Recently, the education department in a certain place in Sichuan encountered a problem, because in recent years, the proportion of male and female teachers in the local teacher recruitment has been almost 2 to 8, which has caused the current male and female ratio of the local tea

Recently, the education department in a certain place in Sichuan encountered a problem, because in recent years, the proportion of male and female teachers in the local teacher recruitment has been almost 2 to 8, which has caused the current male and female ratio of the local teacher team to be seriously unbalanced, resulting in many female teachers not finding suitable candidates, which has made the local education department worry.

not only in the education system, but also in the medical industry. In the medical industry, the ratio of male and female doctors is almost equal, but in addition to doctors, there are many nurses in the hospital, and the ratio of male and female among nurses is almost 1:9, and female nurses cannot find a suitable partner.

It is said that female nurses and female teachers are not worried about marrying, but they find it difficult to find the person they think is suitable for. Because there are so-called unspoken rules for choosing a spouse in prefecture-level cities or counties, that is, those within the system do not look for outside the system, those who do not look for public servants, those who do not look for county, and those who do not look for townships in the county. This is a hidden rule in the general environment, and it is not ruled out that some others will not do so. Female teachers and female nurses are both passive in the unspoken rules, and only local young men in the same industry are the most suitable partners for their marriage. If the local young men in the same industry are young, it seems that only township civil servants are suitable for them, but township civil servants have been in townships for a long time, and falling in love seems to be a luxury for them. In the county town, except for a small number of people in the system, most of them are outside the system. If you ask them to lower the standards and accept the pursuit of non-staff , I guess many girls will not do this, except for the other hand, that is, the man is a rich second generation or an official second generation.

Don't think that this situation will only occur in prefecture-level cities and county towns. There are more older leftover women in provincial capitals and Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou and Shenzhen. Many older single women complain that they cannot find a suitable partner. It is not that there are too few people pursuing them, but that in the current environment of distorted values, it is indeed difficult for them to find a suitable partner. They have their own set of standards for finding partners. First, the wealth index cannot be less than me, secondly, the cultural level cannot be lower than me, and again, the character and emotional intelligence must be better. Finally, there are standards for household registration and other material conditions. For many women with high education and high income, such conditions are indeed not very harsh, but what I want to say is that it is difficult to find a suitable partner with such standards. Because a man who can meet this standard also has his own standards, and he has his own ideas. With his conditions, he can find a college student who has just started working, and he doesn’t look for a college student who is young and beautiful and simple. Why do you want to find an older single woman who is about to be old and ugly?

Many people regard marriage as an equivalent exchange between two families or two people. This is the fundamental reason why there are too many older single women, and it is also the main reason why many male compatriots in our country cannot get wives, and it is also the direct reason why many young men are unwilling to find a partner. In the past marriage, both men and women pursued love and future happiness. In today's marriage, what you have is what you have and what you can give me. In the past, marriage was sacred. Holding your hand and growing old with you. In the present marriage, once the material conditions cannot keep up, it is the time when we say we say goodbye. In the past, there were only two criteria for measuring a couple's happiness and satisfaction. One was to see whether the man was down-to-earth and willing to work hard, and the other was to see whether the woman was thrifty in the family. The current standard is to look at the wealth they have and their respective family status. The recent wealth marriage between the two major shoe giants in Fujian has brought the values ​​of young people into an endless abyss. From ancient times to the present, political marriages and wealth marriages have always happened, but that is only suitable for royal nobles and wealthy families. There are billions of people on the earth, while there are only a handful of royal nobles and wealthy families, so many of us are destined to be ordinary people in our lives.

This cannot put all the blame on a certain generation or a certain group. This is a deformed product of the rapid development and pan-grown society. The political marriage of the powerful is to continuate or maximize each other's power, and the children of the rich are to maximize each other's wealth.Nothing seems wrong with ordinary people pursuing equivalent exchanges in marriages to make the next generation live better. But how far can a marriage life that only pursues material enjoyment and ignores spiritual feelings go? I always believe that if human society wants to become better, then as advanced animals, we must have a way of thinking that suits us to move forward. If it cannot be distinguished from other animals, if marriage only focuses on material conditions, is it different from lions on the prairie?