That year was 2019. I was 32 years old and a civil servant in an administrative unit in Xuhui District, Shanghai. I earned about 220,000 yuan an annual salary. Five insurances and one fund were calculated separately, but I couldn't afford a house and I couldn't find a suitable pa

That year was 2019. I was 32 years old and a civil servant in an administrative unit in Xuhui District, Shanghai. My annual salary was about 220,000 yuan. , five insurances and one fund, was calculated separately, but I couldn’t afford a house and I couldn’t find a suitable partner.

My father and my mother are both civil servants from the old district in Jiangxi. They are now retired. Their retirement salary is less than 18,000 yuan a month.

I once went on a blind date with a rich man, this nouveau riche, but he was very stingy with me and was unwilling to add my name to the house. The wedding gift was only 80,000 yuan, and even if I were invited to dinner, I would not be able to give up the expensive Western restaurant. I saw that his hands were very rough. I heard that he had worked as an plasterer , and was engaged in the development of real estate. The face of a nouveau riche is that he can't bear to spend it for you even if he has money. His money has nothing to do with me. Anyway, he has disagreement with her. After the second meeting, I broke up with him. Unexpectedly, after the breakup, he asked me about the money for the meal, so I transferred 300 yuan to him. At that time, the meal cost 598 yuan. The second time, I went on a blind date with a man who started a business. He just graduated from a master's degree and wanted to start a technology company. He hoped that I would invest 100,000 yuan to his company. I knew that once he successfully started a business, I could enjoy huge economic dividends, but once he failed, my money would not only be a meat bun to beat a dog, but also a lot of debts. Even if I don’t owe any debts, when I break up, he has no income and I have a job, and he still has to divide my income. Thinking about it, I'm not reliable, so I'll say goodbye to him again.

Not long after, I went on a blind date with a rich second generation. His family is quite powerful, but he is idle, eating, drinking, and having fun, and is not enterprising, and lying on the right path. Although his parents gave him a credit card and he spent money without restraint, I always feel that it is not reliable. I always think that I can live in vain and have no trouble. I proposed to go to his company to be an accountant, but his father disagreed and didn't like me to interfere in his family business. Since this is the case, I should be a civil servant in my first-tier city. The rich or not has much to do with me, and in the end I passed him.

So in 2019, I was 32 years old and I was a real leftover woman. At that time, my parents were very anxious to urge me to get married every day, but the emperor was not in a hurry and rushed to stop the eunuch. My understanding is that whether it is marriage or personal struggle, it is all for a better way to live. Marriage is never the end of a woman, but to change her destiny through marriage, bring better additional benefits, and make her life happier. Although I can't meet my partner for a while, I have enough patience to be able to get married before the age of 40.

In 2020, I finally met my true destiny. We met on the high-speed rail. At that time, a customer suddenly fainted. He was a doctor and I was a volunteer. So we met. Later, we added WeChat and chatted through WeChat. The two felt good, so they slowly drew. From then on, I married a pure Han who used to basically never eat beef and mutton and loved pork to a Huimin . My life habits change with him.

Because I love me without regrets, I followed his diet and changed. I used to be a very picky person, but I became very easy-going in front of him. I no longer worry about gains and losses. I just sometimes cook another dish myself and make tooth sacrifice . I changed my eating habits for him, fully respected his customs such as not eating pork, and even prepared two different foods. I thought we would have a good life.

But later I discovered a secret of him. This secret is a matter of principle for me, and I still divorced him for this. The divorce from him was not because of his different eating habits, but because he received money from the patient. I think this is not good, but he doesn't agree with it. In the past, he often gave me 3,500,000 and 20,000 yuan. I think it's very strange. Who can get cash now? I asked questions many times and he responded vaguely. He never told me the truth. Later, I realized that the money was all red envelopes given to the patient by his family before the surgery.Because he is the department director of the oncology department, those patients who put money on him are on the verge of death and have not had many days to live. I think that if I receive this money, I will be retribution. I have dissuaded him many times. He thinks I am too pretentious, and so we parted ways.

Our child belongs to me. I think his values ​​are not correct, and the child will learn bad things with him. In order to fight for custody of the child, I spent a lot of money and hired the best lawyer. I am a single mother now. Because I have my son, it seems that remarriage is not easy to find. Many people would rather find someone to take care of a daughter than find a single woman with a son. It is said that the son wants to buy a house and marry a wife when he grows up. Anyway, many people would rather have daughters than have sons. This world has changed a lot. In the past, if a son is a treasure, and a daughter is a grass. I'm not in a hurry now, it's completely affordable for a woman to take care of her children. Besides, Shanghai people are also very smart. It is basically impossible to find Shanghai natives. Looking for people from other places may lower my living standards, and I don’t want to do so. I will live like this for the time being.