text丨Love words: 30:30
I am here, waiting for the wind, and waiting for you.
In the emotional life of two people, many times, what we really care about with this person is not verbal sweet words, nor how expensive big-name bags or luxury brand watches for the other party, but should be to give the other party what he really wants.
Just like in nature, some animals like to eat grass. If you like to eat meat for it, and impose your own ideas on others under the guise of "love", this is not called love, it is just self-deception and self-motivation.
You think that what you call "love" will move the other person and will make the other person devoted to you. But in reality, he just feels imprisoned, bound by your forced love, and even staying in the same room as you feels unable to breathe.
In fact, the most important thing in love is to understand what the other person’s real needs are. Only by truly understanding the other person’s needs can he feel that he is valued.
Especially for women, don’t foolishly think that he is just stubborn. If a man truly loves you, if a man truly values you, then he will definitely give you the following two things.
A man who truly values you will take the initiative to give you a sense of ritual in life
In our daily life, women always seem to need more sense of ritual in life than men. Because women always attach more importance to the quality of their lives than men.
When our lives are filled with small surprises and every day is filled with flowers, we will feel very happy and happy.
So, after a man and a woman are together, women will always record every meaningful day, write these days in the calendar, and live the day very ritually.
Because women attach great importance to the time they are with him, and naturally they will think that these times are precious, just like the small shell by the sea. After cleaning them well, they will treasure them in their own small box.
Many men don’t understand this. They will find it particularly troublesome. Some men even feel that it is not only unnecessary, but also seem to be particularly pretentious.
"100 days of getting to know each other", "first date anniversary", "first hand-held anniversary", "formal anniversary of becoming a boyfriend and girlfriend", etc.... are all particularly important for a woman.
Because, many women pursue their own romance, and hope to temporarily get out of reality for a while and live in the beautiful fantasy of novels or TV series.
So, if a man really loves you and really values you, he will definitely take the initiative to give you a sense of ritual in life and make your lives more romantic.
A man who truly values you will fully respect your personal choice
There are countless choices of big and small in our lives. Many times, it seems that these choices are decided by ourselves.
But in fact, there are too many things we cannot control in life. We cannot decide what we look, what we are born, or what we will stay together for the rest of our lives in the future. Therefore, each of us has few opportunities to choose from.
The ancients once said: "Do not do to others what you do not want others to do to you." As long as each of us makes our own choices, respects others' choices, and does not interfere with each other, it is already great.
is even more so in love. Never have this mentality: "Because I am your man, you should..." There are so many "should" or "not" in the world. Cause and effect like
is ineffective in itself, and relationship binding will only make the relationship between two people go further and further.
Just like the relationship between Yinengjing and Qin Hao , when Qin Hao plucked up the courage to confess to Yi Nengjing, who was 10 years older than him, Yi Nengjing asked, "I am already 45 years old. What if I can't have a baby in the future? Will you still be willing to be with me?"
Qin Hao immediately replied in a serious tone: "It doesn't matter, if you can't give birth, just don't give birth." This shows that Qin Hao really loves Yi Nengjing.
Because he values Yi Nengjing's ideas and loves Yi Nengjing deeply, he will not interfere with Yi Nengjing's right to choose.
So, only men who will fully respect your personal choices and value all your ideas will truly value you and truly love you.
Conclusion:
In the process of pursuing a perfect and harmonious love, many women will choose to escape the problems existing between two people, do not want to conflict or conflict, so it doesn’t matter if they are a little wronged.
But in fact, if you don’t say it, he won’t know; if you don’t express it, he won’t know how to cherish this relationship.
If a man truly values you and loves you, he will definitely take the initiative to give you a sense of ritual in life and will definitely fully respect your personal choices.
After all, for someone who loves you, your happiness is the most important thing in life. So where does your happiness come from?
Actually, it is to give you a sense of ritual in life, make you feel that life is very happy, and give you enough respect in love. This is true love!
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