About five or six years ago, a cousin (my mother's cousin) whom we had not interacted with for a long time suddenly came to our house and said that his grandparents from the county town (that is, my mother's grandparents) The old house was for sale and I asked my mother if she wanted a share of the proceeds.
According to my mother's usual style of doing things, she naturally wouldn't ask for it. Even if she has that qualification, my mother seems to be unable to show off her face and has to go and divide the money. Of course, I fully support my mother's behavior. Because I also feel that in addition to money, relationships in the world also include feelings.
What makes people laugh is that my mother and other marginalized relatives are easy to talk to, and each signature shows their intention - they don't want money, but cousins and brothers and sisters are troubled by the uneven distribution of money and housing. Fight, go to court. It really corresponds to the words of Shakespeare : "Money is a great magic stick that can change a person's appearance casually."
Here, I naturally dare not say that this is the ugliness of human nature. After all, they They are all elders. But it is true that interests are a sharp sword that divides relationships within a family. No wonder some people say that the foundation of interpersonal relationships lies in the fair exchange of interests. To be honest, I don't agree with this concept without going through a series of things. I always feel that people, after all, still value their emotions, and they cannot destroy their conscience for the sake of money.
but superficial. It wasn't until I suffered a lot that I finally realized that my thinking was purely poor. Because there is no money, there are no exchangeable resources. The only thing that is available is feelings. But things like feelings are too cheap. As long as you have emotional intelligence, they are inexhaustible and inexhaustible, but they are very unreliable.
Once you encounter a dispute over interests, if you do not rely on the principle of exchange of interests to solve it, but rely on talking about feelings, the result may disappoint you - in the face of money, all words about feelings are pale and powerless. It can also be said that Total bullshit. Because you have forgotten one of the most fundamental problems of human nature - human beings are profit-driven creatures, and may collapse at any time in the face of profit. It can be said that in real life, all kinds of relationships are equivalent exchanges.
As the old saying goes, all the bustle in the world is for benefit, and all the hustle and bustle in the world is for benefit. I really understand it. When you are successful, how many people will flatter you; when your reputation is ruined, how many people will despise you; when you are in a high position, how many people will look up to you; when you are at the bottom, how many people will fall apart from you.
As long as the interests are consistent, people who hate you will turn into enemies; as long as the interests conflict, no matter how close friends are, they will kill each other. Profit can attract friendship, but poverty can only drive people away. If you are profitable to him, he will always surround you. Once you are in poverty, he will avoid you. This is reality.
Lenin once said that people’s most sensitive nerve is interest. Once human nature conflicts with interests, all human nature is nonsense in the face of interests. You must not think that there are many sincere relatives and friends around you. If you try it once, you will find that life has become extremely deserted. No one will mention you, and no one will take you seriously.
Especially in the face of interests, the so-called worldliness is just a thin piece of paper that can be pierced with no emotion at all. After all, people live for themselves. In this world, there are too few people who can sacrifice themselves for others. What we often see is either mutual benefit and win-win, or self-interest at the expense of others, or else just be kind to yourself.
So, don’t expect someone to lend a helping hand for no reason when you have nothing and are falling fast. A win-win situation is what people most want to see. Autohome founder Li Xiang also said that when the benefits are small, it is easy to say anything. When interests are great to a certain extent, they transcend human nature.
Yes, in the face of interests, you can best see clearly the right and wrong of people's hearts and distinguish the level of personality; in the face of interests, most people are vulnerable.So, don’t blame other people’s reality and blame others for taking sides. This is a relationship of interest. If you insist on talking about feelings with others, if you don’t embarrass them, who will?
No wonder some people say, "Don't have any moral or obsessive expectations on anyone. Every soul in this world is half human and half ghost. No one can see it if you get too close." Indeed. Interest is a shadow that illuminates human nature. In front of it, all the essence related to morality and ethics will be exposed and clearly visible.
If you want to get the attention of others, then you must work hard to become stronger and bigger, and make yourself a valuable person. After all, your value is the basis for your exchange with others.
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