Social networking can be divided into "effective social networking" and "invalid social networking".
The essence of social interaction is the "connection" between people; and the purpose of connection is to provide value to each other.
includes: emotional connection, interest connection, and value exchange.
What is effective social interaction?
The relationship you are operating is a win-win situation, and you can get what you want from the other party.
What is invalid social interaction?
This relationship will not only not bring you any benefits, but will continue to consume you.
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Things you need to know about effective socialization
1. Provide emotional value
"I am very happy with him"
" Be friends with them, so I feel safe and can be myself relaxed"
This is emotional value, the value you get from the other person when you get along with the other person.
Emotional value is also our "emotional connection" with the other party.
enjoys the current state, it has nothing to do with the interests, it is very comfortable just to be with the other party. Social relationships like
are very short-lived, but the happiness and comfort it brings you is eternal.
2, provide material to satisfy
people have been "secretly marked with the price".
For example:
In the blind date market, the grades are divided according to a person's education, work, income, height and appearance.
is divided into four categories: top-quality, top-quality, medium-quality and low-quality. The same is true for
in social interaction.
Your own value, advantages, and abilities are all the standards that the other party considers you.
What do you want to get from others? First of all, you must have something that can "take it out".
There are always people who say that "connections" are very important.
In fact, when you have nothing, connections are a false proposition.
You have nothing and nothing, why should others help you?
3. Effective socialization must be social interaction with equal personality
Your relationship with the other party does not have the "looking up and looking down" but looking straight at the other party.
From the perspective of value exchange:
Only two people have equal strengths, equal abilities, and similar values, and can they get along with each other in a truly equal manner at this time.
From the perspective of social psychology:
Only with equal relationships can we move forward steadily.
Such as two-way efforts and appropriate empathy.
If you are still the only one who is giving in this relationship, you will be "psychologically unbalanced" in not long.
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What you need to know about invalid socialization
1. Ineffective socialization is a relationship of "mass production"
Just like the work of a pipeline, there is no emotion, no ups and downs, but just maintains a superficial relationship with the other party in a coping manner.
For example:
One person is engaged in sales and selling houses.
Instead of looking for accurate customers in the city, he ran to the countryside roads in the countryside to find customers. This is the invalid customer produced by "mass production", that is, invalid social interaction.
On the other hand, if he accurately analyzes which neighborhood is the richest, the most densely distributed work, income status, local and foreign population statistics.
Then he will be more successful when he finds the target customer again. Socializing like
is an effective socialization. The difference between
is that
invalid social networking is mass-produced, but it will not help you in any way.
Effective social networking is also mass production, but you can see results quickly after you make efforts.
and other things are all "utilitarian social interaction".
2. Ineffective social interaction brings you a very "bad"
Some people, even if you don't say a word, you won't feel embarrassed; there are also some people, although they spend a short time with you, you hate them from the bottom of your heart.
is ineffective in socializing. When you get along with the other person, you feel deeply depressed and make you feel negative emotions or anxiety.
For example:
Poker: You don’t like you everywhere, and you have to argue with you every word.
Jealous: I can’t stand you in a good life, and I will hinder your pace in the open and dark.
Inner Consumers: Being with them makes your ordinary heart begin to consume internally; and excessive internal friction eventually becomes anxiety.
In invalid social interaction, you don’t feel happy, but instead you are suppressed, uncertain, and anxiety, which ultimately makes you unable to help but want to escape.
In fact, what most people are experiencing is "invalid socialization".
Although I was unhappy, I didn’t have the courage to escape; I suppressed my true emotions and forced myself to cater to it.
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How to find "effective social"?
1. The goal determines your social
For example:
You want to change your career, and before you change your career, you want to know some big shots in this industry.
You have to go to this circle to understand this industry enough and participate in more industry gatherings, so that you have the chance to meet it.
If you want to get out of singleness this year, you can’t stay at home every day, you have to often have some car friends’ meetings, blind dates, and dinners organized by friends.
This is to determine social interaction based on goals.
Effective socialization is based on a person's early planning and goal coordination.
2, the result attracts social
. Similarly, you want to change careers and meet the big guys in the industry.
Then you can start with the results.
first, don’t worry about when you can get to know those big guys.
As long as you can get to the top in this industry and this field, you are the "connections that can be made in their eyes".
This is to determine social interaction based on the results. The best result of
is your biggest advantage.
3. Self-worth is the basis for establishing social interaction
For example, in the ocean, " guide fish " coexist with sharks.
How does a guide fish with a body length of only a few dozen centimeters become a "coexistence relationship" with a huge shark?
The relationship between guide fish and shark is "value exchange".
guide fish can help sharks clean up residues or parasites in their mouths, which greatly reduces the pain of sharks after preying.
And sharks can provide a "sense of security" for guide fish.
What is the fake tiger power? The relationship between guide fish and sharks is that the fox is fake and the tiger is powerful.
A cleaner who wants a sense of security and a cleaner who wants a mouth. Relationships like
are the essence of social relationships.
You have to be valuable first to attract others.
Your value determines your initiative in social interaction.
Today’s topic:
What do you think is the difference between effective socialization and invalid socialization?
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