This is the 773th real story we tell the story of
. My name is Xiong Tao
(I and Eli)
. I lived in a small mountain village in Hubei. My parents are farmers, and I have a sister. Although
is not high in parents, they often educate me to read more, and they may get out of the mountain village in the future.
I learned very well during elementary school and took the first school in the school. However, the situation became deteriorated later. In junior high school, learning was in the middle and upstream. When he reached high school, he fell to the middle reaches.
, the results of the college entrance examination can be imagined. After the score comes out, I only have a specialist. was originally intended to choose a school, but under the persuasion of my father, I read it for a year. In 2004, he finally entered the school gate of the university. At that time,
, I chose the major in garden greening design . At the beginning of graduation, I was confident that I wanted to show their fists, but soon I was beaten by reality. After
stepped into the society, I discovered that no matter how good designers and products were, they could not do without a mouth. Good expression and communication skills play a vital role in whether the transaction is successful. In this regard, I really lack.
, although the society is cruel, it is also the best teacher. In the past few years of
, I took the project and walked south to the north, often dealing with various people. After the society's beating and exercise, my vision was wide, my mouth was better, and my skin was naturally thick.
(thanks to your life for me)
I thought that life would go forward step by step. Unexpectedly, in 2012, my life trajectory had changed a lot. That year,
, the two -year -old girlfriend began to urge marriage, and also asked to buy a house. I said that I can't afford a house at , and I will definitely have it in the future.
, she still left me.
's emotional injury has not been cured, and there is a problem with the work there. I can only resign from the original unit to Beijing. When
was unlucky, drinking cold water was stuffed with cold water. In the first week I just went to work in Beijing, the wallet was stolen again on the bus.
is about to knock me down. Fortunately, a good girl soon appeared in my life.
She is like the sun, illuminating my dark life. Now think about it, I spend almost all my luck, just to meet Eli.
2012, Eli just arrived in Beijing to study in Beijing, and the school was in Wu Daokou . And my new company is there. Fate started like this.
(Eli is a girl with a straightforward personality)
Due to working reasons, I urgently need to improve the English level. And Eli, she just came to China and wanted to find someone to teach her Chinese. In this way, we met on a dating software. Who can think of
, she became my wife many years later.
talked about about a week, Eli gave me her mobile phone number, and we started to meet. It is said that men are visual animals. Although it was a bit exaggerated, when saw Eli at first glance, I was deeply attracted by her big eyes. I was impressed by
about the first meeting. Because has never seen such active and bold girls. When we ate together, chat, and watch movies that day, the whole process was very happy. When
eats, we have already had a certain impression of each other. When watching a movie, she took the initiative to lean to me. At that time, I felt very shy, but just stretched out my hand and put it in front of her, and did not dare to hold her hand.
(Eli often travels alone)
she glanced at me, smiled lowly, and took the initiative to put her hand on my hand. At that time, my little deer bumped in my heart and pounded. I think this girl is really straightforward. I like it, I like it without twisting.
gets along with the next, I found that the two of us not only have the opposite personality, but also, the lifestyle is also very different.
I have an introverted personality before and a bit conservative. Fortunately, after a few years of hard work in society, I dared to communicate with Eli.In his twenties, he hasn't gone to the country yet. There are not much money, and there are no capital that travels everywhere.
(Young and Beautiful Eli)
Eli is different. A girl born in 1988 has been to a dozen countries. Wherever you go, the cost is basically earned by yourself. Not only that, she is also very talented in . She studied English, French, and Spanish before middle school.
, she is independent and outgoing. After
we know, I often take her to eat various snacks. She also took me to try a lot of things that I didn't touch before, such as soaking, watching movies. I also met some of her foreign friends.
I and Eli's relationship increased day by day. Just like Mars hit the earth, although it was unexpected, he also loved it.
time came to 2013. We received the wedding certificate and held a wedding in 2014. However, this is also good, and it is not very smooth.
(wearing a cheap wedding dress, we are married)
Eli's international career is over, and I want to return to Italy, but I feel a bit inseparable from her, so I planned a proposal. I went to the airport to pick her up on the airport that day,
. I wanted to surprise her. I did not expect that it became an embarrassment for myself.
I held a large bouquet of flowers, and the ring was in my pocket, and the whole person was so nervous. As soon as Eli looked at my posture, she knew what I wanted to do. However, she said directly, "Don't stop, don't say, don't say anything, I won't agree to say it. We hurry up and go home now." I thought I thought it was wrong in
. No response. When I turned back, I found that she had run away. Suddenly, I had a feeling of being rejected.
Women's heart underwater needle is also good at all. Later, somehow, Ill asked me, "Did you buy a proposal ring?" I said I bought
.
"Take it for me." "Don't give it to you, you don't agree, I will hide it." As a result,
result, she found the ring out of the wardrobe while I was not at home. Send a message to tell me that the ring is beautiful and the diamond is large.
(Thank my wife, she is not material at all)
is actually very embarrassing. Because I just went to work at that time, there was no money, and the diamonds I bought were relatively small. But she still feels beautiful.
I said, "You wear it, it means you agree to be my woman." She said nothing and put on a ring. To be honest
, I like Elie very much, and thank her very much. When the two of us knew, it was my most poor time. I live in the rented compartment, with a monthly salary of 6,000 yuan. Not only can she give her a good house and a car, but also her name. and even a grand wedding can not be held.
, but Eli is not material at all and does not worship gold. She always thinks that what I like is you, as long as you are good to me. Others, I can earn myself.
has been married for nearly ten years, and Eli did not want to spend money with me. Even when she went out for dinner, she often paid her, or she asked the AA system.
(Eli's artistic photo)
, the more she wants to protect her, the more I want to give her the best things in the world.
, I thought to register to get married early. A thrilling episode happened that day, and we almost went to jail. On the day when
registered, we rented a car. Open from Beijing to Wuhan to go through the procedures, and then drive back to Beijing again. Eli will drive at the age of 18. She has better technology than me, so she has always been driving.
, but she only has an Italian driver's license and has no Chinese driver's license, but we are not going to take it seriously. In fact, this is equivalent to driving without a license. Fortunately, there is no accident. After
, I accidentally learned that if the traffic police found that Eli was likely to go to jail. Now I think about it a little bit, and I even have a feeling of the rest of my life after the robbery.
(just peaceful is good together)
is married, I have no house, no car, no money, and no wedding photos.If you change to a girl like my ex -girlfriend, I am afraid I won't look at me, let alone spend my life with me.
, however, Eli wore a cheap wedding dress we bought in the wholesale market, cheongsam, and marry me without hesitation. After
gets married, there is a time in life. After all, people who grew up in two different countries have completely different living habits and cultural customs. It is inevitable that there will be some small episodes that can't be crying.
once had once, and I and Eri and I returned to my hometown in Hubei to celebrate the New Year. The toilets in the countryside are outside, and Eli went to the toilet. After returning, she directly said to my parents: "It's too cold to go to the toilet outside, and the buttocks are painful."
Eli said that the old father was particularly embarrassing. In the second year, he installed a toilet in the room and repaired the bathroom.
(Recording a program on Beijing TV)
's straightforward temperament, there are many reflections. For example, she often said: "If you go out tomorrow, you may die in a car accident, so you have to enjoy life."
may be nothing to her, but we Chinese are still taboo.
In addition, due to the different cultural background, we also quarrel. I remember the first quarrel was in the kitchen.
is the first time I go to her house to cook. According to our Chinese people's thoughts, I do it, you just look at it. When I do it, you will be delicious. I will be very satisfied with a CD -ROM action.
, but they are different. Eli thinks that she must cook together. Because she enjoys this process, do it together and eat together, so that it is meaningful. So we quarreled because of this.
In fact, multinational marriage has more contradictions. Sometimes I also think that if I marry a Chinese wife, there may not be so much trouble. However, in turn, who is willing to marry?
(Eri and his family)
2018, his son was born. With the growth of my son, my life trajectory also changed again.
2019, I and Ily went back to Italy to visit relatives and gave my son a one -year birthday. As a result, the sudden epidemic trapped me in Italy.
In this strange country, his ears are hardly not familiar with Chinese, and there are local languages everywhere. The language is not unreasonable, and many things can't be done. You can't get a driver's license and you can't buy a ticket.
, I bought an electric car and often strolled around nearby. Now, the Italian train has Chinese, and the ticket system has a Chinese system. You can buy it directly in Chinese. Everything is getting more and more convenient.
, but after going abroad, I found out that it was not as good as foreign abroad. Originally, I thought that foreigners should be more adept at time, rigorous, and higher efficiency, but in fact, they are completely opposite. This surprised me.
(shopping in Italy)
epidemic is getting worse and worse. I can't return to China for a while, can't I always be idle? So I want to do something to start a business by myself. However, Eli's response surprised me again.
takes me for wine business, and Eli does not actually support me. At that time, we worked stable, and the income of the two was 30,000 to 40,000 yuan.
, however, men should become a business. I already have a family, of course, the rest is my career. It happened that Elijia is the production area of wine, and I also like to drink a wine.
thought about it, I decided to do this business. I thought that when my career was done, I would have the money to buy a house and car to improve my life. However, Eli thinks that enjoying life is also very important. If you have a job, you do n’t like to do business by herself.
We also quarreled because of this. Later, it was a long time. I summarized some ways to get along.
(The years are killed pig knives)
all transnational marriage couples should understand that we come from different countries, have different cultures, and need more understanding and consideration. Think of the other party from the perspective of the other party, after all, the other party is a foreigner.
The habits and concepts of life since childhood are different, so do not take your own country's standards to ask each other.
another thing is that no matter what problems they encounter, Eli insists on communicating and never holds her heart. Even if it is a big quarrel, you must not remembers it after the noise. The next day, it is okay, it's time to chat, and it should be hug. Before
, he was too poor to buy good things. Now, the company's annual turnover is considerable. I also want to buy some brand -name gifts for Elie, but this is too difficult.
She is a person with strict requirements. In her eyes, it is not that you can buy her expensive, but to be attentive.
(Eli's pregnancy)
also has a small story. I bought her a comb with sandalwood . That comb was the most expensive one I have bought, and gave her it at the time. I thought she would be happy, but she was very angry, saying what you bought for me, do you think I was ugly, do you want me to dress up?
This is the difference between culture. We Chinese send combs. I think there are some good morals in it. But she doesn't think so. Later, after using it, she felt that this comb is really good, and let me buy one and give it to her mother.
Westerners pay more attention to the sense of ritual. gets up in the morning and gives her a kiss to express her love for her. , especially in what festivals, I will give gifts to Elie.
is sometimes a thousand -piece brand bag or watch, and sometimes two or three. Although she likes it, she wants to get the gifts I gave to her after observation. Even if
is an ordinary toothbrush, as long as she needs it, I will be very happy to send her.
(for the rest of your life, cherish it)
Of course, Eli asked me like this, and she did this. Usually I say it casually, the phone case is broken again. As a result, she will buy a new mobile phone case for me on the right holiday. This is where she is attentive.
last year, our daughter was born. With a pair of children and accompanied Eli, I think this is happiness.
We have been married for almost ten years. Although there are also quarrels, there are many contradictions, and even more contradictions than ordinary families.
, I think about it carefully, a girl like Eli, she doesn't try anything, she feels that I am good and willing to marry me and have children. Bitter, eaten. Blessings, enjoyed. This is true love, enough.
has been in her life for the rest of her life, making her warm sun, and making her hope. Everywhere she is, she is her, and her heart is all her.
[Oral: Xiong Tao]
[Edit: Small Bone]
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