Everyone’s personality, living environment, social status, etc. are different, so there is no saying in the world that empathizes with each other. Even if you have similar experiences, you cannot have the same feeling. Some words to outsiders can bring closer relationships or bring an active atmosphere to everyone, but not everything can be said to outsiders. Let’s take a look at the following three points and you will know which words cannot be said to outsiders.
first, couple relationships with your partner
The elderly who are at this age pursue ordinary life. After spending most of their lives together, there will inevitably be bumps and bumps. As the saying goes: "A couple quarrels at the bedside, and the bed is harmonious." If two people have conflicts, don't rush to reveal your feelings to outsiders. You must first adjust your emotions. You can tell outsiders why you quarrel or some small conflicts. There is no need to deny your partner because of what happened this time, talk to outsiders and tell others about the other party's previous mistakes and shortcomings. In your opinion, they are the guides of your emotions, but in their eyes, they have been listening to your complaints and complaining with your partner who has lived with you for many years, and will also feel disgusted. Feelings require mutual understanding and communication, rather than "talking" to outsiders.
Because doing this can only reveal the grievances in your heart, and it cannot promote harmony with your spouse. Although the relationship between the couple's husband and wife is deeper than that of young people, as the saying goes, people's words are terrifying. Some things let outsiders know, and every word you say will affect your own judgment ability. It is very likely that your relationship will get worse and worse. Therefore, keep your own small family and try not to spread it outside, so that you can live a happy life in your later years.
Second, children's affairs
Our age is slowly withdrawing from our careers. This is the golden period for children to be young and vigorous and to work hard. When the career is stable or the great cause is achieved, don't rush to talk to outsiders about their children's affairs. You can't determine the future path of your children just because you are at a certain stage. So there is no fixed number of things, don't publicize them, and don't tell outsiders your judgment. If you think about this far-reaching situation, it will be embarrassing when there are variables in the future. Think closer, if your children are better outside and there are more people who know it, you will inevitably come to visit you and ask for it. Isn't this causing trouble for yourself? If you can help easily, it's better to say, but the children's situation is in a difficult period recently, wouldn't it add fuel to the fire and embarrass your old face.
Third, the wealth status of one's own family
"money", this thing is the most impossible to talk about, because except for their parents, no one wants you to be richer than them. People are jealous. The savings at this age are often accumulated by us when we were young. There is an idiom called wealth without leaking out. These four words are simple to say, but it is difficult to do. Some elderly people like to show off how thick their family is. This is the stupidest way. Even if they have a higher pension capital and pension, they need to be low-key and introverted.
Previous articles:
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-