Extramarital affairs seem to be a common thing for men nowadays, and in marriages, most men have affairs, and in the hearts of many men, even if they have an affair, they do not want to give up their family, so, The scene we often see is that a man and his wife clearly have no re

Extramarital affairs seem to be a common thing for men nowadays, and in marriage, most men have extramarital affairs, and in the hearts of many men, even if they have an extramarital affair, they do not want to give up their family, so , the scene we often see is that a man and his wife clearly have no relationship anymore, and they are infatuated with their lover outside, but they never divorce their wife and insist on being with their lover secretly. Men have always been like this after having an affair. They just like to eat from the bowl and look at the pot. He doesn't want to let go of the two women at home and outside.. On the one hand, they are unwilling to divorce their wives, and on the other hand, they are unwilling to give up their lovers. The answer is just these three reasons. First, due to greed. The dull married life and passionate affair make men experience completely different feelings. Marriage brings stability to men, while extramarital affairs bring fresh excitement to men.

The warmth of marriage and the romance of extramarital affairs complement each other in a man's heart, making him want to have both. But he forgot one thing, that is, greedy people will end up with nothing. Second, the possessiveness in men’s hearts. Men in extramarital affairs always believe in their hearts that their wives belong to him and their lovers also belong to him. So he wants to take care of both and doesn't want to let go of either one. If he can always enjoy the love of two women like this, it is impossible for a man to initiate a divorce from his wife. After all, the cost of divorce is too high, and he doesn't want to lose anything. As the old saying goes: "You can't have your cake and eat it too." A man's dream of keeping the red flag at home and having colorful flags fluttering outside is simply a wishful thinking. A man feels that his wife meets his needs for his family of origin. During the marriage, the emotional model, communication model, or sexual model, conflict resolution model, etc. formed by his wife's family of origin, some of which satisfy his needs. For example: His mother often beat and scolded him when he was a child, and he longed for her mother's love and attention. In his current marriage, his partner's love and attention for her make up for his inner lack. He was satisfied, and he also enjoyed this mode of getting along, so he was very reluctant to destroy this balance with his own hands. No one will give up the best thing easily and start all over again unless they have no choice. If your partner realizes this and discovers the real reason for his cheating in time, the possibility of saving your marriage is very high. There is also a third party that satisfies some of his core needs. The most common point is that the third party satisfies his superficial needs, is gentle and considerate, or is a little birdy, which instantly stimulates a man's protective desire and freshness. feel.

In order to satisfy his own needs, he is unwilling to leave the third party. Third, fear of the future. Divorce not only scares women, it also scares men. He will worry about whether the future with the third party is good, whether the other party is sincere to him, and whether he can really trust the third party completely. Or? These are all factors he needs to consider. Also, after divorce, will you really live as happily as you do now? Choosing a divorce means starting a new life with another woman. After the novelty wears off, it is also the daily necessities of life. You also have to go through your previous marriage pattern, and there are many things to consider. If you are not determined to divorce, it will be difficult to make a decision. Any man who is somewhat rational can easily fall into this kind of mentality, so he is not so decisive if he wants to divorce. If you can't live without each other and can't live well, you must find a breakthrough and have frank communication between both parties. Only then can the problem be solved in time, which is more conducive to emotional repair and getting your marriage back on track. When a man is entangled, it means that he still cares about his original wife and does not want to leave the family, but he just can’t figure it out for the time being. If his partner realizes this and gives him positive support and encouragement, it will be more conducive for him to leave the third party and restore his once happy relationship. marriage. Greed and delusion are the most taboo things in marriage. If you want your marriage to be happy for a lifetime, you must always stick to one thing: be loyal to each other.