A young man from Shaanxi, who was 23 years old and eloped to Xinjiang with his first love. He returned to his hometown 30 years later and was rejected by his father. He told me: Yang Jianping compiled: Mr. Xiao Han's picture: from the Internet, deleted infringement One night in t

A young man from Shaanxi, who was 23 years old and had his first love eloped to Xinjiang. He returned to his hometown 30 years later and was rejected by his father

narration: Yang Jianping

compilation: Mr. Xiao Han

picture: from the Internet, delete

One night in the summer of 1992, Qiuyan and I arrived at the agreed place and left the village.

It was very cold that night, maybe it was a test for us, but in order to be together, Qiuyan and I were wearing thin clothes, not caring about the dark clouds above our heads, touching the darkness, and relying on our memories, we walked forward with no destination, only the idea of ​​leaving our hometown.

walked all night. When it was dawn, we took a coal truck to Ordos , but we were still worried because Ordos was only 300 kilometers away from my hometown. We were afraid that Qiuyan's parents would have found it. A fellow villager said that there were few people in Xinjiang and it was far away, so we would definitely not come to us.

is like this, I was doing rides all the way, and I don’t know how many days I walked, and finally arrived in Urumqi. We settled here, but real life was difficult, because we didn’t have an ID card and could only do odd jobs. After persisting for several years, a kind uncle got me a household registration and settled in Xinjiang from then on. I have been separated from my hometown for 30 years. Now I am nearly sixty years old and there is no sign of youth. Over the years, I have no contact with my family. When I returned to the place where I gave birth to me and raised me, my elderly father was no longer willing to recognize me as my son.

1969, I was born in a remote mountain village in Qingjian County, Yulin City, Shaanxi Province. My family was very poor. I only went to junior high school and didn’t continue because I couldn’t learn. My parents also think that studying is useless, so it is better to go home to have more than two acres of land. As I grew up, my brother and I reached the age of discussing marriage, but the family background was not good and it was difficult to get a wife.

My brother is honest and dull, I am eloquent, and I talked about a girl from the next village, but the other party’s parents disagreed, and even called the villagers and beat me up. However, these obstructions did not end our love, but thought of a long-term solution - elope.

In order to find the opportunity to leave, we waited for half a year, from the twelfth lunar month to the near-door day. Finally, we had the opportunity to meet and made an appointment for the place and time. This kind of two-way journey was both worried and interesting.

For my father, it is a good thing to marry a wife, no matter how I marry her. For Qiuyan, being with me is just a happy thing, no matter how her parents object. We decided to leave on a dark and windy night.

Maybe God is also stopping us from leaving. That night, it was dark clouds and it was about to rain. Qiuyan was very worried because it was all muddy roads. Once it rained, she would definitely not go far and her parents would find it in time. Luck turned to us, and the wind blew, but it didn't rain. It took five or six hours to leave our hometown dozens of kilometers.

The next morning, just dawn, we got on a coal truck from northern Shaanxi to Ordos. When we arrived in Ordos, I only had a dozen yuan on my body, a bowl of noodles. The two of us couldn't bear to eat more. We ate one bite at a time, giving in to each other.

A older person knew about our situation and asked us to go to Xinjiang, saying that it is too close to our hometown, thousands of kilometers away from Xinjiang, and the transportation is inconvenient, so no one knows it.

I took the ride again and went to Xinjiang with hunger, but I had no place to settle down. When I saw an abandoned house, I would do it myself before. The neighbors around me were also good, so I took the initiative to work and made a nest for myself.

Not long after, the police station found us and said that we were illegal households. They were arrested in the police station and checked them. Fortunately, the neighbor took action in time and said that I was his godson and came to make a living, so he let us go. At that time, Qiuyan and I had no ID cards, so the neighbor said, "Come on my account, so that life will be more convenient in the future and can be divided into several acres of land."

cannot let the neighbor suffer losses, and I took the initiative to recognize my neighbor as my godfather. From then on, I am also a person with status and no longer have to hide in Tibet.

At that time, it was not easy to do odd jobs. When a kind-hearted owner would give him a salary readily. Some people would not only not pay wages, but also call a few big men to beat him. After all, I am older. Qiuyan is only 17 years old. Qiuyan has never studied and can only work in a restaurant.

After Qiuyan became pregnant, I asked her to quit her job, but Qiuyan refused, thinking that she could earn more money and that she would not live a very tight life after giving birth in the future.

Actually, no matter how hard or tired she was, she just felt that two people were Together, no matter what you do, it is sweet and full of power.

has been in Xinjiang for a long time, and I gradually fell in love with it. I have my own land, my children, and I got my marriage certificate. Everything seems beautiful, but my inner worry has not disappeared. I am afraid that one day, Qiuyan's parents or my parents will come to me. However, this worry is unnecessary. In 30 years, we have spent it peacefully and quietly.

started doing business when we were in our thirties, but I never dared to enter Shaanxi because there are Qiuyan's family and I.

accumulated wealth, but I feel a little disappointed in my heart. I don't want my parents, my brothers and sisters are fake, but I have no shame to go back. The children have graduated from college now, and I have also contracted thousands of them. Acres of land, plant some cash crops, and earn about 2 million yuan a year. Thinking about my selfishness over the years, it is time to go back to visit my parents.

After so many years, I luckily thought Qiuyan’s parents accepted us, but the facts were wrong.

Not only that, my parents suffered too much grievances, and they were even rejected by my father.

I took my three children and Qiuyan back to visit my parents first. Dad did not let me enter the house. My mother, who was in her seventies, told me that Qiuyan’s parents smashed the house to pieces after I left. My mother told me that Qiuyan’s parents had passed away and did not let me see Qiuyan’s other family members, for fear of beating me to death.

But for me, I owe them a debt, so what if I get beaten to death?

Actually, this is what I think. It is best to be able to compensate Qiu Yan’s family with money. After all, I have the ability now. I didn’t agree to us being together because my family was poor. Qiu Yan’s elder brother didn’t make things difficult for me, but felt that there was no need to meet again. I quietly left 500,000 yuan. After all, I may not have the chance to meet again in the future.

My parents also had an explanation. My elder brother married a second-married woman and had two sons. He was under great pressure. He was in college and bought a house for my elder brother in the county town and gave another million yuan. It was a compensation for taking care of his parents. In this way, I felt more at ease.

30 years ago, when I returned to my hometown, I still felt that familiar and intimate, but I didn’t have the happiness of the past. After all, time flies, my parents are old, and I am no longer young, and the harm I have to do with my parents is not enough to make up for. I can only say that life is impermanent, cherish it when you go.