"Tomorrow I will report the progress to the big boss, I am so anxious."
"The epidemic is coming again, should I stock up on the goods and prepare..."
"The golden three and silver four have passed, I haven't got the right offer yet, so I can't sleep well."
"It's halfway through 2022, and I seem to have done nothing, I'm too anxious."
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Anxiety is an emotion that often bothers us, and it is gradually becoming a particularly common "modern disease" in life. It exists in different forms among you and me.
Anxiety is sometimes obvious. People who have realized that anxiety exists are fighting anxiety; while more people seem to have no anxiety on the surface, but suppress anxiety in their hearts.
When I hear my colleagues discuss buying a house and a car, appreciation and salary increase, getting married and having children, and how to reach the peak of my life, I will deliberately ignore these discussions. I told myself that these are still far from me. As a Buddhist young man, these external things are unnecessary, and then I secretly thank you that I don’t have the anxiety you have.
But it is precisely this way of dealing with it, allowing anxiety to quietly live in a position I don’t know. When one day I can realize its existence, the anxiety value at that time is probably already overwhelming.
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Why do we often feel anxious?
First of all, people can only see a small part of us, such as careers, appearances, families, etc., but they will use this incomplete information to judge the full value of us as human beings.
Secondly, since childhood, we have been often taught that "you can be anyone, you have infinite possibilities", so we are always worried: What if we can't climb to the top in this kind of opportunity-filled society? This society always tells everyone that everyone can have whatever they want through hard work, but in fact only a small number of people can do it.
When the three points of the belief that one has the ability to succeed, the reality that not everyone can succeed, and the perception of different attitudes towards others is constantly intertwined, anxiety plantes seeds in our hearts.
In order to relieve your anxiety, first of all, we should acknowledge from a rational point of view, we should admit that society is not really the one who selects talents. Sometimes you have worked hard for a long time, and you may lose all your luck or accidents;
Second, we should create a definition of our own success and avoid using external achievements to define the whole self. There are many ways to succeed in this world, which are not necessarily related to identity, status, or money.
Reason knows what to do, but emotions are often out of control because anxiety is a stubborn visitor, but we all have the opportunity to turn it into close friends.
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