article | Zhu Shiyong
In the case of fast -paced, pursuing economic benefits, and high living costs, the busy and absent husband, anxious and tired wife, is a very common family model.
, but this marriage contradiction is also hidden in crisis. In the long run, there are several possibilities:
first, husband and wife are indifferent, lack of emotional nourishment, more like colleagues.
husbands and wives are more like a partnership to open a company, like colleagues, busy affairs together, but lack of intimacy and lack of emotional flow.
Husband is busy with career, pays attention to the family's attention and time, and the action will be very limited. No matter how much love between the husband and wife will consume clean with the absence of the role.
will feel more and more alienated, and the common language will become less.
Both people deeply feel that they have paid a lot for the family, and they feel very hard, but dig deep, you will find that they are working hard for their careers and children, and they do not really meet the needs of their partners.
Wife's anxiety will make the husband feel pressure. He feels that the family is uncomfortable or warm, and he will also be dissatisfied with his wife and family atmosphere. I will feel "I'm so busy outside, why do I still have to face your nagging and negative emotions when I get home?"
The emotional quality of the husband and wife will decrease, the lack of sense of lack, and the satisfaction of satisfaction. This is a very common situation. Essence
is second. Children lack love, lack courage, low resistance, low vitality.
's role is to provide children with exploration, courage, stress resistance, and frustration.
When the role of a father is absent, the child's growth will be limited. The child will lack strength in his heart. The power of exploration outward will become very "good".
Children will become rebellious during adolescence, because the father is absent and lacks emotional breeding. When he wants to involve the child's education in the future, the child is unwilling to pay, and he will resist very much.
Wife's anxiety is an emotional poison for the child. Children will be more confident in themselves. They will want to do more things to soothe their mother. At this time, the child stands in the "care of parents". Inner pressure and burden are too heavy.
's absent from the father and anxious mother will have a negative impact on the growth of the child.
is third. There are hidden dangers in the future and low anti -risk capacity.
Husband is busy with work and absent from the family. He will live himself as an outsider, which will also make the husband and wife feel fragile and have low anti -risk ability.
If a woman outside can pay attention, warmth, support, and understanding of their wives or husbands, they will easily be seduced. The more fragile the relationship between the
, the lower the anti -risk ability. It is likely that a period of extramarital affairs will destroy the marriage and terminate the marriage.
So, the two couples should increase their attention to marriage and manage time, not only work hard, but also strive to participate in the construction of marriage and husband and wife feelings.
is not an excuse. If you take your family and family with your heart and pay attention to it, no matter how busy you are, you have a way to pay attention.
Wife needs to find his own anxiety: often the more ignored, the more lack of love, the less support, the easier the wife will be anxious. What can promote the healthy development of emotion. In terms of
, the husband must participate in family interaction and care for his wife and children; the wife must reduce anxiety, and the two sides will gradually move to the right track.
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