Why do some people live well while others live poorly? The answer to this question needs to be answered from two aspects.
The first aspect is what are the characteristics of people who live well, and the second aspect is what are the psychological behaviors of people who do not live well. By comparing these two aspects, this question can be answered.
First of all, let’s talk about the first aspect, what are the characteristics of people who live well.
Whether you are a poor person or a person who is born with a golden key, you will face many temptations, setbacks, and tribulations in the stage of business life. People who live well can restrain their inner desires, control their own behavior, and prevent themselves from doing things that endanger themselves when faced with temptation. Moreover, people who live well regard adversity, failure, setbacks, and tribulations as their life mentors, constantly drawing strength from them to enhance their own cognition and improve their state of mind.
Most people who live well have the qualities of self-discipline, self-improvement, and optimism. It is precisely these qualities that allow these people to live well.
On the contrary, people who do not live well are because the following three psychological behaviors will cause people to encounter greater misfortune.
The first psychological behavior: self-pity and self-sorrow
People affected by self-pity and self-sorrow will look down on themselves and often deny their own ideas. When faced with opportunities, they hesitate to move forward, always feeling that they cannot grasp them. These people respect the strong, but always feel that they cannot become strong. Therefore, when these people are unwilling to change, they often look up and envy those who are stronger than themselves.
Faced with others' arrangement, humiliation, and ridicule, people who are affected by self-pity and self-sorrow will often think like this: "These people are right, I am so bad, but what can I do?"
Just imagine it Friends, can people who continue to deny themselves, have no opinion on their own life management, and choose to retreat when encountering setbacks and tribulations solve the problems in life? Not only will it not solve the problem, it will only make it bigger. Moreover, society never sympathizes with the weak, nor does it pity the weak, so society will not give these people the opportunity to control happiness.
The second psychology: arrogance, arrogance and domineering
After entering the society, I believe that many friends will encounter such a person: often treat others with a look-down attitude and look down on anyone, even when facing bosses and leaders. May the head be buried underground. Moreover, once I have made some achievements, my eyes are full of pride, and when I cooperate with others, I always have the attitude of "I am the boss, you must listen to me."
This kind of person is an arrogant, arrogant and domineering person. People with this kind of character are not only cruel to themselves, but also never show mercy to others. If there is a conflict with others, such people will even dare to kill and set fire to others.
To survive in society, the first thing you must learn is to bow your head and be humble. Keeping your head down and doing things humbly is not a sign of weakness, but an act that is extremely beneficial to yourself.
When facing people who are better than themselves, they don’t show enough respect. How can excellent people teach themselves the experience of becoming excellent? If you don't respect your boss enough, will your boss give you a chance to get promoted and get a raise? When cooperating with colleagues, friends, and partners, they always have a self-centered attitude. How can colleagues, friends, and partners not feel bored, and how can they sincerely cooperate with them?
We live in society. If we want to live better, we must cooperate with others and learn to respect the strong. Otherwise, if we cannot achieve a win-win situation, we will create many enemies for ourselves, and these Enemies make our lives worse.
The third psychology: Worry
Many people must have heard the saying that people can’t help themselves when they are in the world, and this sentence is the best explanation of the psychology of worry.
When doing work, under the influence of anxiety, people will worry that their colleagues will treat them badly, and they will be afraid that some of their behaviors will cause resentment from colleagues and leaders; when getting along with their partners, under the influence of anxiety, people will Due to various concerns, those who dare not resist their partners who have domestic violence or betrayal will be enveloped in confusion when they are denied by their partners.
Worry is one of the reasons why people dare not change themselves and are unwilling to change themselves. Its existence will consume people's self-confidence and courage, and make people become people who hate themselves.
The key to living well is that people can deal with problems in life based on their own interests and happiness. Unfortunately, people affected by worry only live for others and find it difficult to live for themselves. If these people really meet bad people or villains, then these people will be easily kidnapped by morals and and used for calculations.
The reason why I can't live a good life is never because of social injustice, or because I am being plotted or bullied by others, but because I dare not say no to an unfair fate, and I do not want to make myself stronger. When these people think about the difficulty of changing themselves, they will stop and worry.
I hope that my friends are not what I said, but can be like a truly strong person, not afraid of hardships, and manage their lives with a positive attitude.
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