text丨The West Chamber of affection
Time has not been long, I hope you will meet in my words!
Life always has an end, and everyone will gradually grow old with the company of time. But after getting old, there are different endings.
Some people live a good life in their later years and can continue to enjoy life and understand life when the sun sets; while some people are miserable in their later years and are still working hard for food and clothing and family.
The readers of Ximei are of middle-aged people, and several readers with good relationships will also talk to me about their concerns about the future.
Indeed, the issue of pension is indeed an escapist problem, and the older you get, the more you worry.
But as someone joked: "The probability of whether you need to go to a nursing home to retire or not has nothing to do with how many children you have."
Nowadays, among the online information that is coming all over the sky, the most meaningful message that makes me feel sad and lonely is that there is a topic about lonely elderly people.
Whenever I pay attention to such a topic, a scene always appears in my mind:
An old man is slowly appearing in the picture. His old and hunched face is full of stories, and his shaking body and staggering steps are shrouded in loneliness.
He was struggling to move a small chair and stepping on small steps to the door of the cottage. Then, he lowered his stool towards the quiet field in front of the door, and then sat down quietly in front of the door.
The whole process did not have any sound, it was like a silent film, just silently showing such a picture.
And this is a scene that hit my heart hard and hurt my heart. I feel distressed for such a lonely old man, and I am also worried about my old life.
can’t say what it feels like. It seems that as long as you think about getting old, you will feel a great sense of loneliness and powerlessness.
I think, in this world, I am not the only one who has this feeling, most people are like this. I feel sad for the lives of the elderly and fear for the old self.
So, what kind of mentality should we use to face the life that is about to grow old?
The loneliness that is happening in the current social situation seems to be announcing something to us, that is: people are old, and their children and their wives are not truly reliable people.
Why are there so many lonely elderly people in this society? Why are there so many sadness and loneliness happening in those remote and distant mountain villages?
In fact, a large part of this is due to the departure of children and the lack of spouse.
However, this problem is irreversible. For the sake of life and a better future, children have to go out of the mountains, have to go out of this poor land, and choose to go out to make a living.
And his wife has no room for resistance in front of time and in front of the end of life.
So, the person who was left became the loneliest person. And whenever this happens, people will reflect on what is the only way to be reliable when people are old?
The children who are busy with work and the person who promised to grow old will not be the one who will accompany us in the end.
This journey of life is always accompanied by separation, whether it is the separation from children or the distinction from partners. This is an eternal and insurmountable proposition.
So, we can only seek a kind of self-independence and strength. If we say who is the most reliable person when we get older, I can only say that it is myself.
Although most people are not yet exposed to the stage of aging, this does not prevent them from thinking. After all, this is a problem that has to be faced.
The sadness that is being staged in society today, as well as the left-behind elderly people that exist, are real and real, and these will be thought-provoking.
Whether it is for people who have not grown old or people who have grown old, real cases are the best wake-up call and are worthy of everyone's deep thought.
In short, when people get old, their children and their spouses are unreliable. Children have their own lives, and they have their own life pressure. There is a situation where old people and young people are on
, which forces them to go to a farther place, and this also makes them unable to take into account the filial piety they bear.
If the children stay and guard their elderly, their lives will eventually lead to an unsustainable state.
When it comes to your wife, I think he should be the person in this world who wants to accompany you to the last moment of your life the most. But no matter who it is, it is possible to become the one who is left behind.
The loneliness that remains in the end will eventually need someone to face. Therefore, my wife is not a reliable person either. In
, we can only seek to find a fulcrum on ourselves.
As long as your heart is rich enough and your inner world is strong enough, then in your old life, reading and drinking tea, savoring life, or continuing to see the world... will all enrich yourself.
is still the same old saying, in this life, the only person who can rely on is yourself. Therefore, in the days to come, please be sure to love yourself and do the following:
Take good care of your body and give yourself a strong body; take good care of your emotions and welcome every day happily; save more money for yourself, and you can bear it if you are sick and hurt;
Cultivate more interests and hobbies that are beneficial to your body and mind, expand your circle of friends, and don’t become a "lonely person" at a young age; look at this world more, and you will not be deceived if you have vision.
In short, life is long, no matter at any stage in life, the only one who can be most reliable is yourself.
Therefore, managing yourself well is the best way to retire!
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