In the morning, I walked into the office and found that Xiaomei, the colleague next door, was sitting in her seat, looking angry, as if something unpleasant was happening. After asking, I realized that on the way to work, her car was scratched with someone else's car.
I advised her not to be angry about such a thing. It is impossible to make a mistake. During the morning rush hour, there are many people riding bicycles, and slight scratches and collisions are inevitable.
Xiaomei: "I'm not angry about this, it's because my boyfriend, she was by my side at that time. When I was arguing with that person, he didn't help me, and kept saying forget it. The car was fine anyway, and the person was not injured or something. He is my boyfriend, and he should be on my side. Unexpectedly, he would help others. Such a man is so bad. I really want to break up!"
The one who scratched Xiaomei's electric car was a young man. At that time, Xiaomei started arguing with him loudly. She originally wanted him to apologize, but the man said that he was driving in a straight line and that Xiaomei hit him suddenly turned and was unwilling to apologize.
Xiaomei and her boyfriend, and there is only one person on the other side. Xiaomei thinks that if her boyfriend helps her, the other side will definitely bow their heads. But not only did her boyfriend not help her, she said sorry to the man and grabbed Xiaomei and let the man go.
Xiaomei was not angry because of a car crash, but because she felt that her boyfriend was not in the same heart as her and apologized to others on the street, which made her feel embarrassed.
There are many similar things. We often find that in some occasions, there are always women arguing and quarreling, and the men around us do not quarrel for their girlfriends or wives, but instead pull them on them and want to settle things. Women are very angry at this time. Why do their men not want to stand on their side when they have conflicts with others?
Men are more rational than women. When facing the same thing, most women will be more emotional. They often ignore the matter itself and only take care of their own emotions, or quarrel or take action. The fundamental purpose is not to solve the problem, but to vent their emotions.
But men's rationality will make them think first of all, whether the size and severity of the matter itself are suitable for quarrel. If things are big and hurt your own interests, you must fight for them, or even fight each other. If you feel that things are small and the gains are not worth the loss, you will choose to calm down.
Just like Xiaomei's incident, in Xiaomei's opinion, she was very angry at that time and needed the other party to apologize to calm her emotions. Therefore, she had to quarrel and make the other party apologize. For men, there was no damage to the car and no one encountered it, so she just nodded and smiled and went their own way. It was not worth quarreling about this matter, but it was easy for people around her to laugh at.
If Xiaomei could understand her boyfriend's idea, she might not be angry at the company; and if Xiaomei's boyfriend understands Xiaomei's real demands, she will use other methods to help Xiaomei relieve her emotions, and will not affect the relationship between the two.
. Couples still need more communication and have more mutual understanding between each other so that they can make their relationship deeper and go further.
What do you think?
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