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We followed the last issue, about the nonsense suggestions on Professor Chuyin .
Some female readers asked me a lot of topics and mate -choosing topics after reading it, and answered them concentrated.
Elderly leftover women have become a social topic, so what is the essence of this social topic?
You figured it out, and the problem solved.
We will look at the topic of older women. You stand on the perspective of women, especially old unmarried women, what do you feel?
is uncomfortable, right?
is like a word in the past, called unemployed tourism. This is derogatory. The premise is that you must employment by default. It is a sin that is unemployed. At least you think so subconsciously.
is the special situation of everyone.
You, you, like some people will say, I don't need to work. I have a mine in my house. I do n’t need to make money or be recognized. So what do I do? Some people will also say that
also said that I can't find a suitable job. What I want to do, there is no chance, let me do what I do, I don't want to do it. But at the moment, at least now I can't survive before I leave.
You see that these two people will be disgusted. In fact, everyone has their own reasons and do not want you to interfere.
is divided into two parts from the inside. Some part of
is to understand. Whether you do n’t need to work at all, or insist on finding Ruyi work, these are people who want to understand. What do I have in
? What do I want? I want to give up, every point, people want to understand.
is not necessary to discuss it. People do not ask you, you can't commit the freedom of others to interfere with others. The other part of
did not want to understand. They didn't want to understand whether my choice was excellent or inferior, so they came to ask you. After the topic of
is clearly explained, you can see that you can find the same.
is unmarried. For some people, it is the choice of others. People know what I have, what I want, and what I am willing to give up.
does not need seven aunts, eight aunts and 嘚啵 嘚啵 hints other people are the losers.
is so puzzled for the other part of them. They are originally puzzled. Hearing this obviously derogatory or implied tendency will be more confused and even anxious.
This leads to our topic. The root cause of women's mate selection problem is your feelings.
others say that you are older women. You care about it. You care about psychological perspective, which shows a mate selection attitude.
cares, and does not care about , this is the biggest difference between men and women.
talks about women choosing a spouse. We must first look at men to choose mate. Unlike women, men care about very little content.
is a man. If he has superior conditions and is commonly known as a selection, what will he care about?
is very small. Generally speaking, it is the appearance.
But in turn, what will she care about a woman with superior conditions?
she cares too much.
she will care about the male ability and comprehensive ability. The ability to make money, knowledge, literacy, talk, and humor. He cares about the man's inner, his character, his temper, his values, and his attitude towards himself. He cares about this man's family background, his parents' personality, income, education level, habits, etc.
has a paragraph on the network. It means that you want to get a woman, there are a bunch of things to do, you remember a series of commemorative days, to surprise her, to make her feel security, to watch the movie with her , I want to make an appointment to eat, give her a gift, remember what she once said, and understand her hints, ........
, in turn, only need to accompany him to sleep.
is a bit extreme, but grabbed the key points.
Women want to cultivate offspring, and they need to be complicated to ensure that their spouses are reliable, and men do not need it. They are more inclined to enter the theme quickly.
In other words, this is called careless.
I said earlier that when you hear the words of older women uncomfortable, you have explained that you care. You care about what others think of you.
You care about others, so you want to know others.
women use all the methods in the process of choosing a spouse. The so -called test is to understand each other.
, the other party may not want to know you.
do you think the other party is in love at first sight. In fact, the other party is in color.
or speaking. At first sight, when you see it at the perspective of women, it is established in the perspective of men. It is nothing more than covering well, and the performance is not like. Can
realize the gender difference in this middle?
Ni Zhen Write a script for Zhou Huimin , running all over Canada just to find the best cake. In Zhou Huimin, this is that he wants to know me and he cares about me. In Ni Zhen's view of
, these are just techniques. What he wants is to hurry up as you want, you know.
So Li Chen 's heart -shaped stone will become a stalk. He bought a basket 10 yuan on Taobao, and each girlfriend sent one, saying that this was unique to the seaside.
was not exposed online until there was a girlfriend on the Internet, and other girlfriends followed the sun. Everyone knew how many unique one was.
male, all male, in the process of biological evolution, learned to lie instinctively, learned to flickering, and learned to conceal your true purpose. What did
learn more? Learn not to care.
cares about you and you lose. If you care, your gene cannot be reproduced. In other words, there is one, our male ancestors are scumbags.
is not residue, he cannot leave DNA. The strategy of
is to give up and care.
If some are picky, of course, the beauty is beautiful. If you still pick it, it is difficult to choose from Jia Baoyu .
or, when the objective conditions are not allowed to all require more requirements. But from the deep inside, in fact, men's perception of parts of appearance and personality is not so strong.
is because this is the secret of the old ancestor, depth of DNA.
is a bunch of women. I said earlier that it is also the secret of genes. If women do not picky eaters, her DNA will not be reserved.
In other words, the ancestors of each of us have a bunch of requirements. With the screening of these requirements, she can ensure that she has chosen less so scum and helps her complete the childcare of offspring.
. If you stack these two points, you will find that the remaining girl is inevitable. Someone asked
, why did there is no such phenomenon in ancient times?
is very simple, because ancient times did not respect people at all and did not give women a chance to choose. For the ancients, it is possible to not marry. It is almost impossible not to marry.
Today, after human beings entered modern civilization, they learned to respect people.Since you have given women the power to choose, it is a probability event according to the genetic selection method.
In other words, few women get married because the other half is perfect. Most of them are not found because they can't find it.
is part of it. It is unwilling to make up, so it is left.
is not available to women, as long as you are willing to make up, you can always find people.
is only one problem now. What factors can be abandoned?
answer is no answer. Or there are two answers.
The first is the female answer. Women's requirements are trivial and complicated.
did he love me? This is important. Is he coincided with my three views? This is important. Does he understand me? This is important. Does he remember me at an important moment? This is important. It is even more important to include whether his parents can get it with me.
When all these requirements are retained, what do you find? I found that you can't choose.
Do you see a woman shopping and find a pair of shoes. Is it good? Is the color good? Is it good to wear a skirt? What if it is pants? Maybe this year, what about next year?
has been looking for a long time. After shopping for eight hours, I didn't eat lunch. Finally, I found a pair of people who were in line with my heart.
This is what I said without answers. If there are so many things you care about, it is equivalent to uns selection.
The second is the male answer. Standing from the perspective of men to make a choice question.
Do you see how men buy shoes? He ran to the store, saw a pair of shoes, closed his eyes, tried it, and paid.
is so simple. Why does he look at the appearance? Because of his eyes, why did he look at personality? Because you don't want to bother yourself.
In other words, men do not understand the differences between those beautiful and gentle girls. From their opinion, they are similar and they are all good.
If you do not need to be a choice question, it is best to make a choice question.
So stand on the standpoint of women, if you really want to urge yourself to make a decision as soon as possible instead of letting time pass. So the best strategy is like men, which is simpler.
or give up some requirements.
What are the requirements? From the perspective of absolute rationality, the requirement for low value preservation rate.
You choose a car, there is a value preservation rate. You can pick individuals, the same.
people are sorted according to the characteristics of the value preservation rate, the highest is character, and the nature of Jiangshan is easy to change. Human personality is the most difficult to change.
is followed by talent. There are only this thing, there is no difficulty and it is difficult. It is a very small probability event like Lu Meng .
is the third is wealth. Generally speaking, after ten years, rich people are still rich. Fortunes will pass, and class can also cross, but it is not so easy, at least not as easy as you think.
is the ultimate surface phenomenon, such as whether to love at first sight and whether there is a unique stone picked up to your heart -shaped seaside.
Women are emotional, but the most unnecessary decision -making is exactly sensuality.
If you have decided to make up, you choose those high value -preserving rates, and the degree of regret in the future will be lower.
You pay attention, I don't have a pack ticket happiness, I just tell you, how to do it may be less painful.
To tell the truth, a person's happiness is reversed with what he cares about. The more you care about, the more fragile you are, the lines of the power tour.
Why is it easier to be happier than women? Because they don't care. Or their happiness and simplicity.
do not care about what others think of themselves, no details, and do not want to know others. They are easy to be happy.
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