I will never forget that experience of being disrespected. If there is a next life, I will never marry a foreigner again; Pei Jian and I met on a trip.

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The experience of being disrespected, I will never forget that if there is a next life, I will never marry a foreigner again; because now I am extremely clear about the consequences of betraying the family and betraying my faith...

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and I met on a journey.

I am an authentic Hui tribe girl in Xinjiang, he is an authentic Sichuan man.

I am a curious and tourist, and he is a humorous and funny tour guide.

The journey that has not yet been completed has left me with beautiful memories.

That day, he took the initiative to add my WeChat.

flew back to Xinjiang, and I thought he was just a passerby in my life journey.

Unexpectedly, three months later, he chased Xinjiang relentlessly.

I immediately rejected him because I am Hui and my family rules are very strict.

I cannot marry a foreigner.

I thought my "coldness" would make him give up.

Unexpectedly, he was very persistent and took root in Xinjiang.

A few years ago, Xinjiang's tourism industry was in full swing, and he had caught up with a good opportunity.

On the day the travel agency opened, he came to pick me up in person and said I had to go.

When I saw those photos in the showroom, I felt a little excited.

On the journey we met, he secretly took a lot of beautiful photos of me.

It turns out that he has already been moved by me...

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His eyes were filled with deep love.

It is false to say that I have no slight affection for him, but it’s a pity that I don’t have the courage to rebel against my family.

different tribes have become our rocks across the mountain.

He swears, he promises that he will only love me in his life.

He said he is willing to respect my faith and is willing to change everything "original" for me.

He said he fell in love with me at first sight, and said he never believed in fate before.

Until he met me, his heart pounded.

Under his persistent pursuit, I secretly dated him with my parents behind my back.

From the first friend to the gradually understanding of his character and family.

until it is inseparable and develops into lovers.

Half a year later, my parents discovered our relationship and firmly opposed it.

whatever I say, they won't give in.

Even though Pei Jian took out his passbook and family background to show that he could bring me happiness, they still refused.

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My dad was so angry that he entered the hospital, and my mom wiped his tears every day.

Relatives began to do my job and talked about the disadvantages of marrying foreigners.

slowly, I was a little hesitant.

I live in an orthodox Hui family. How can I not understand the "rules" since I was young?

My mother listed my cousin’s marriage to me, so that I would not be confused.

On one side is the coercion of parents, and on the other side is the bombardment of Pei Jian.

In order not to make my parents sad, I pretended to be on a blind date and secretly had sex with Pei Jian.

The doctor looked down on me, and the civil servant didn't feel it...

My dad was angry and locked me up directly.

He roared and yelled at me.

"I knew you still had that brat in your heart. Remember it for me. As long as I am alive, you don't want to marry a "foreigner" person."

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Pei Jian knew that I was locked up and impulsively called the police.

I am free.

But my family is famous, and my parents were laughed at by neighbors, relatives and friends.

Everyone knows that I am a good girl, and I have been polite and understand the rules since I was a child.

But he competed with his parents in terms of love and made a big fuss.

Since then, the atmosphere in my house has not been very harmonious and there is no longer the warmth it used to be.

My mother said that I was a girl in vain.

My dad was so angry that he didn't pay much attention to me at all, and he completely thought I was air.

persisted for a year, and Pei Jian became anxious and I was tired.

The different customs of both sides have also begun to appear.

Pei Jian couldn't help but eat and drink with his Sichuan buddies.

This is something that we Hui people are very taboo.

Although he repeatedly promised not to eat nonsense anymore and would respect my beliefs.

But I didn't have the courage to elope with him after all.

Gradually, the smile on my face began to dissipate and I fell ill soon.

This time, my parents took the initiative to give in.

proposed to let Pei Jian join our teaching and get married.

Although Pei Jian loves me and is willing to respect our customs, he can be admitted to the church and must not agree.

He was doing well in Xinjiang and naturally knew the customs of the Hui people and the consequences of joining the church.

I am like a piece of cake , and they are in pain.

Just when I wanted to give up, I found out that I was pregnant.

panic, and I called Pei Jian who was on a business trip in tears...

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He flew back overnight and said he wanted to marry me immediately, so that I could not let me feel wronged.

I was so scared that I was so scared that I knew my family would not allow such a thing to happen.

One step wrong.

In order to cover up this embarrassing secret, I became more and more wrong and my courage became more and more courageous.

I stole the household registration book and secretly went to the Civil Affairs Bureau with Pei Jian.

I want to cover up the fact that I was pregnant before marriage.

This time, my parents were completely angry, and the relationship was completely broken.

My dad drove me out of the house and told me to go as far as I can.

I remember it too clearly. It was raining heavily that day. I dragged my suitcase and stood in the rain...

Pei Jian rushed over to protect me like crazy, and I beat him hard.

"It's all your fault, it's all your fault, my parents don't want me anymore..."

Pei Jian hugged me tightly...

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Pei Jian really wanted to give me a grand wedding, but I refused.

I didn’t receive my parents’ blessings, and I felt uneasy, let alone that thought.

invited a few good friends to have a meal, which was considered to witness our love.

Everyone says that love is easy and marriage is difficult, but we are difficult to do anything.

Different living habits and different beliefs are destined to be full of contradictions in life.

We used to be so confident and so confident.

but ultimately lost to reality.

After getting married, Pei Jian quit his favorite braised pork , Dongpo elbow , sweet and sour pork ...

For me, he can recommend it if he can.

He knew that the deliciousness of that table was hard to resist.

For me, Pei Jian learned to eat mutton beef, learn to Xinjiang's pull ticks , and pick movies.

Even the daily language and culture gradually followed my taste.

Even our big and small sections follow our customs.

His changes made me feel relieved and a little distressed.

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The arrival of our son has added a lot of happiness to our family.

also ushered in our first quarrel.

everything started because of the settlement of my son.

home is with Pei Jian and filled in Sichuan.

Ko tribes have a dispute. I want to fill in the Hui tribe, he wants to fill in the Han tribe .

He was very upright and said that his son had to follow him.

he muttered in a low voice.

Although I didn't hear clearly what I was muttering, I could tell from his expression that he wanted to "death" with me.

I argued with reason and did not give in. I insisted on filling in the Hui people and let my son follow my faith.

Seeing his inconvenient expression, my mood fell to the bottom for the first time.

I cried and called him a liar and a hypocrite.

He lit a cigarette and took two puffs hard.

said I just wanted to change him, and said I just wanted to not consider his feelings and his parents' feelings.

He said that if his son wrote about Hui people, he would have all kinds of inconvenience when he returned to the mainland in the future...

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I was shocked and sweated.

"Pei Jian, what did you think of? What did you mean to go back to the mainland? Could it be that you want to run away with your son?"

He did not answer me positively.

looked at his ruffian and uncompromising look.

I was so angry that I threw a teacup over.

He flashed by and called me domineering and unreasonable.

We started the Cold War.

Pei Jian, who used to give in to me everywhere, suddenly disappeared.

During that time, I felt like I was almost depressed.

From falling in love to getting married and having children, we have changed a lot in just a few years.

Think about it carefully, except for the embarrassment and helplessness of different races, we really don’t have much to worry about getting angry.

I often think about it.

If we were all Han people, maybe I wouldn't have been driven out by my dad at all.

We will not fight for the family of our son.

won't be angry about eating a bite of big meat.

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As I thought about it, I felt panicked.

Our seemingly harmonious marriage seems to have an undercurrent crisis.

happens to be the arrival of my mother-in-law, which temporarily alleviates our conflicts.

My mother-in-law is a sensible person. She respects my customs very much and even scolds Pei Jian.

Don’t mention it’s too much to relieve your anger.

My son naturally followed my clan, and he won a little.

Because of my son, my relationship with my parents gradually eased.

Pei Jian paid for them to change their four-bedroom house. My dad said that he was interested in anyone, but he was very happy.

Mother-in-law has been in Xinjiang for more than half a year. When his son was one year old, he proposed to go back to Sichuan and wanted to take his son back.

said we were too busy at work and sent it back to us after we went to kindergarten.

I suddenly had a hard time.

One is because he is reluctant to let go, and the other is because he is afraid that his son will not be able to control his words when he goes to Sichuan, which will break the family rules.

I politely refused, Pei Jian was so annoyed.

He was furious and said why his grandmother was not qualified to take care of her grandson, and said that his father had never seen this treasure so far.

I blurted out: "Just because he is my son, I am his fuck."

My mother-in-law once again compromised on the issue of her son's stay or not.

Before leaving, we also left a bank card.

said marriage was too hasty and didn’t have time to do it for us.

said that although Pei Jian can make trouble and make money, the mall is like a battlefield, so he is not panicked when he prepares more money.

Unexpectedly, this became the life-saving money later...

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I saw the tears in Pei Jian 's eyes, and also saw the cracks between us.

Pei Jian is so generous to my parents, but I am so "unfilial" to his parents.

even let them enjoy the joy of family.

I am sure that Pei Jian thinks this in his heart.

During that time, he always went on business trips, had endless work, had constant social engagements, and had constant calls.

vaguely I feel that he is not in a good mood.

Then the new crown epidemic came.

No one can escape, no one can change it.

overnight, the tourism industry across the country was wailing everywhere.

Pei Jian’s phone was almost blown up.

I was scared when I saw him smoking all night.

I held my son and begged him to sleep for a while, even if it was a little while.

He tilted his head and leaned gently against me.

"What should I do? What should I do if the car fare and group fee I paid?"

I was speechless, I knew he was under great pressure.

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Friends learned about Pei Jian’s situation and advised him to change his career.

But Pei Jian was so arrogant that he had to go all the way to the dark.

Actually, everyone is on the road to betting.

No one can see the road ahead clearly.

finally unblocked, dealing with some messes, trying to win a game back in the golden autumn.

who knew it was sealed at home again.

employee started to give in, and Pei Jian was very desperate.

During the Spring Festival that year, he finally ended the company's business cruelly.

took my son and I back to Sichuan.

I thought that after experiencing this catastrophe, our hearts became closer.

Unexpectedly, what was waiting for me was his "indulgence".

Maybe it was because he had experienced too long depression, or maybe it was because he had experienced the test of life and death, and he took everything lightly.

I am the only one who sticks to my beliefs.

Actually, no one is wrong, the mistake is just the original choice.

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Two people of different races are themselves a "contradictory" body.

A brief compromise does not represent lifelong loyalty.

In-laws were very happy to see our arrival, and even a little helpless.

father-in-law even kissed his grandson again and again, wishing he could hold it in his arms every day.

My mother-in-law specially bought a new pot and pan to touch her, respecting my customs, and her refrigerator at home was stuffed with beef and mutton.

I see all this in my eyes and remember it in my heart.

is just the harmony between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and does not add icing on the cake to our marriage.

finally returned to his territory, and the slutty and arrogant Pei Jian was naturally like a fish in water.

either play mahjong or make an appointment.

seems to make up for all his time wasted in Xinjiang in the past few years.

Fortunately, he always brought me with him at a party, although I only drink water and don’t move my chopsticks.

It is just a symbol of eating some vegetarian dishes, including chicken and fish.

But I know he was unhappy.

As soon as I advised him to play less mahjong, he became particularly impatient.

In his words, people must follow the customs.

The implication is that I have to let go of my broken rules and eat whatever I have.

I was simply shocked.

He really took care of my emotions in front of me, but when he was carrying me on his back, I didn’t know.

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Later, I was unwilling to go out with him, and he didn't force him.

Fortunately, my in-laws are very good to me and even more good to my grandson.

Pei Jian is back late, and his father-in-law wants to say a few words to him.

Mother-in-law even said that he was a father and looked a little bit.

I am the only one, like a resentful woman, I feel something is wrong, I can’t explain it clearly, and I can’t say it clearly.

I don’t know why my temper was worn out.

Sometimes I just don’t want to say it, because once I say it, I can’t avoid a quarrel.

I know that the travel agency is closed, and Pei Jian feels uncomfortable.

Due to the epidemic, my unit also went bankrupt, and I knew it was not good.

th that Spring Festival, we had a pretty happy life.

just stay away from Xinjiang. I miss home and parents more and more.

I thought it was just a short stay, a short healing.

Who knew that Pei Jian had a bad idea and wanted to start a business in his hometown and open a Xinjiang restaurant.

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He told me very well, but I was not interested.

I said a lot of reasons, but he said this is a way to be both good.

He said that he opened a restaurant because he loved me and was afraid that I would not get used to it.

At that moment, I really thought Pei Jian, who loved me deeply, was back.

But who knows that everything is a dream.

With the help of in-laws, the start-up funds were quickly in place.

To be honest, Pei Jian is a business man.

He has never been involved in the catering industry and has made a lot of money once again.

The long-lost smile also appeared on his face.

life has taught us a lot, gain and lose, fall and stand.

Repeatedly let us experience the vicissitudes and beauty of the years.

Pei Jian and I have returned to our good times...

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We bought a house again near our in-laws' house and have our own love nest.

The child is led by her parents-in-law, Pei Jian and I continue to enjoy the world of two.

In theory, I am very happy.

But if you are too happy, you will have trouble coming to you.

Maybe it is affected by the region, Pei Jian no longer cares so much about my beliefs.

He started eating fat rice noodles at the entrance of the community.

and I will praise it in front of me, not caring about my feelings.

I was so angry that I was so angry that I was so angry that I was so angry that I was so angry that I was so angry that I was so angry that I was so angry that I was so angry that I was so angry that I was so angry that I was so angry that I was so angry that I was so angry that I was so angry that I was so angry that I was so angry that I was so angry that I was so angry that I was so angry that I was so angry that I was so angry that I was so angry that I was so angry that

Fortunately, I didn't eat in front of me, so I got angry and warned him.

But he was more and more eager, and he actually took his parents to a famous Chinese restaurant.

actually brought my son with me.

Although the child is young and can’t eat anything, he is still a villain after all, and it is impossible not to eat a bite.

No matter what, their behavior goes against our customs.

This time I was angry.

But Pei Jian is even more angry than me. He just asked me to be almost the same, so don't cause trouble for the whole family.

said this was Sichuan, and said that his parents had changed their mouths for many years for me.

He was very upright and said that he occasionally took his parents out to play teeth sacrifice ?

I was so angry that I couldn't answer the words. What I knew occasionally, and I didn't know how many times I had.

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After all, he just doesn't want to keep it in, nor does he want his parents and my son to keep it in.

In his words, he is suffering from life.

Later, he simply bought a set of pots secretly.

I started making braised pork at home.

is simply challenging my bottom line.

Just the moment he stuffed flesh into his mouth, I opened the door.

I smashed the pot and basin.

This time, Pei Jian did not get angry, but put on his shoes and carried the car keys out of the door.

I don’t know what he is thinking, is he regretting it? Or are you living a comfortable life and want to find fault?

looked at his familiar and unfamiliar back.

My tears couldn't stop flowing.

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Although he apologized afterwards, saying that he shouldn't have treated me like that.

In-laws also sincerely apologized, saying that they were not considerate enough.

But I can't overcome this hurdle in my heart.

I know that my happiness and I are gone forever. No matter how we disguise it, we can't go back to the purity of the past.

His preferences, I have my persistence.

I can't give up my family's belief for love.

I remembered my parents’ advice and my once rebellious self.

now looks more like a joke.

Learned from my mistakes, I made a bold decision.

That means flying back to Xinjiang and returning to the hometown where I gave birth to me and raised me.

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Children are destined to be unable to take them away.

Although I can't bear to bear it, I know I don't have the ability to give him a happy life.

My parents' home, I don't have the face to go back. I was so determined at the beginning, but now I am so dirty. The day after she flew back to Xinjiang quietly, Pei Jian chased after her.

He asked me like crazy, what do you want to do?

I looked at him coldly: "What do you don't want to do? Just want to be alone and think about it carefully."

After half a year of trouble, no one could resolve the knot, so we divorced.

did not say hello to anyone and left quietly.

Marriage is in a hurry, and divorce is also happy.

Pei Jian is very grateful to me for leaving the child to him and did not make the elderly sad.

He was also very generous and gave me all the property in Urumqi, including the mansion I gave to my parents.

finally hasn't reached the end of life.

No matter how much the two people in love are, they have never been able to compete with the different regional customs in this world.

No one wants to compromise, and no one wants to really change.

The wrong time, wrong place, and met someone you shouldn't have met.

changed life and changed the situation.

also changed my previous view of the world.

can't be dispelled, can't be relieved, and can't be cut off.

all originated from us having a cute baby...

This is an online story of emotional convexity...

Two young people who should have been happy.

One is gentle and moving, the other is humorous and funny.

break through the obstacles of the world and come together.

It’s a pity that I still lost to the wasted years.

all say that love is easy and difficult to get along with.

This couple is fully reflected.

They are not only couples, but also special interracial couples.

Homes, religious beliefs, etc. are all different.

How easy is it to change?

When you love passionately, you can really keep everything.

But once the baptism of time has passed, no one can guarantee that it will not change its original intention.

If there was no this epidemic, no company's bankruptcy, no homecoming to start a business again.

Maybe they won't be separated.

But there are not so many ifs in life.

Just like the heroine said, everything is wrong.

If there is really an if, she will not want to meet this man again, will not disobey her parents, and choose to marry a foreigner.

is like a good girl, obeying her parents' arrangements.

Living quietly like the sisters in the family.

But life has not started again.

This story made me think for a long time.

don’t know what method to express, nor do you know whether the expression is appropriate or not.

After all, the word faith is very sensitive.

thought about it again and again, and finally decided to record it in the form of an article.

Hope I can encourage you together...

Author: Xiaofeng

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