In real life, there are always some married women who often complain about their husbands when chatting with others, and even compare others with their husbands. Although women do it unintentionally most of the time, or they may want to use this method to motivate their husbands,

In real life, there are always some married women who often complain about their husbands when chatting with others, and even compare others with their husbands.

Although women do it unintentionally most of the time, or they may want to use this method to motivate their husbands, hoping that he will make progress and work hard. But for most men, what they fear most is hearing their wives say that they are not capable and complain that they regret marrying them.

When I first moved to my current residence, there was a family living next door. The two have a child together, and they often bump into each other when commuting to and from get off work, and they gradually became familiar with each other.

Once she came to my place as a guest. When we talked about marriage, I found that she had no appreciation for her husband at all, but more complaints and comparisons.

She said that she had been married to her husband for six years, and she only took time off to stay at home during her pregnancy and confinement period. Later, she recovered and went to work again. He complained that he didn't think it over clearly when he married his current husband. Not only did he not enjoy the blessings of marriage, but he also involved himself in it and worked hard every day to maintain the family with him.

I chatted with her three times in total. During these three chats, every time she mentioned her husband, her face was full of disgust, and there was never any appreciation in it.

Until some time ago when I came back from get off work, I found that the door of his house was closed, and I didn't even see anyone coming in or out for several months. I was curious and sent her a WeChat message to ask her why. She said that she and her husband were divorced and the house was sold.

I thought about it carefully, and in fact, from the time she started complaining about life and her husband, the hidden danger of divorce had already been laid.

Among the many marriage examples, most happy marriages usually involve both husband and wife working together to manage the relationship and maintain the family. At least when facing problems, the two people always support each other.

Most of those couples who divorce midway left amid endless quarrels. Most of the reasons for divorce, in addition to the personality differences between the two people, also have something to do with the woman's attitude towards her husband.

In a marriage, most men are afraid of hearing their wives say these words, because these words will not make the man improve, but will only make him worse and worse.

1. I really regret marrying you.

In a marriage, men are most afraid of being rejected by women.

For men, being appreciated and praised by the one they love is more important than anything else. But some marriages just don't go as planned. When marriages and families face problems, some women not only fail to face and deal with the problems together with their men, but instead blame the men for their incompetence.

Especially when conflicts or problems arise, when a woman says she regrets marrying a man, it will only make the man feel useless, and some men may even become self-defeating in the blow.

What's even more outrageous is that some women will compare their exes, claiming that if they had been with their exes, they might have been much happier than with their current husbands.

Such words will not be motivating to men, but more of a psychological blow.

So when a woman gets along with her husband, it is best not to always complain that she married the wrong person. If you want a man to work hard to make progress, the best way is to encourage him rather than discourage him.

2, Really worthless

In marriage, most men will work very hard to run the family and want to create more happiness for the family.

If in a marriage, a woman always complains that her husband is not promising, and even compares her husbands with her sisters' husbands, this will only make the man feel more incompetent and make him feel frustrated.

In the hearts of these women, it is not that they really feel that their husbands are worthless, but that they are extremely vain. I just want to compare my husband with other people's husbands, so as to satisfy my own vanity.

However, this kind of complaining and comparison will not produce positive results most of the time. Instead, it will affect family harmony and make men begin to doubt the marriage and become more and more decadent.

It is understandable that women want to motivate their husbands.But married men need more care. Deep down, like women, they also hope to have someone by their side to encourage and comfort them when they are very tired and helpless.

3. If it weren’t for me, this family would have been gone

In marriage, women in some families are stronger, while men will choose to be patient and give in, leaving all the initiative in the family to women.

There is nothing wrong with this. After all, marriage is like this. When someone is strong, there needs to be a less strong person. Only by helping each other can a successful marriage and family be run.

But sometimes this balance is very easy to be broken. For example, some women often complain that if they had not relied on their own efforts to maintain the family, the family would have been gone long ago.

Maybe women mean it when they say this, but for most men, this sentence is very hurtful. Because women have never recognized men's efforts, nor have they taken into account men's inner feelings.

If this continues, it will eventually make the balance of this marriage become more and more weightless. In the end, it will only bring this marriage to an end quickly, and the two people will be separated midway.

In a marriage, the most important thing is not that two people are struggling with who pays more and who contributes more to the family. But in daily life, we need to encourage each other and work hard together.

Couples who encourage each other will have more common languages ​​and hobbies, and their married life will become more and more interesting.

Couples who dislike each other will have less and less common topics in their marriage, and their values ​​will deviate from each other. In the end, they can only end the relationship early.

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