Thinking about the sweet times when I was together, the way he looked when he said he loved you seemed to be in front of him. Just blinked his eyes, he suddenly fell in love with someone else. You may not be able to understand when love began to change.

The most desperate thing in marriage is the betrayal of your partner.

Think about the sweet times when I was together. When he said he loved you, he seemed to be still in front of him. Just blinked his eyes, he suddenly fell in love with someone else. You may not be able to understand when love began to change.

However, love and marriage are so unpredictable. Whether you admit it or not, you must bravely accept the reality of "change".

I often encounter similar requests for help, The husband cheated on him, and his wife did not want to divorce. She tried every means to cut off contact with a third party and gave her a reassurance - as long as you break it and return to the family, I can leave it alone.

It is indeed effective for some men. All parties put pressure together. After weighing the pros and cons, they will go down and end this extramarital relationship. After returning to the family, they will still be a good husband and a good father.

However, there is an exception to the extramarital relationship. It is difficult for men to break it up, so women should not expect him to return to their family.

This kind of extramarital affair is very harsh. If you are unwilling to be betrayal and do not want to let go, in the end you will find that in the process of pulling, you are consuming yourself.

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A of my female readers Su Su has had such an experience. In her words, it is - There is no relationship or interest entanglement between us. He doesn't even care about the negative impact of extramarital affairs on him. And I found that he was sincere to the third party, and I knew that I could not keep this marriage.

When she found out that her husband cheated, Su Su was angry and desperate, and was more shocked. She never thought that her husband, who was usually honest, could tell her so frankly that he fell in love with someone else and would rather leave the house and divorce.

Susu and her husband met on a blind date. The reason for being together was very simple. Both parties were in the same condition and they were both at the age of marriage. It is better to follow the worldly footsteps to get married and have children. Love can be cultivated after marriage.

Susu has some expectations for this marriage. She and her husband are wandering outside. Although their salary is not low, they are not their own home and have no sense of belonging. Her biggest wish is that the couple will return to their hometown to settle down after working hard for a few years, even if they do some small business.

When they first got married, the two got along happily, with the same goals and similar values. The husband is very considerate of her and caring for her husband.

The second year after giving birth, Susu took the child back to his hometown to live for a while. The couple agreed that Susu went back to his hometown to settle down first, and her husband followed closely behind. But not long after Su Su went back, when she asked her husband when she would resign or check out, she stammered and didn't want to say anything.

During that time, Susu found something wrong with him, and did not think about it badly, thinking that he was just reluctant to leave the city where he had worked and lived for so long.

Until one day, her husband told her on the phone that she had fallen in love with someone else and didn't want to hide it from her and talk about the divorce.

Susu didn't believe it at first, and mobilized the elderly on both sides to persuade her husband to go home. After that, she took the child back to her husband alone, trying to tie the husband with her child.

The husband calmed down for a while, and looked at the child with apologies, and told her that she had broken up with the third party. Su Su felt that the battle to defend the marriage was successful.

Not long after, I found out that my husband secretly bought a new mobile phone, which was specifically used to contact a third party, and told the other party that he had returned to the family just to comfort her, and divorce was a matter of time.

Susu couldn't help it for a moment and sent it to the family group. Now the relatives knew about it and took turns calling her to persuade her husband to have a conscience and consider his wife and children.

The husband nodded and admitted his mistake in the face of his relative's questioning, but turned around but packed his luggage and moved away.

Although he took the initiative to return to his family after a while, he was found secretly contacting a third party in a few days. Su Su also made trouble, and her relatives and friends bothered her, and she used up all the methods, but it didn't work.

was so irritated for more than half a year, and finally agreed to divorce. Her husband left the house with nothing, and the child followed Su Su.

After the divorce, looking back at this marriage, Su Su regretted her stubborn pestering at the beginning. She said: "I focused all my energy on how to win back the other party. I made frequent mistakes at work and almost got fired. I became very haggard. Fortunately, I woke up later and convinced myself that it was not worth it. Then I thought it was open."

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In real life, there are many women like Pixun who choose to die with men because of betrayal.

Some of them have a "stop-to-kill" mentality, thinking that you don't let me live a good life, and I don't let you live a good life, we just waste it, to see who can waste it; some people don't believe in the "true love" in their husbands' mouths, and always feel that their husbands will lose their freshness, and they will definitely return to their family by then.

However, If this man is determined not to look back, is willing to give up everything for true love, and is not afraid of you crying, making trouble, or hanging yourself, not caring about your life or death, or even his reputation and social status, then don’t expect him to return.

Let’s not discuss what kind of “true love” he calls him. As long as he insists that he meets “true love”, you will have nothing to do.

Once a man has a true relationship with a woman outside of marriage, he will not be able to pull back ten cows. Even everyone advises him: it is the same if he marrys this person, and marriage is almost the same as anyone else. He wouldn't take such words to heart. Why is this happening to

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Maybe it's because they can chat, and he has unprecedented relaxation and comfort in front of that woman; maybe it's because the temptation of this relationship is very great, which makes him addicted to it and enjoy the other person's gentleness and consideration; maybe it's because the woman can give him a lot of things, so much that he would rather give up everything.

This kind of extramarital affair is very destructive to marriage, and if you don’t let go, you will only get bruised and bruised.

So, I would like to advise wives who have been betrayed, when you decide to fight to the end, please think carefully, can you afford it? Do you think it's worth it?

If the result is destined to be irreversible, then don’t redeem it. How can I pick up things from the garbage pile? Please pull yourself back to reality and become rational. You can plan for yourself from the following aspects:

First, straighten out the common property of the couple and fight for greater benefits for yourself

When a man does not love or nostalgia for you, he will definitely try his best to seek benefits for himself. There are many cases of breaking up the face for property disputes during divorce.

You think he is the party at fault and will share more of your property for the sake of past love, but you don’t know that if you don’t fight for it, you may only share very little property.

So, once you find that you have been betrayed and irreversible, please find a professional to fight for greater benefits for yourself.

Secondly, regarding the issue of child support, don’t be emotional

Don’t fight for custody of the child because of hating the other party’s betrayal, even if you know that the child is not the best solution.

If the child lives better with the other person and can obtain good educational resources and conditions, please leave a trace of decency for the child.

Fight for as much visiting rights as possible on visiting rights , which may be more beneficial to you.

Finally, don’t tear off the face if you can’t tear off the face

Parents’ divorce has a great impact on their children, and even if they don’t say it, they will feel uncomfortable.

Especially when parents break up, they will also face a dilemma, whether to go with their father or mother? It seems that everyone will suffer from it.

So, if parents can get along well, don’t break up.

In short, after being betrayed, please think carefully. If this man finds it difficult to break up with a woman outside of marriage, don’t expect him to return.

Today’s topic:

If you encounter betrayal, will you choose to forgive?

Emotional counselor Hua Ying: Focus on interpreting emotional issues in marriage and giving you comfort and warmth in the noisy world