Growing old together is a kind of practice.
Many lovers fail to cultivate themselves and ultimately fail to stay together until old age. This leaves endless regrets in the lives of the two people.
There is only one life, and you cannot start it over again. If you don’t want such regrets in your life, women should wake up from the beginning.
Think about what you need to think about, and do what you need to do.
Don’t think about things you shouldn’t think about, and don’t do things you shouldn’t do.
To figure out what you should think and do, and to know what you should not think and do, is a test of a woman’s wisdom and judgment. I hope you can think what you should think and do what you should do, so that you will Save yourself a lot of unnecessary worries.
For women, if they meet their soul mate, when they are secretly happy, they should also understand that if they want to be together until old age, don’t think too much, don’t ask for too much. If you can do it, you can avoid a lot of unnecessary troubles. .
1. Don’t think too much.
1. Don’t worry too much.
When two people are together, they should not be unfounded.
If a woman thinks too much, worries about things that have not happened yet, feels anxious every day, and is affected by negative emotions, this will inevitably affect the woman's mood and indirectly affect her partner's mood.
If something does not happen, or the probability of it happening is relatively low, women are always too worried and think too much, which will not change anything, ruin their own mood, and add trouble to their partner's life.
Just like when two people are together, a woman is full of distrust towards a man. She thinks that a man has good looks, strong abilities, is excellent, and is very popular with the opposite sex. She is worried that one day the man will change his heart and fall in love with someone else, even if the man is currently interested in her. If you are loyal, you may one day break your love vow.
Women are always worried about things that have not happened, always have random thoughts, and doubt a man's sincerity. This will add twists and turns to the love life of two people, so why bother? If a woman does not know how to control herself, the relationship between the two may become tense.
2. Don’t make assumptions.
If a woman makes wild thoughts about things that have not happened, it is groundless worry, but if a woman makes conjectures about things that have happened with a one-sided and narrow mentality, it is just making assumptions.
Things happened.
The woman did not communicate with the man, nor did she investigate carefully, but relied on subjective assumptions to characterize what happened. Obviously, this is not advisable.
Just like when a woman sees a man drinking coffee with other members of the opposite sex, talking about things, and smiling brightly, she concludes that the man has moved on and is not in love with him anymore. She concludes that the man no longer loves her, and she acts out of emotion and breaks up with him, which seems arbitrary. .
At this time, women should base everything on reality and not make assumptions. Even if they cannot trust men, they should give men a chance to be frank and lenient, and should not jump to conclusions easily. Maybe a man drinks coffee with another woman and just talks about business matters. The woman's subjective assumptions will only deepen the misunderstanding.
2. Don’t ask for too much.
1. Don’t expect your partner to be perfect.
When two people are together, a woman should figure out why she is with this man.
Is it because a man has the charm that attracts him, or is it because he can give him what he wants? If a man has both, it is certainly good.
At the same time, women should understand that no one is perfect. Men have flaws and have some shortcomings. They must accept what should be accepted and what is acceptable, otherwise it will be difficult for two people to get along.
Some women are unwilling to accept certain reasonable shortcomings in men, unwilling to accept certain established facts that happened in men's past lives, and are unwilling to accept some minor problems in men. They try to transform men and try to conform to their ideal partner. Using molds to shape a man's image and personality is obviously a form of self-deception.
2. Don’t make excessive demands on your partner.
When opposite sexes get along, it is obviously unreasonable for women to make unreasonable demands on men in the name of love.
It is reasonable for a man to choose to refuse. It is even more unreasonable for a woman to always kidnap her with emotions and morality if she does not know how to reflect.
It is undoubtedly unreasonable for women to ask men to give up their dignity, principles, and conscience to accommodate themselves.
Women should reflect, otherwise they may arouse the resentment of men and cast a thick layer of ice on their relationship.
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