I'm sorry my income is lower than my husband's. I was told, “If you earn as much as I do, you’ll consider doing housework.” As more couples continue to work full-time, there are more and more disputes about the gap in how to do housework and how to do it. many. Now more and more

I'm sorry my income is lower than my husband's. I was told, “If you earn as much as I do, you’ll consider doing housework.” As more couples continue to work full-time, there are more and more disputes about the gap in how to do housework and how to do it. many. Now more and more couples continue to work full-time, and there seems to be a lot of controversy over how to divide housework and parenting.

The problem is when two people do not match the accuracy required for housework and parenting. Even if one person thinks, “I don’t mind the room is a bit dirty”, if another person says, “I like to be so clean about bacteria, I hope the other person does the same.” There are certainly different things, like A question of time, a question of effort, and a matter of physical strength. The question seems to be how to reconcile this.

Don't force your opponent

"Since I had a child, my husband has started doing housework, but it's just a rough estimate. I just hang the vacuum cleaner on the open space, and the clothes were spread out and dried, so I don't need to iron it anymore .”Even good ones have wrinkles. At first, I gave them detailed instructions, but they never improved and showed no motivation," said
38-year-old Mickey with a wry smile. I have been married for nine years and have two children, one 8 years old and the other 5 Aged 2. Both husband and wife work full-time, but because the commuting time is shorter than that of her husband, she is responsible for the transfer of most children from kindergarten. After returning home on weekdays, her husband only takes care of the children. Occasionally, I ask him to iron me The clothes, but he said, "This is not for me", and ended up using a steam ironing machine. Husband is the type of ironing even the handkerchief.
"Once, I saw my husband give the child a wrinkled handkerchief, I can't stand it anymore. You don't have to do that now", but if you don't do it now, when will you do it?"
Then I told him I won't iron your clothes anymore, and my husband said, "Okay." , Mickey realized that she was the only crunchy person and became even more frustrated.
"When I was talking to my colleagues at work, he told me that I should change my mindset.' You are different from your husband, so it's impossible to tell them to do the same thing. Maybe it's natural to feel uncomfortable. Ah, I realized it . ”
Husband ignores most things. I rarely get angry. If so, I have no choice but to close my eyes on what my husband did, even if I did something I can't forgive. Otherwise, you will have to do everything yourself. "After that, I asked my husband to do laundry, I dry clothes, I asked him to take care of the clothes. Now it seems like I love cooking. Because my older kids became interested in cooking, my husband and I watched recipes on smartphones on weekends while watching recipes on smartphones while on weekends as my husband became interested in cooking. Do it on the one hand.
"It takes time and is also difficult, but I try not to complain too much. As long as my husband is involved in housework and parenting, I lower the threshold. "She smiled and said, sometimes you just need to close your eyes.

What is the excuse for a husband not to do housework

43-year-old Haruko lamented that her husband also works full-time and rarely does housework. He has been married for 13 years and has an 11-year-old My husband seems to think that he has only one child and will not have much work.
"When I work overtime, ask my mother for help. My husband often doesn't go home early when he has time. I have no idea. When I asked my family to cooperate with me more, one day, he gave me a month of working time. Including my commute time. My husband's office is farther away than mine. This is my time at work. Obviously, less time spent on chores," said Haruko. "Does it. Then the next thing my husband gave me was income." My husband said that if he earned as much as I did, he would consider it. Do housework. But income was not my decision. The chores I do are just volunteer work, which makes me sad. "My husband does not have a cooperative attitude. No matter what you think, you think you don't earn much, so you should do housework.
" For men, the amount of income may be the criterion for judging their own value, but it's strange The salary of men and women is different from the beginning. I asked if you don’t want to manage your family well."Then my husband said, "Unless both parties agree, it won't work. I just have that kind of values. "I'm very disappointed, my income is lower than my husband's. It seems that the Cold War is still going on.