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has a problem, which makes parents of many families feel trouble -whether children are married and have children.
From the perspective of creatures, breeding offspring is the nature of biological nature. Why do children's behavior make parents feel trouble?
from traditional ideas, to get married and have children at an age, this is an inevitable approach. Why do children's choice make parents worry? Isn't it normal for
to find the other half of the "Cheng family" and start a new personal life? Why do young people refuse this concept today?
has too many problems and doubts, all lingering in our minds, but we just don't know what's going on. As a result, the contradictions between parents and children will only be more and more, not less and less.
has an institution for marriage and child, investigating 2,000 people. Data show that 64.3%of the respondents said that there were more " empty nest youth " around him. Lack of emotional sustenance (57.9%) and poor residence conditions (57.8%) are considered two major dilemma they are facing.
Whether it is emotional sustenance or so -called residence problem, young people have become increasingly indifferent to marriage. In their opinion, contemporary marriage has no longer "cost -effective".
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Talks the word "cost -effective". We need to analyze from two groups of men and women.
first talks about the group of men.
The current men's life is increasing, but the number of money they make has not increased, but they have a tendency to decrease. is under pressure, and less money is made. Isn't this anxious?
parents are very puzzled. The young son does not reduce some salary, and the life pressure is under great pressure. Why are they anxious? Isn't it good to live in poverty?
Actually, parents have forgotten a little. young children. They need to get married and have children, and they must avoid a sum of money. How does come?
is not only related to love, but also related to money and market related to the market. Ordinary men, no house, no car, no stable job, it is destined that it is difficult to find the other half.
in the past was quite traditional, endured, and painful for most of his life. These men have now become children's father. And their children also reached their crossroads of that year.
, the children, seem not so traditional. In their opinion, why do you have no ability to buy a house and a car?
, thus, they became the first generation of disgusting marriage.
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After talking about the male group, we have to talk about the female group.
From the traditional concept, we all believe that it is a trivial matter that girls do not read or make money. As long as they marry a good husband, everything will become better.
Of course, this traditional concept is outdated. is now higher than the girls, and they may make money to support themselves. At this time, they don't expect the other half.
has a girl. She is the indigenous of the big city. Not only does she have assets at home, but she also graduates from a master's degree, with an annual salary of more than 200,000. Both parents and elders feel that she will find a better half. Who knows, she doesn't look for it.
The parents asked her: "Daughter, your conditions are so good, why don't you find a better boy, join forces, and live a better life?"
The daughter only replied to her parents with one sentence: "Live by yourself" If you are doing so well, why do you have to place your hopes on others? ? What's more, finding a partner who is worse than myself is harming myself and future generations. For me, I know that marriage is painful, so why should I get involved? "
Modern Before getting married, women worry about not being able to find a job after marriage, about not being able to raise children, and about their husbands' betrayal. In this way, if they can support themselves, they will feel that marriage is no longer worthwhile.
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Men think marriage is not good, and women also think marriage is not worthwhile. This kind of situation where both parties agree is rare, but it happens. Parents can only accept it silently.
They are like children from poor families. Because they have insufficient material conditions and cannot afford to support their families, they choose to stay away from marriage and live alone all their lives.
Just like children from middle-class families, their concepts are relatively open and they are unwilling to wrong themselves, so they choose to stay away from marriage and live their lives according to their own ideas.
The former is because of the pressure of life. The latter is due to an open mind and gradually seeing through. In reality, the former accounts for a larger proportion.
As mentioned above, living conditions and emotional sustenance conditions are the key to affecting marriage. These two are both material and spiritual pursuits, which are inherently difficult to achieve.
For example, a house has this price. If you can afford it, then you have the opportunity to get married and have children. And if you can’t afford it, then you can’t even find a partner. Life is such a reality.
For example, about emotions, There are more people who are hypocritical, but there are fewer people who are sincere. People don’t want to have fake relationships and would rather be single than be with a worthless partner.
Generally speaking, both men and women feel that marriage is no longer cost-effective, and it has gradually become a trend.
text/Shu Shan Youlu
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