Don’t say much if you make a mistake. Go and make up for Huang Yulan’s first reaction to doing something wrong is to regret. However, I was disturbed by my classmate's regret for several days. We got along well when we were in school. She is kind-hearted, careless, and values ​​l

If you have any mistakes, don’t say much, go and make up for

Peng Yulan

The first reaction to doing something wrong is regret. However, I was disturbed by my classmate's regret for several days.

When we were in school, we got along well. She is kind-hearted, careless, and values ​​love and righteousness, but she is a princess. She always likes to "occupy other people's resources" and hopes that others will take care of herself more. I don’t know how I get along with others, and I have always had a good relationship with me. But she has always been developing in Shenzhen over the years, and she is rarely back this time, so of course she wants to come to me to gather.

She was still so surprised after not seeing each other for several years. After coming to our house, I found this curious and that I also found it interesting. She was afraid of anything she was going to do, and she suddenly became interested in a pen insert on my desk. It was a girl squatting under bamboo . The girl was slender and lowered her head to meditate. She pulled out the bamboo and made a pen. She was made of porcelain, with a green light, probably 30 or 40 years.

I just said: Don’t move. She looked naughty and reached out to pick it up. With a "clang", she fell to the ground and broke. With this crisp sound, my heart was broken. This is the only object left by my father. I think what is broken is not the pen insert, but the only image left after my father left me 13 years ago, like the spine that has always supported my body. Because she is my good classmate, I want to control it, but the tears couldn't control it at all and it flowed down.

She was frightened by me and asked quickly. I could only tell her what was going on inconsistently, and she regretted it. I hope to get together for many years, and the result can be imagined.

From the moment she left my house, she was sending me a message, saying that she just wanted to tease me; I said I understood, I knew her personality, not intentional. She said she knew that I had a deep relationship with my father and knew the meaning of this pen insert to me; but she didn't know that something was so easy to break. I said it's okay, two pieces of broken pieces were already broken, and they were glued to it by my family.

She asked me if I was still sad? I said it was much better, and told her not to worry about me. I said stop mentioning this and let it pass. She said she regretted it very much and shouldn't have been so rash. I said there is no need to blame myself so much. We are good friends, so there is no need to say this. She said that if it wasn't, it wouldn't be her. At that moment, I stopped talking and didn't want to reply to her message, but just used one or two words like "um" and "no" to deal with it.

On the afternoon, she still sent me a message, and I really don’t want to talk about this topic anymore. But she actually sent me this at 12 o'clock in the evening. Although I ignored her, I opened my eyes until dawn. Seeing that she was still saying this in the morning, I finally couldn't help it and decided to "help her grow up". Although this is not my style, I usually do things even if I see through them, I will not point them out.

I told her that her current behavior is a "stingy", and the "text" on the "mouth" means the explanation, to find reasons for a certain behavior, and continue to be entangled in the so-called "error". I didn't say that this article also has the meaning of being wronged, but constantly explaining it in words cannot change the fact that things have happened. True regret depends on "heart", and the word "repent" comes from the heart. Regret from the bottom of your heart and make up for your mistakes with your heart.

She was excited when she heard this, and seemed to have found a way to make up for it. She hurriedly asked: What should I buy for you? Where will I accompany you? She is very smart and can understand at any moment. Something sad happened, and "I'm with you" is important. Maybe I can really find such an old object in the future, or accompany me to my father's cemetery, but at this moment, what I want her to do most is not to explain and not to talk about this matter. In this way, I will be even more sad and feel that it is my fault to make her so uneasy.

In life, everyone can make mistakes, and we little people can't make big mistakes. Besides, the so-called right or wrong may be just a different position and perspective, or personality and style of doing things.Some can be avoided, some are just different people's feelings; or it is just a process that makes it difficult for us to achieve perfection in everything. What should I do? There is no need to explain too much, just hurry up and remedy is the bottom line. When an incident occurs, there is no reversal, that is, the error is not "corrected" but must be remedied in time. How to remedy it? No need to say anything, use behavior.

Every time I sober up, I always swear to curse, it’s not worth it. It’s better to get drunk less than say a thousand words; say 10,000 words to my lover, it’s better to go to the vegetable market to pick her up and help her carry the vegetables; I guarantee that there will be no next time, it’s better to help her blow a cup of tea and serve her; I’m not careful with my leader every time, so it’s better to study the business well and do it well next time.

Some people also say OK, use behavior. I left my lover and took her back, knelt on the ground without saying a word, and let my mother's family scold her. This should be a behavior, right? But two days later, my hands were itchy and I beat my wife half to death; and I also lost money every time I lost money, I chopped off my fingers and went to gamble again, which was not a way to solve the problem. You must cherish your position in others' hearts to have a chance to remedy. Otherwise, if you do whatever you like, who cares about you?

The behavior of making up for mistakes should be on the point and see what the other party cares most so that they can hit it in one move, reduce company losses or make their lovers happy. You said I don't know how to do it? The same thing is said, "Repent" comes from the heart, regret with your heart, let go of yourself, observe and think, and you will find behaviors that can be remedied in time. There is nothing difficult in the world, I am afraid of those who are determined. Remedy in time can also continue to maintain the original relationship.

Where are the theories? In the " Yijing " talked by Zeng Shiqiang , those who are interested can search for "good and bad luck" and teach us how to "good and bad luck to avoid bad luck", covering all aspects of life such as workplace, marriage, education, etc. Or, next time I will tell you a story about "transcending good and bad luck". In fact, the method is the most realistic, easy to operate, and very simple. Would you like to listen?

May you make fewer mistakes in your life, and you will know how to remedy them even if you make mistakes! May your life always be good and happy!