This reminds me of a friend who chatted with me before. She had a relative. The couple had been together for more than 20 years, but her husband not only betrayed many times after marriage, but also loved to drink and was always drunk.
When you are drunk, you will beat your wife, and sometimes you will smash the things at home.
But even so, the wife tolerated her husband all year round, just not divorce. The reason for not getting divorced is that the husband has a good job and a good salary, which can support her and her children's living expenses.
My friend and I sighed, but I didn’t expect that the reason why a woman cannot live without a “sloppy” man is just because of the economy. Therefore, every time we see those women who dare to leave the "scared" man, we will express our admiration and admiration.
For example, Ma Yili After seeing Articles betrayal, he finally chose to divorce; Huang Yi After realizing the true face of his ex-husband, he also resolutely chose to divorce. Later, his ex-husband was sent to prison for committing an incident, and Huang Yi's career began to improve.
In life, we see too many "scared" men, including betrayal, family violence, and mental control, all of which bring deep harm to women. Even if a woman divorced later, she could not get out of the shadow.
And those women with weak personalities endured living with each other for most of their lives without getting the happiness they wanted.
It is precisely because of this that society advocates that women must be independent. Only when they are economically and spiritually independent can they successfully "escape" when they meet a "scared" man.
Before accuse of a "sloppy" man, we need to have a deep chat and find that a man is "sloppy" but is unable to get rid of it. What should a woman do?
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Is it really difficult to leave the "scared" man?
In the eyes of the previous generation, not only men, but even women themselves think so. They should marry when they are old, and they should sacrifice themselves after marriage to take care of their husbands and children.
This leads to most women who think that their responsibilities should be at home, not in society.
Unlike many women nowadays, they will no longer confine themselves to their homes, and they will not think that getting married and having children is something they must do in life. They will spend more time on their careers. Even if a woman like
later gets married, she has enough voice in her marriage. Some women even have a greater voice than men.
On the contrary, women of the previous generation put too much energy at home and did not focus on their careers, so they generally earn less than men.
Even if their minds are clearer than men and their abilities are stronger than men, they are not able to gain corresponding voice in the family because they don’t earn more than the other party.
Even if they tell men their feelings and point out men’s mistakes, many men will not listen to them.
Plus, they are either mentally or financially dependent on each other, so they are repeatedly tolerant of men's mistakes.
This is why the older generation is saying, "If you marry the wrong person, your life will be over."
In their opinion, if you really marry the wrong man, it is not easy to divorce, you can only endure the grievance and live with the other party. No matter how many mistakes the other party makes, they will not be separated from the man.
After all, no matter how bad the other party is, he is also aware of himself. If he gets old in the future, he can always help him.
Because of these comprehensive factors, many women know that the other party is not a good person and often hurt themselves, they are unwilling to divorce.
Even if the other party betrayed countless times, they could not file for divorce from the other party because of this kind of dependence.
At the same time, they will also worry that if they really divorced the other party, they will not know anything, and will the days become worse, even worse than before.
Moreover, divorced women will be discriminated against in some aspects. They are unwilling to be treated with tinted glasses, so they are unwilling to get to this point.
There are also some timid women, fearing that men are stronger than themselves, and worrying that if they leave, they will be more terrible revenge from the other party.
, coupled with the frequent negative news now, it will only deepen their fear.
We cannot blame them because if we live in this situation ourselves, we may not know what to do.
So, those women who dare to divorce can be said to be much braver than most women.
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How did those women successfully get rid of the "scoundrel" men?
I have to say that the reason why some women are so brave is because of the Internet. Now that the Internet is becoming more and more developed, there are more and more articles that advocate that women live their own lives and stick to their true hearts.
However, everyone should understand the fact that everyone's original family, education, and the environment around them are different. Not every girl is educated correctly, and not every woman is so independent.
Just like some time ago, a divorce lawyer received a case.
There is a woman who is a full-time housewife. She has been married to her husband for three years and has children. But the woman accidentally discovered that her husband had betrayed her long ago. If a woman wants to get a divorce, she comes to a divorce lawyer for consultation.
Divorce lawyer told her: "Your current situation is that you can't divorce at all. You are not financially independent. If you divorce rashly, your children may not be awarded to you because you don't have the ability to raise your children."
"Don't divorce first, just as you don't know. While looking for a job, you collect evidence of your husband's betrayal. When your work is stable and the evidence is collected, you will get divorced."
So, those women who have successfully left the "scared" man will be deeply hurt by the other party a few times, and women will be hard-hearted. No matter how the other party apologizes and asks for peace, they will not look back.
On the one hand, they began to pay attention to their inner feelings. On the other hand, there is no lowering the bottom line, and there is no enduring it for love.
So, sometimes, the reason why a woman can suddenly be willing to leave suddenly may be a matter of a moment. At that moment, she suddenly woke up and felt that she could no longer be entangled with the "scared" man.
or a "slag" man violates the woman's bottom line. The woman can't stand it anymore and she will never look back.
I hope every woman can be the same as the latter. When seeing a "scared" man, run away quickly and don't think you can save him. You can't save anyone, but you will drag you into the abyss.
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