After reading the book "Aptitude Self-Love", I want to give this book six stars, really! Five stars are not enough to express my love and appreciation for this book.
(I) Adler's psychology theory
All the time, Freud 's psychology has a profound impact on people. Everyone tries to explain their current behavior from the trauma of childhood and try to heal themselves.
However, Freud's determinism of the original family often makes people feel negative. We will blame all our behavior on the original family and ignore the importance of acquired efforts.
If, childhood trauma will affect a person's life, why do some people give up on themselves and become degenerate, while others work hard to achieve great achievements?
Adler's teleology explains this problem very well. The environment we were born is innate and cannot be changed, but in this environment, the choices we made ourselves determine our current .
For example, if you grow up in an unfortunate family, change your perspective on problems, abandon the idea of "because", and become "lucky", so what happens? Just like Shanying in the book, she was not injured by having an aggressive mother. Instead, she became more cherishing the family affection in her family, and worked harder and more motivated under the stimulation of her mother, and finally became a stronger and more confident self.
More precisely, according to the meaning we give experience, our life path has taken different directions, and the style of life has also changed thousands of times. Compared with the experience itself, we give experience more meaning and play a greater role.
Adler is the three major psychological giants that are as famous as Jung , Freud. Adler and Freud were both teachers and friends. He worked with Freud. Later, because he did not agree with Freud's theory, he became independent and created his own theory!
This is Adler's individual psychology school. His representative works include "Inferiority and Transcendence", "Research on Human Nature", and "Theory and Practice of Individual Psychology", but reading his original works inevitably makes him feel a little boring.
(II) Park Yizhen interprets
Park Yizhen is a master of management at Korea Goryeo University and Boling Green State University in the United States, and a doctorate in management at Korean Integrity Women's University . Because of her work relationship, she came into contact with Adler's psychology, which made her accept the past and understand herself more deeply. So, she studied in depth, obtained the qualification of an expert from the International Individual Psychology Society, and established the Korean Adler Co., Ltd.
Korean psychologist Park Yi-jin used very easy-to-understand language and 19 real cases that resonate with people. The book "Aptitude of Self-Love" not only interprets Adler's psychological theory well, but also has very strong practicality.
For example, when the author talks about self-acceptance, he explained the difference between " self-acceptance " and " self-acceptance ".
I definitely cannot see my own abilities and limitations clearly, and I unconditionally demand myself, believing that "I can do it" and "I am the best".
and self-acceptance is, if I only scored 60 points, and on the basis of calmly accepting 60 points, I will continue to work hard to get 100 points. This is the responsible attitude.
also like " optimistic " and " optimistic ". Optimism refers to the innate character or thinking tendency formed, while optimism refers to the acquired mentality of looking at things.
Starting from the reality in front of you and seeking a solution is the optimistic attitude. It is different from the optimism that only thinks about " ship to the bridgehead" but does nothing.
also has the difference between " inferiority complex " and " inferiority complex ".
life is not perfect, everyone has inferiority complex, "feeling that they have shortcomings", this is a very normal inferiority complex .
If this sense of inferiority deepens, it becomes an obstacle to daily life, is depressed, and uses it as an excuse for failure, and becomes a pathological disease, that is, the inferiority complex.
Higher self-esteem will make people realize their shortcomings. It is a positive attitude to develop themselves, while inferiority complex is to rationalize negative results.
The author's subtle interpretation of this human psychology in the book makes readers suddenly enlightened and feel enlightened!
Because of the deep connection between Korean social culture and Chinese social culture, the real cases in "Aptificial Self-Love" also give Chinese readers a very real and strong sense of immersion.
(III) End
Adler's Individual Psychology , let us recognize ourselves, accept ourselves, and no longer blindly pursue other people's recognition.
No longer pursues other people's identification, it does not mean that we must be isolated from the world. We only have the "courage to be hated" to better control our emotions, appropriately love ourselves, trust ourselves and others, integrate into society, and have a better life.
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