not only does not recognize her, but also blindly squeezes Su Min's value. After a long time, Su Min couldn't bear it anymore and chose to save money to travel by car. She would rather be separated from her husband than continue to be together.
Therefore, she got the envy of many middle-aged women because they also lived a life similar to Su Min. In their lives, the one who hurts them the most is not outsiders, but their partners.
Some people are even cheated by their partners and have lost both their lives and money.
So, middle-aged couples, remember not to overestimate the person next to you, you have to be careful about "some things".
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In love, don’t think that the other party will never change your mind
Why do many middle-aged couples are not happy even though they do not divorce? This is not because they have been together for a long time and have no sense of freshness, nor because both parties have different spirits and careers are not synchronized.
In fact, it is normal for two people to live together for a long time without love. In addition, when they were young, they finished all the topics they should talk about. Now they naturally have nothing to say and are unwilling to communicate with each other.
But even so, many women always firmly believe that the other party will not betray them no matter what. Moreover, now that he is so old and has been together for half his life, the other party cannot betray them.
But the development of the situation often slapped them in the face. This is true for Aunt Li in
. Aunt Li and her husband have lived together for thirty years. Aunt Li is still a tough temper and her husband is very tolerant of her. Therefore, during the decades of marriage, Aunt Li never worried much.
Not only that, she also always tells others in the community that her husband feels sorry for her and cares more about her. Therefore, many people envy Aunt Li for having such a good husband.
But unexpectedly, some time ago, Aunt Li found out that her husband had betrayed her for not a few months, but a few years.
Aunt Li collapsed, and her relationship with her husband for many years was actually ruined like this. What she couldn't accept most was that her husband treated her exactly the same as before, but in fact, her husband had betrayed her long ago.
Unconscious Aunt Li was so angry that she suffered from hypertension and was sent to the hospital by the child.
So, no matter how long you live with your partner, don’t trust each other too much, especially now that the betrayal rate is getting higher and higher, so many so-called good men have already had other women behind their partners.
Too many women have learned from the past, so in order to avoid harm, you must always be careful. Maybe the other party will betray you at any time, and everyone around you knows that only you are kept in the dark.
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In terms of property, I have to leave a way out for myself
My mother told me about the experiences of the people around me two years ago, which is sad.
The other party is my mother's high school classmate. After graduation, that classmate found a suitable man to get married and have children, and the man is also very capable and has a successful career.
In the eyes of outsiders, she found a good man who not only made a lot of money, but also took care of her family.
But in fact, the other party had long been betrayed and lived with an extramarital woman. Not only that, the man also conspired with the woman to transfer the couple's joint property to the woman's name.
After all the money was taken away, the man decisively divorced her.
In the end, she got nothing, and it was fine if she was betrayed emotionally, but she was financially left. Nowadays, she can only rent a house and live alone, without any savings.
Women must know how many assets they have in their homes and must have the financial power. Only in this way can you know everything in the family well, and you can also notice it if the other party does something.
Otherwise, you don’t know how much money you have at home, and you don’t know what the other party did. You will only react until you are abandoned and he takes all the money away. Even if you regret it again and want to get the money back, it will be too late.
can only prepare for the future. Even when the relationship is at its best, you should check the deposit and your husband’s salary card. Don’t think it’s troublesome, otherwise you will only regret it for life.
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In life, don’t be mentally controlled
Su Min is mentally controlled all year round. After she got married with her husband, she took care of all the work at home, took care of the children, cleaned housework, and cooked for her husband.
On the other hand, my husband does nothing every day and never washes clothes and cleanses the kitchen, but he always accuses Su Min of thinking that Su Min doesn't do well enough, and that's not good enough.
At the beginning, Su Min also tried her best to change and find ways to do better to gain recognition from her husband, but her husband still did.
Now, Su Min has the ability to live independently and has bought RV , but as soon as she got home, her husband still ruthlessly accused Su Min.
In fact, many times, when people around you say you are not good, it may not be your bad, it may be the other party’s problem.
Especially when people reach middle age, without the emotional filter, they will deliberately pick on the bones in the eggs. It seems that all the problems in the family are caused by you alone.
If you have such a partner around you, don’t be brainwashed by him, because those women who have been successfully brainwashed will become quite inferior. He also believes that without a man, he cannot be independent at all, and he cannot survive outside.
Therefore, many women are obviously very capable, but under the denial of men, they can only endure all grievances and rely on men. I was living more and more painful in this marriage, but I was reluctant to propose separation from the man.
That's it, they maintained this marriage until middle age.
people have long lost their love in middle age. It is precisely because of this that men will unscrupulously hurt the people they are closest to, divorce when they say divorce, and abandon when they say they say they want to abandon.
It is precisely because there are too many such cases in the past that women should be reserved and focus on themselves. This is the most appropriate way to achieve long-term happiness.
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