1968, I was born in a village on the bank of the Huai River. I had an older sister in my family, with a younger sister and two younger brothers under me.
You can definitely guess that I have 5 sisters and I am the second.
My childhood was spent in the era of a large group.
When we were young, we caught up with the policy of dividing land to households. Our family of 7 people were divided into nearly 20 acres of land.
At that time, farmers' fields were planted with people cutting shoulders and ox plowing to complete spring and autumn harvest, so labor productivity was low.
The parents are a little overwhelmed when they plant so much land. They need a child to help them do something within their ability at home. First, they do not delay the farming time, and second, they can reduce their fatigue.
So, my parents chose me to stay at home to help them with some farm work among their 5 children.
Therefore, when I was in the fourth or fifth grade, my parents did not let me go to school and asked me to put that old buffalo at home.
Whenever I see my sisters and friends in the village happily going to school with their schoolbags on their backs, I also want to go to school.
But my father said: Do you all go to school and starve the cow to death? He whipped me and told me to herd the cows.
I remember one time, my sister didn't want to go to school and skipped classes. My father whipped her with a whip and forced her to go to school. At that time, I envied my sister and my parents felt sorry for her so much.
When I was 20 years old, my parents might have wanted to take care of me or help them with their work, so they told me about a family in the same village.
My partner is Fang Zhixue, who is about the same age as me. He is down-to-earth and capable, with only one sister, and his parents and family have only four people, so the family burden is relatively light.
When I was 21 years old, we got married. After getting married, like other rural women, I shouldered the dual mission of having children and farming and harvesting.
A few years after marriage, I gave birth to a son and a daughter.
After the child grows up, her husband has been working outside for many years. Her husband is tall and strong, so he started working as a shelf on a construction site.
My husband works outside, I farm at home and take two children to school. With the help of my parents-in-law, we live a prosperous life.
In 2008, we spent 50,000 yuan to buy a piece of land on the street, and spent a total of more than 200,000 yuan to build a two-bedroom and two-story building.
My husband is both family-oriented and responsible when working. He never gets flirted with things outside and leaves the money he earns every year to me to keep.
And the two children are also very successful in going to school. They have always been on the honor list in school. It is really comfortable and happy to live such a life.
However, the disaster happened in 2012 and our family was beyond recognition.
That day, a new worker was hired in the team of her husband's squad. When the new worker picked up the rod, the 6-meter steel pipe fell down suddenly because of poor technical skills and operational errors. Hit her husband's head. After falling from the building, her husband was sent to the hospital. He was treated in the intensive care unit in the intensive care unit for three days and three nights, but he still failed to rescue him.
I was only 45 years old when my husband died. Some people also said that I was young and introduced me to my boyfriend and asked me to form another family.
However, one of the two children goes to college and the other goes to high school. It is a time when my studies are tight. In order not to distract the children from studying, I did not consider reorganizing my family.
In order to give the child a warm and large rear, I planted the fields alone for several years, until I was 50 years old, and I transferred the fields to a neighbor in the village. After
, I went to a supermarket on this street and worked as a salesperson. I didn’t include food or accommodation, and I had a salary of 1,900 yuan per month.
I have worked in this supermarket for several years, and it will be the summer of 2021 in a flash.
That night, when I was sleeping in bed and browsing Douyin, a netizen called "Smile and Welcome the Sunset" took the initiative to like and leave me a message.
Out of politeness, I also left a message to him. Gradually, we became familiar with each other on the Internet, and later we added WeChat.
During the chat, he praised me for my sweet appearance, gentleness and kindness, and a good wife who lives at home. Unfortunately, he is a toad that can't eat my swan meat...
I have low education and can't type, so I give it to him incoherently using pronunciation and speech. When chatting, I said he was a playboy who could make people happy, and he picked up all the good words and lied about them. I was chatting with other women on my back, and I used this to deceive me today, and I used the same words to fool other women tomorrow...
was talking, and he turned on video chat for me.
I have never started a video chat with a strange man, so I hung up the matter.
Unexpectedly, he was so shameless that he had turned on the video several times. I was so entangled by him that I answered his video.
However, I turned the camera to the room and didn't want her to see me sleeping. In the
video, he was lying on the bed and asked me to see his ID card first. I saw that he looked like he was in his 50s and looked pretty and pretty.
He told me frankly that his name is Lu Wei. Although it is reasonable, he is actually a disabled person. When he was a child, his brothers were poor. After he suffered from polio, his parents treated him with the Tudan method, which delayed him into a lame man.
In the late 1980s, he opened a hair salon for beauty salon on the street, and it has been more than 30 years now. He also married a wife in his 20s, and his wife gave birth to two children with a son and a daughter. These two children are now married and married, and he also has a grandson and a granddaughter.
Eight years ago, when they were building a highway here, their wife cheated on a small boss. After elopement for a while, she divorced him when she came back. During
, someone introduced him to several girlfriends, but he felt that none of them were suitable, and it was better for me to be his wife.
He also told me that although he is a disabled person, his business is OK. He is tied up with every episode and memorized episode on average, and he can earn more than 300 yuan a day. When he was busy with business, he didn't care about cooking or eating. He was often hungry and full, and he was not in time for food. He wanted me to take care of his life and spend the rest of his life with him. He also promised that I would be free from food and clothing and be happy in my old age.
that night he told me a lot, and it sounded very sincere and practical. I was moved by him. After his repeated begging, I pointed the camera at myself and asked him to see me who had not been beautified. .
He praised me again, saying that he was destined to have insomnia again tonight, and said that he wanted to come here to pick me up.
I didn't hang up his video until my son called him.
I happened to take this opportunity to tell my son what happened just now. My son said that I was alone at home and did not object to me to find a wife. He was just worried that I was not educated and could not see through the sinisterness of people's hearts, and was afraid that I would be deceived. My daughter-in-law also expressed in the video that she supported me to find a wife, and she also asked me to take a closer look before making a decision.
That night, Lu Wei sent me a 5.20 red envelope.
After this chat, I sealed the emotional door for more than 10 years and was knocked by this Lu Wei again. I seemed to be savoring the joy and sweetness of being chased.
From then on, he had to video chat with me every night, and later his requests became more and more excessive. He actually had to look at my body. Under his soft and hard work, I met his requirements.
Finally, he asked for my address and said he would come to pick me up after a while.
21 Mid-Autumn Festival, he closed his business for a day, booked a small car and drove more than 80 kilometers, took me to his hair salon, and gave me 20,000 yuan as a betrothal gift.
In this way, we didn’t get a certificate or hold a wedding, so we lived a couple life like that.
Although he took me in a car, he lacked the red book with marriage certificate . I am not his famous matchmaker's wife. This is not only unprotected, but also lacks confidence.
Just over half a month ago, we were as loving and sweet as newlyweds.
Not long after, his warm life was disrupted by his ex-wife.
One day, I was helping Lu Wei dye his hair for a female customer. A woman in her 50s walked into the store. She walked up to me and almost lay on my face, smiling sarcastically, "I Let’s see this old beauty. Is it for his money or someone else? If you want money, no matter how much he earns, he has to give it to my son. If you want others, he is a cripple man, and even the real estate of this hair salon My name is written on the certificate. You want to be a squid. Maybe you haven’t woken up yet. "
I knew as soon as I heard it, the woman in front of me was Lu Wei’s ex-wife. I looked at Lu Wei and wanted to wait. In his attitude, he buried his head in cutting the customer's hair, without saying a word.
I was isolated and helpless, and I could only use the action of dyeing my hair to cover up my embarrassment.
Maybe there are too many customers in the hair salon. Lu Wei's ex-wife was embarrassed to be too pretentious. She muttered a few more words, but I still ignored her.
She walked up the stairs with a thump. After meeting General Tie, she came down in disgrace.
She said to Lu Wei: The surname is Lu, you have to save more money. My son will come back to pay the mortgage after a few days. Don’t fill all the money in any burn hole.
After two months of peaceful life, Lu Wei's son came back to ask him for money. His son had a fierce argument that day. He just wanted to transfer cash and did not transfer money. That time he took away 40,000 yuan.
After I came to his hair salon, I also learned to wash and dye customers' hair, which greatly improved the economic benefits of Lu Wei's haircut. During my peak, I dyed more than 10 hairs a day. It costs 30 yuan for him to dye one hair here, which means I earned him more than 400 yuan a day.
After calculating the turnover every night, Lu Wei collected the money, and then he swept away all the money from the WeChat and Alipay collection codes.
All I left was cooking, washing dishes, washing hair, dyeing hair and sleeping with him, but the money was not lost.
In the days that followed, his son calculated the days and would come back every once in a while to take away a sum of money.
As the saying goes: If you don’t fight for food with your mouth and open your eyes, if Lu Wei and I are the original couple, I don’t want money and don’t care about money, and I have no complaints. But the "couples" who live together like this have neither a status nor a guarantee. He didn't give me money, which was equivalent to a free nanny he hired. I was even more humble than the nanny. At least the nanny didn't sleep with the boss, but I slept with him.
Once, I asked him: Lu Wei, you said that I can have food and clothing and be happy in my old age. If you treat me like this, can I be happy in my old age? Your son took away the money. I don’t have a penny in my hand. Where can you be happy when you make me old?
Unexpectedly, Lu Wei said to me: You have food, drink, and clothes. This is not a worry-free food and clothing. Isn’t this happiness? Where do you want money to spend?
He was speechlessly responded to it by him.
An old lady at the door knew my situation and said to me: You are really stupid. You can't make a penny of money for him. You don't have any movement at home. Seeing that it would be a daydream to expect them to give you a pension in the future. Even if you are a nanny outside, you will have to pay you a salary of 3,200 yuan a month for food and accommodation. Why do you have to be humble and feel sorry for this?
The more I thought about it, the sadder I felt. I burst into tears without realizing it. I felt that the neighbors at the door were looking at me with strange eyes.
After I told my children about my situation, my son, daughter-in-law and daughter all asked me to come back. They said I would support me and not be here to serve other people's family and young.
This year, Lu Wei’s son also learned his lesson. Every time he came back, he would call me a aunt’s eldest, but her short aunt. He asked me to take the money to go to the street to make ribs and buy delicious and expensive fruits. After buying these things, he put them all in the back box of the car, and then he took them all the money he earned with his father. Sweep away.
I saw that the momentum was wrong and wanted to go home, but Lu Wei always fooled me and said how filial my son was to me.
I thought to myself: I will collect all the hard money I earn and you. Is it also called filial piety to rely on my parents without bottom line?
A neighbor said to me: I asked me to ask Lu Wei for the salary I deserve. If I don’t give it, I won’t serve them. Don’t wait until I’m old and can’t move. If I sweep me out, I will be miserable.
Nowadays, I have been unable to pay attention to what to do in my future.
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