I have been married for more than ten years, and my household registration has always been with my natal family. Six years ago, the state launched the new rural construction poverty alleviation program. At that time, it was already the second batch of financial subsidies for new

I have been married for more than ten years, and my household registration has always been with my parents’ family. Six years ago, the state launched the new rural construction poverty alleviation program. At that time, it was already the second batch of financial subsidies for new rural construction. My mother called me at that time and asked me to lend them money. The village held a meeting and said that she was willing to build and demolish old buildings. Each household building a new house must pay a deposit of RMB 10,000 first. Each household will receive a subsidy of RMB 13,000 per household based on its household size. In addition, there are another 13,000 household heads. When handing over the house, the settlement will be based on the actual area and the local real estate market price. It will be designed and built in a unified style by a contractor negotiated by the government.

I was born in a family that values ​​boys over girls. My parents told me about this at that time because they wanted to borrow money to pay a deposit. My brother and sister-in-law don’t care much about household registration, and we have never thought of taking advantage of our parents’ family. Two years later, when the new house was delivered, my natal father said that the household registration book at home was almost full, which meant that my quota occupied too many places in the household registration book! Every now and then, I would encourage my mother to call me and ask me to transfer my household registration. My natal father is a very snobbish person with a domineering and strong personality. He is the local emperor of our family who only respects him, is petty-minded, and is very calculating. If he wants to make you angry, what he says will be no exaggeration. It is no exaggeration to say that he has a sharp tongue that can make people angry to death and back to life, and his emotional intelligence is extremely low.

For my father's ideas, raising a daughter is meaningless. A married daughter is just water thrown away, which is equivalent to completing the task. After that, except when you need to have interests involved, if you fail to meet his requirements, he will yell at you. My husband said that as long as everyone lives well, we will not fantasize or care about that. We will do our best to help. Ever since I was six years old, I would yell at him, even punch him or kick him, if I didn't do anything according to his standards. They often say that the big river not far from our house has no cover, and that with me, there is no more, and without me, there is no less, all kinds of insults.

I remember when I was six years old, in Dahecaoba not far from our home, my father asked me to lead the family's big buffalo that liked to nudge people to graze. Heba There are many places where sorghum is grown. , soybeans, mulberry , wheat seedlings, etc., because at that time, the countryside relied on cattle to plow the fields and grow crops. I was very afraid of holding the big buffalo that liked to nudge people with its red eyes. At that time, I was a little shy and didn't dare to lead the cow rope. I remember when my father forced me to say, if the cow gored you to death today, he would pay for it with his life. Haha, in his heart, my life is not as precious as that of the buffalo. But that day I was really pushed under a dam three feet away by a cow. It was summer, and I was wearing a light yellow short-sleeved shirt. The cow broke all the clothes on my back and almost killed me. Fortunately, I survived! Most of the meal time at home was when he gave me various lectures. Basically every meal was filled with tears and choked with tears. But when I grew up, I didn’t bear any grudge against him. I took money every year for his birthday, including when he was sick, to fulfill my filial piety as a daughter.

My son is now 10 years old, and his grandfather has never called my son to say hello, nor has he ever taken a penny to buy anything. We bought a house in Chongqing five years ago and got into debt. In the second year after buying the house, he wanted to replace the battery of heart bypass surgery for surgery, which cost 40,000 yuan. He said he would split it equally with my brother. I said I would take 10,000 yuan, and he turned against me with all sorts of unpleasant words! That time made me completely give up that he had no meaning in his existence as a father. These are just one of the too few memories. There are too many memories of growing up that torture the soul that I cannot bear to look back on...!

I was born in such a family that favors sons over daughters. Having such a father is my life-long memory. Sadness and pain. Now besides being my nominal father, everything about you and everything about me, please don’t disturb each other and be well!