text丨The West Chamber of affection
Time has not been long, I hope you will meet in my words!
Want to achieve a relationship, do you think it’s enough to rely on love? No, that's not enough.
In a love contest and game, both men and women will have their own little thoughts. If a woman wants to win, she must learn to improve a man's sense of happiness in her emotions and reduce her level of effort.
Because women do too much will make men feel no presence. Furthermore, he will regard you as a "nanny" and always want to use you with a lofty attitude rather than spoil you.
Maybe you don’t know how to reduce your desire to give now, so I hope that after reading this real case, you can understand a true meaning: get along with men, smart women are very lazy.
Xu Zhi (pseudonym) is a delicate "lazy" woman. She did not give up on her investment in herself, whether she was single or after falling in love.
To outsiders, she may be a little lazy because she is not like other women, she will do this and that to make men happy and learn this and that.
However, her boyfriend loves her very much and gives her a lot of salary to Xu Zhihua every month, and she can't bear to do anything hard.
Xu Zhi said that she and her boyfriend were living a happy life, so why should she treat herself as a nanny?
She never serves her boyfriend on weekdays, but her boyfriend loves her very much, often takes the initiative to cook for her, and learns baking for her.
In contrast, Xu Zhi's cousin always works diligently at home and helps her husband manage her family in an orderly manner. In order to save money for her husband, she never put on makeup or buys jewelry or clothes.
What’s ridiculous is that my cousin did not make her husband feel distressed. Instead, it made her husband become more and more harsh on her and completely treat her as a family nanny.
Xu Zhi is very smart. She doesn't want to be a miserable woman like her cousin, so when she was in love, she did not become "difficult" and did not take on the internal affairs between the two.
In her opinion, she can love a man very much, but she cannot spoil him as a young master who does not do any housework.
After all, life is your own. Even if two people get married, the family will be together. The woman should not bear it alone.
But it is just that she is a lazy woman who lives the most casual life in love and wins the most love and respect.
So, do you understand now? Learning these laziness in love will make men feel more sorry for you and stop taking detours.
Don’t take care of housework, and don’t cook for men every day
Many women have this idea: "If you want to grasp a man’s heart, you must first grasp his stomach."
Indeed, if you do this, you will finally grasp the man’s heart, but this also makes him accustomed to being served by you and always want you to cook for him.
A smart woman knows how to let men cook for her and knows how to manage life with men. She will not complete all the housework, but will continue to cultivate a man's sense of responsibility.
You should know that what really keeps men is not how good you do housework and how good you can cook. After all, the man is looking for a partner, not a nanny.
What really makes men obsessed and afraid of losing is the charm of women themselves. If you live more and more refined and beautifully, men will love you more and more.
And stupid women always want men to save money. They work frequently at home to speed up their aging, and men will naturally become bored.
is lazy in caring for men, don’t be too frequent
Men cannot be spoiled, but many women ignore this.
When in love, most women will spoil their boyfriends as their "sons", frequently care about their emotional changes, and even compromise to make the other party happy.
In fact, if you do this, you can't make a man deeply love and feel sorry for him. Instead, he will feel that everything is right and gradually become macho.
So when you are in love, there is no need to pay attention to the man's emotions frequently. Even if you know he is angry, don't come forward and ask nervously, but let the man digest it himself.
The more you don’t care, the more nervous the man will feel that his position in your heart is still unstable.
Of course, you should not be completely indifferent. Occasionally give men a word of care or two. After tasting your indifference, men will cherish your tenderness even more.
is lazy to check men's posts, and leave more energy to themselves
Women with high emotional intelligence rarely take the initiative to check men's mobile phones and coats. They have confidence in love and know how to leave enough respect for each other.
However, most women in reality like to suspect men's various behaviors, and some women even require men to take the initiative to hand over their mobile phones for inspection after they come home from get off work every day.
You think that your strict control will make men afraid to act rashly, but you don’t know that this will arouse men’s rebellious mentality and become tired of you.
So, try not to check men's personal belongings frequently. If you keep confident in men, he will not do anything randomly.
Furthermore, if you are lazy with him, you can leave more time to be diligent with yourself. In this way, you not only give him trust and space, but also enhance your personal charm. Why not do it?
Conclusion:
Hard work is indeed a virtue, but when you are in love, a woman who is too diligent will gradually make men forget to care.
Even after getting used to your active care, men will become greedy and start to cry and drink at you.
High-quality laziness is nourishing, while low-quality laziness can only be called consumption.
So from now on, learn to be a delicate lazy woman. You can not worry too much about men, but focus more on yourself and show your charm to men.
Please believe that when a man faces you like this, he will not be able to help but pamper you more, he will not be willing to work hard, and he will be even more afraid that you will leave.
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