"Zhouyi﹒ "Xi Ci" says: "Two people are in the same heart, and their sharpness will cut off gold; orchids with the same heart will smell like orchids."
In marriage, if the couple can have the same heart and actions, their strength will be like a sharp blade, which can cut off metal;
If the two people can express their consensus in words, their persuasiveness will be very strong, and people are as easy to accept as they smell the fragrance of orchids .
" Sutra of Gua Chuan " says: "The way of a husband and wife cannot be long, so accept it with constant. For a long time, it is long."
The way of getting along with husband and wife must be based on long-term long as the fundamental plan. Since we form a family, we must avoid giving up halfway and being separated halfway.
However, in today's society, the divorce rate is rising steadily, and family instability has also caused many social problems.
So how can we make the marriage last forever and happy? " Henggua " in " Yijing " tells us the answer.
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Men and women are soft
Heng Gua "Tuan" says: is always long. Hardness is up and soft, thunder and wind are connected, and Xun moves, and hardness and softness are both responding, and constant.
is the meaning of permanence. Masculinity is above and feminine is below, thunder and wind are thunder and wind, moving with the flow, hardness and softness echo. This is the Heng Gua.
Men should have masculinity and be the pillar of the family. A man’s career achievements determine the influence of a family in society.
Even if a woman is successful in her career, such as being a team leader or a company boss, her husband's social status and career achievements are not as good as you, your reputation in society will be affected by her husband.
So, a smart woman will always push her husband to the front, while she will sit at home and enjoy the glory of her family.
educator Sukhomlinsky said: "A good woman is a great school for men."
A woman is feminine and carries virtue. A good wife is to help or encourage her husband to develop in a good direction.
Behind every successful man is a great woman.
"Heng Gua" sixth and fifth lines: Constantly have virtue, chastity; a woman is lucky, and a teacher is inauspicious.
Women follow their husbands when they get married and obedient and feminine is auspicious. If a man is doing a career outside, he will only be timid and timid, it will be dangerous.
As a man, you must be as a man, be responsible, be motivated and strive for self-improvement.
As a woman, you must be as a woman as a woman, be tolerant and generous, and use softness to overcome hardness.
If a man looks like a man's mother and a woman looks like a tomboy, this phenomenon that violates the laws of nature is a bad omen.
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Eternal knot concentric
"Heng Gua" hexagram words: , no blame, , zhen , profit is good and there is a chance to go.
As long as you have a "constant" heart, you will be successful and smooth, without disasters, which will help you stick to the right path and move forward.
Someone asked Professor Zeng Shiqiang : "How can we not divorce?"
Professor Zeng replied: "Never have the heart to divorce, you will not divorce."
If you want to maintain a happy and happy marriage for a long time, you need confidence and perseverance, because success is the result of long-term persistence and unremitting efforts.
Every marriage cannot be without setbacks and quarrels, but no matter how big the ups and downs occur, don’t be tempted, but always have a heart to stay together until old age.
Heng Gua "Nine Three" line: does not keep his virtue, may he be ashamed of inheriting, and stingy.
If the husband and wife cannot stick to the way of husband and wife for a long time, be restless and self-righteous, and act rashly, and have no perseverance, they may end up having nowhere to stay.
Lin Yutang once had a wonderful opinion on the "way of husband and wife":
"The competition in today's society is very fierce, intrigue and full of risks. You can deal with it alone, and you feel the difficulties and hardships.
On the battlefield of life, husband and wife are the best comrades and partners. The so-called "The husband is to support him, and the wife is to be together." ’It is precisely the significance of mutual cooperation between the two sides.
The life of a couple is to work together, and to save each other from the stormy waves of life. "
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stick to the right path
"heng Gua" first six-line text: Junheng, zhenwu, no profit.
means : Dig the roots and dig the bottom to pursue the long-term path. The result will inevitably be dangerous and there is no benefit.
The sixth day is located in the first line of Heng Gua, which means that the couple is just in the early stage of their relationship. It is not suitable to pursue too much in this time, and do not invest too much at once.
The so-called "hazard will lead to failure" will act according to the lifelong relationship without truly understanding each other, and it will be difficult to control future development.
"Heng Gua" Nine Two "Xiang" says: Nine Two regrets will die, and you can live for a long time.
If two people can stick to the doctrine of the mean of in the process of getting along with each other, they can be both excited and slow, and they can be successful and will not cause regret.
"Heng Gua" Liu Yao Ci: is always vibrant, evil.
means: is unstable, and cannot stick to the long-term way for a long time, which is dangerous.
. Both husband and wife cannot be "conserved" and cannot be loyal to their partner. Instead, they are flirting with their wives and have endless thoughts. The relationship between husband and wife is difficult to last, and the result will inevitably be dangerous.
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Tolstoy said: "Happy families are similar, and unfortunate families have their own misfortunes. ”
Only when we can withstand all kinds of temptations and tests and love that has been tempered by years can we be called true love.
May each of us experience passion, love, marriage, through seven years of itch, and through ten years of obstacles.
Hold hands with our lover until we grow old, make an appointment to grow old, and be in love for a lifetime!
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