I received a private message today, and a woman who had an extramarital affair cried and said to me: "Teacher, how do you separate the third party? Her rank is really too high!"
I immediately interrupted her: "Why did you say depressed words before you started the battle?"
In fact, the third party is not scary at all!
is more difficult than your situation!
She just looks arrogant on the surface, but in fact she spends every day in panic!
I was afraid that men would change their minds, and I remembered the goodness of the original wife, afraid that men would find a younger and more beautiful little girl, and I was afraid that my shameful things would be exposed, and I would not have the face to be a human being in the future...
Even I have encountered many third parties asking for help from me, and I had one last month. I will share it with you.
She said she had been secretly a third party for a year. The man kept promising that she would divorce, but she delayed it again and again until she found out that the other party had bought a new property for her original wife, she finally couldn't hold back and had a big fight with the man.
As a result, the other party replied coldly: "Don't be arrogant, I have never loved you!"
She hoped I could help her, but I refused helplessly because I never took the case of a third party. Secondly, I hope she can wake up as soon as possible: " man" If a person really wants to divorce, he will have divorced long ago. Why should he be in the middle? Now they are legal couples, who has the heart to care about your pain? Who will sympathize with a woman who destroys the family? ”
So, don’t just look at how nice the promises a man has to the third party in the house sound. After leaving the house, he is more sober than anyone else. He will still not bear any responsibility for the third party. The only person he truly trusts and relies on in his heart is the original wife!
Unfortunately, many original partners have not figured out this truth. They have an advantage, but they still make the third party successful. Why is this?
Because most women only have two ways of doing it:
The first type, choose to give in, not divorce, and would rather live a uncomfortable life than let the third party succeed, and suffer in a marriage that is in name only;
The second type, emotional collapse, go make a big fuss, tear up the third party, make the man's scandal known, force her husband and the third party to break up quickly, making the man more convinced that the marriage must be divorced!
It is obvious that neither of these practices have captured the lifeblood of the third party, nor have they made her pay the price, but instead made her position more and more passive.
So, in this war without gunpowder, don’t expect to achieve the effect by relying on brute force. Only by distinguishing the types of third parties and finding their weaknesses can we truly protect our marriage.
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In the world, the third party of this type is relatively young, generally under 25 years old, and has two main characteristics:
—The original family is not happy enough, born in poverty, and is eager to find a sense of security in a stable man;
—The college student who has just graduated has less social and emotional experience, so it is easy to go astray in a romantic relationship.
So the most common method they use is also obvious:
① Show weakness and stimulate the desire for protection of men
She follows whatever men like, and even treats married men as psychological father roles, so that men can develop a desire for protection and unconsciously provide her with more companionship and attention.
②Simple, easy to be controlled
Men are creatures who are afraid of trouble. If they find a scheming third party, they are completely seeking death. It is better to find a well-behaved and obedient little girl, which is both trouble-free and easy to control. Even if they get angry, a few nice words can make her happy.
Original advice: Use the way of others to treat the person, and treat the person's body
This situation generally occurs in marriages where women are strong and men are weak. Because men's self-esteem is not satisfied, they will particularly favor this kind of little girl who admires and appreciates her.
Then you can also "take medicine according to the prescription", learn this little trick, help him rescue him from the "position of the weak", and give him the affirmation and encouragement he wants.
For example:
praises him in time at the appropriate time, so that he can find your attitude changes and he will slowly regain the face he once lost.
If a woman blindly fights men head-on, then the man will feel that his authority is threatened and he will become resistant to what you say, so you can reduce doubts about him as much as possible, but learn to ask for help and identify with him. This is actually a way to satisfy your demands.
There is no blame in your tone. Only asking for help can easily inspire his inner heroism. Not only can he help you share more housework, but he can also feel his attention and love.
Everyone can try it according to my words for a month and continue to observe the changes in your husband. In fact, in the end, it is just one sentence. doesn’t know how to deal with your husband. If you learn from a third party, you will have the answer.
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green tea type
① Do not compete or rob, so that men feel that they truly love themselves and do not seek any fame and fortune;
A woman who does not seek rewards and puts true love first will make enough excuses for men. What does it mean?
He doesn't think cheating is an immoral thing, but instead regards it as the best opportunity to prove himself, feels that he is charming, and hugs from left to right, and has a special sense of accomplishment.
② Gentle and considerate, especially considerate, and does not put any pressure on men;
Just like Ling Ling in " My First Half of Life ", while having an affair with Chen Junsheng, he pretended to persuade him to return to his family. He always said that he was wrong. No matter what the man did, it would not affect my love for you, and he would never be burdened by men.
Results This operation directly compares the original partner's unreasonableness and can't help but approach the third party.
③I like you, but I can leave
This trick is amazing. It is simply a "righteous and stand-alone" textbook. Although she has a very close relationship with a man, she has always maintained a high attitude, creating a feeling that I will leave at any time, making a man feel a sense of crisis, and wanting her more and more.
Original Master’s Skill: Use static and keep a psychological tug-of-war with
The best thing for this type of third party is to whitewash yourself and secretly discredit the original Master.
If you really fall into the trap, the man will only talk to her, saying that she is not as terrible as you think, so it is better to follow the example: "Actually, it is not easy for her. She has to hide and hide. I often wonder if I am too selfish, and whether to fulfill your wishes. But when I think about you really want to leave me, it is difficult for me to accept it."
can not only make her bitter plan self-defeating, but also let men see your magnanimity.
Then you must be prepared for a protracted battle. Green Tea’s best move is to retreat to advance. Retreat is just a means, and advance is the ultimate goal, so this is a time battle.
I just said that you have a very strong position in marriage. Your years of relationships and children's bonds cannot be easily given up, so you might as well put your husband's cheating on you for the time being and focus more on yourself.
In this way, the third party will think that you are relaxing and it is a good time for her to take action. After all, the third party is also afraid of waiting hopelessly and fearing that his years of tolerance will not be harvested.
But in fact, when the third party is eager to take over, it loses its charm in the eyes of men. He will find that the lover who looked gentle and cute at the beginning will also have a bad temper. The lover who was thinking about him at the beginning was actually a "wolf in sheep's clothing" and full of purpose.
The best way is to let them fight in internal affairs and let their husbands see the true face of the third party by themselves. You don’t have to take the initiative to make the man turn back on his own.
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Saintly Mother type
green tea may be commonplace, so what is the Virgin?
I will briefly explain that they have a fraternity towards everyone and do not value objective facts at all. For example, your husband clearly has family and responsibilities, but in her eyes it becomes: "I really admire you when you can pursue happiness bravely."
The most terrifying thing about women of this type is that they will treat you very well, very well, and even tempt you without any bottom line, making you feel that everything you do can be tolerated and understood.
So it is easy for men to lose themselves and feel that they saved the Milky Way in their previous life. If they meet such a good lover, they must cherish it.
Original help: If the enemy advances, I will retreat, if the enemy retreats, I will chase
At this time, you need to do two things well:
First, when the other party is the Holy Mother, you must not be influenced by her. If you want to "compete" with her, you must prove that you also understand men. You are the kindest person. There is no need to!
This is equivalent to giving a man the opportunity to enjoy the triple, which will completely lose his sense of responsibility, so you must clearly show your bottom line. They are willing to cheat, and they can accept cheating, because there is a problem with their three views. You must not agree. You cannot tolerate such humiliation and do not give men any chance to defend themselves.
Secondly, when she doesn't want to be a Virgin and has conflicts with a man, you can take the opportunity to "swalking" it: "I'm very happy if someone can help me take care of my husband. I've been serving me for so many years, and I'm really tired of busy work. Come on, I'm optimistic about you!"
kept putting her on a high hat, making her stand on the altar and unable to come to Taiwan. The so-called "high places are cold", she couldn't hold on for a few days.
If a friend says that he doesn’t know a third party at all and doesn’t want to have any relationship with her, this trick can also be used on men. You can deliberately let the child speak and invite his father to participate in parent-child activities together, making it difficult for him to refuse, and he can only bite the bullet and act like "love in love" with you.
No matter what his reaction that day, you can learn the lines from Qiong Yao drama: "I am really happy that you can come out to play with me and my children today. I feel like we are back when we first got married, so dull and happy, but life is never a TV series. My mistake is that I love you too much. At this time, I still think that you can change your mind."
He thought you would provoke a gang, but you had nothing, just talked in your heart lightly. Often, this kind of calm-sounding language is the most touching, and it is easy to inspire his guilt as a husband and father.
As long as you have a little guidance, the return will be just around the corner.
Finally, I want to tell you, when it comes to , don’t talk about emotions, no matter how high the other person’s rank is, as long as you don’t disrupt the rhythm by her and always stay rational, no one can shake your position.
It is easy for a man to steal food. When he really wants to pay the bill, he feels distressed. Is it really worth it to exchange for a woman who is not loyal enough?
answer, he knew better than anyone else.
And all you have to do is not to be a superficial bad guy and just be the final winner.
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