is the most shameful act to infringe on other people's "rights".
Retraction of the "extended too long" hand is a respect for others' "autonomy", and at the same time, it can also avoid many unnecessary contradictions.
Keeping one's heart and not meddling in other people's business is the greatest consciousness of adults.
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Yang Jiang said: "No matter what level of life goes, there are people looking up to you at the bottom, and there are people looking down on you on the top. You look up and feel at ease. Only by looking straight can you see your true self."
Only by putting your position in the right place, but estimating yourself high, and not underestimating yourself can you give full play to your subjective initiative and achieve your life goals faster.
"Life passes by, and it's just a sudden change."
Only by living every day with fulfillment and wonderful life can you live up to the years and yourself.
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