Vietnamese girl, married to a 39-year-old man in rural China, raises pigs and grows vegetables, but says life is a joy in hardship
narration: Li Shifang
compilation: Mr. Xiao Han
picture: from the Internet, delete
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I am that girl, from Vietnam, I have been married to China for 9 years and have given birth to a son and a daughter for my Chinese husband. When I first got married into China, many villagers said, "I will definitely not be able to stay for long," because many of the Vietnamese wives in China met through blind dates. They have no feelings and marriage is just a business, so it is not surprising that they leave in the end.
But I am different. I am in a free relationship with my husband. Although I am 17 years apart, we have no generation gap. I am just an ordinary rural girl. I live a simple rural life in my hometown in Vietnam and have also worked in a factory. All this seems to be to meet my husband.
1991, I was born in an ordinary rural area in Haipang City, Vietnam. There are only more than 190 people in the village, but our village is very united. After the age of 16, many young people will form groups to work in factories. I didn't read much. After graduating from junior high school at the age of 14, I helped my parents take care of my family at home. After several blind dates, I didn't meet the boy I like. My parents thought it was useless to raise me, so they asked relatives from the village to take me to the factory to work.
The factory I work for is a foreign-funded enterprise, the salary is good, and the food is also good, so it is wise to leave my hometown and work in the developed Ho Chi Minh City . I still thank my father for kicking me out of the house.
In order not to get married so early, I can hand over most of my salary to my father. Although my father kept urging him on the phone, I didn’t care about those and didn’t even go home. When I was 20 years old, I met my current husband Hu Kai. He is Chinese and does business in Vietnam and looks very rich.
At that time, I was quite wary because I heard of many foreigners cheating on Vietnamese girls and other incidents, so we always get along with each other in the way of friends during the relationship. Hu Kai is 17 years older than me and takes care of me like my elder brother. He is often moved by him.
Hu Kai was very frank and told me that I had been married and had a daughter who was in junior high school. At that time, this news was unacceptable to me. I thought he had been married and had a daughter, but after spending a long time together, I became increasingly inseparable from Hu Kai. I obeyed my heart and decided to be Hu Kai's wife.
Although we are officially together, we don’t know how our parents passed this level, and Hu Kai is also worried, but is there a saying in China that is not said like this? There must be a road before the car arrives at the mountain. I bravely took Hu Kai back to my hometown. When I met my parents, my parents did not agree at first, but they were fine in other aspects, but the age difference was too big. Hu Kai was even 8 years older than my father, which was unacceptable to my father.
And we lived at home for five months. My parents finally saw that this would gossip about the villagers. In order to make things difficult for Hu Kai, he proposed a bride price of 200 million Vietnamese Dong . This was a sky-high bride price in Vietnam. However, Hu Kai did not hesitate and agreed decisively, asking his father to apply for a single certificate for me, and then gave the bride price to his father.
Later I asked Hu Kai: "Why did you accept my father's unreasonable request?"
Hu Kai said: "I love you, no matter how much I give, it is worth it. After all, he is your father, and we Chinese have always respected the elderly, loved the young and respected the elders, so we should be filial to your father. In the future, you will not be able to meet every year when you marry into China. It is worth it for me to do this."
When I heard Hu Kai say this, I was very moved and decided to be a good wife in the future and make him the happiest man in the world.
In 2013, we successfully arrived at a village in Taojiang County, Yiyang City, Hunan Province, and got married smoothly.
After marriage, my mother-in-law was not at ease with me, so I looked at me almost every day. I could tell that my parents-in-law were very nervous. Until I gave birth to my eldest son, my mother-in-law finally breathed a sigh of relief. My , Mandarin , at this time, was not good at speaking, and my husband's educational level was also limited. At that time, we lived in Changsha for a year in order to learn Chinese.
After returning to the countryside, my husband did not find a suitable job. His business in Vietnam was not possible in China before, because there were too many people doing these things. Later, my husband decided to develop in the countryside, contracted more than 100 acres of land, and raised more than a dozen pigs.
I grew up in the countryside and have raised chickens, ducks, pigs, cattle and other livestock, so taking care of them is no problem. In China, I feel that raising pigs is very simple, because there is feed, and you only need to stir it every day to feed the pigs. Every day I bathe the pigpen and wash it clean so that the pigs can live comfortably and grow strong.
Although sometimes I feel very tired, my husband feels sorry for me and doesn’t let me do work, as a wife, it is the most normal thing to be able to help my husband with housework. Besides, my husband is so tired, I can’t bear to see him exhausted.
In 2019, I gave birth to my second child and was a daughter. My parents-in-law was very happy and said, "I am very lucky that a son and a daughter form a word 'good'."
Someone in the village also asked me:
"Is it happy to marry into China?"
I said I am very happy!
"Are you tired to do so many heavy work?"
I said I am happy in the bitterness!
Life is not easy. Only by working hard can you live a good life. It has been 9 years since you married in China and have already adapted to how to live in China. Of course, when I arrived in a big city, I got lost and would definitely get lost, because I have only lived in Changsha for a year. My husband usually takes me out shopping, and I really don’t dare to go alone.
I hope the future will be sweeter and sweeter, and I also hope that my husband and I will be as loving as before.
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