Author丨Windowsill
A boy asked me this way: How can I tell if I chat with a girl that she is also interested in me?
He has been in such a dilemma recently.
Because in his opinion, he thought that he was having a happy chat with a girl, and when he felt that he had a great hope of falling in love, he proposed the intention of further development, but the girl rejected him and said that he just treated him as a friend.
After hearing this sentence, he suddenly became unhappy and thought that the girl was playing tricks on him - since you don’t like me, why should you have an ambiguous relationship with me?
In fact, after listening to more details he said, I felt that the girl really didn't like him. She just kept chatting with him out of a kind of politeness and kindness, and deliberately procrastinated, such as slowing reply messages, and he misunderstood this behavior and believed that if a girl does not refuse to chat with him, it means that she is also interesting to him.
Generally speaking, there are certain differences in the thinking of boys and girls. If it is a little difficult to handle, there will be a certain degree of misunderstanding.
Men and women get along with each other, and the girl responded to the following three things, the subtext is: allow you to cross the line.
01. Respond to daily chat content and actively share it;
When getting along with intimate relationships, this is the basic manifestation of the other party’s intention to you.
To put it bluntly, for most people, they may not like to chat, especially some small things in life, because they are boring in nature.
Usually, the premise for really making this boring thing interesting depends on who is the person who is talking about it.
For example, if you are a best friend, you will complain about the details of your life for boring little things. Because you have known each other for many years, this kind of complaints may seem casual at first, and the second will be more stressful. Therefore, most people are accustomed to nagging in front of your best friend and talking about some daily trivial things.
Of course, the same is true in front of the person you like, but at this time it is more about sharing desire - whether you are happy or unhappy, you want to tell the other party, hoping to get emotional feedback from him, which will have a great comfort effect for yourself.
Even if what he says is similar to what others say.
So, if a girl not only responds to your usual chat content, but is willing to share it on the fly, it mostly proves that she still has some good feelings in her heart.
However, here we should pay attention to the frequency of girls responding to chat content. It does not mean that as long as a girl responds, it proves that she is interested. What is important for is to see whether she responds to the message quickly or not . If is not fast, for example, it basically only takes several hours or even half a day to reply. No matter how the other party explains, the essence is that she doesn't want to chat with you so much. It's just that due to some real reasons, it's not good to directly refuse. After all, you didn't say anything at this time, and directly refuse seems self-indulgent, so you have to let go and reduce the frequency of replying to messages.
02. You can agree to the meeting with you;
If your first step is basically satisfied, then you can propose to meet again.
Some boys may ask, how long is it appropriate to ask for a meeting after chatting?
does not have a fixed answer, because everyone encounters different situations, some are fast and some are slow, so you have to make a decision based on your actual situation.
For example, you feel that you have been chatting very well. You basically keep chatting every day and your responses are very sincere. Then you can make an appointment with each other.
If you propose to meet, the other party can agree readily. During the meeting, you all feel a relaxed and pleasant atmosphere of getting along, and naturally propose the time for the next meeting - the higher the mutual favorability, the faster the time for the next meeting will be.
If your next meeting is going smoothly, there is no doubt that girls must also be interested in in their hearts.
03. When you ask to go to your home to sit;
Don’t get me wrong. If you go to your home to sit, I mean purely going to your home to sit, and there is no other meaning. The content of
is actually a step-by-step process. As long as the previous step goes smoothly, you can continue to the next step, from being able to chat happily to meeting one after another. If you still have a good impression at this time, if you make further requests, girls generally will not refuse.
The most common thing is to go to a girl’s home. For example, you can find a weekend and ask two people to cook a meal together.
Two people went to the supermarket and cooked a meal at home together. This behavior actually attracted a good impression in the early ambiguous period.
But there is a key point, you must pay attention to: You cannot put this requirement too early, otherwise you will be considered frivolous.
The same requirements are proposed at different time points, and the impact will definitely be different.
Only when the relationship between two people reaches an ambiguous stage can it have corresponding effects when proposed. For example, you have met many times, and the other party can be invited every time, and have a lot of fun, and can also actively propose the time and place of the next meeting, etc. In other words, in this process, girls also begin to actively promote their relationship. It is natural to move forward to the next step at this time.
For individuals, home is a place with a strong private field. If you are willing to take a opposite sex to your home, it will definitely mean that she has trusted you from the bottom of her heart. At this time, your relationship will have more ambiguousness due to this step of promotion.
confession is just a natural thing.
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