The elderly always hope that their children can live together. Even if their children have no time to accompany them, the elderly will feel very satisfied. The 76-year-old Uncle Wang went to his son's home to take care of himself a few years ago. Many people think that Uncle Wang

Introduction

The elderly people’s dream of happy old age is to be accompanied by their children. The older you get, the more you long for family affection, and the more you can’t live without your children. The elderly always hope that their children can live together. Even if their children have no time to accompany them, the elderly will feel very satisfied.

The elderly must be very happy to be able to follow their children in their old age. Nowadays, many people think that it is filial piety for young people to bring their parents to live with them. The 76-year-old Uncle Wang went to his son's home to take care of himself a few years ago. Many people think that Uncle Wang's son is very filial. But Uncle Wang cried and said: "Living with my son for retirement is the worst decision I have ever made in my life." Why did Uncle Wang say this? Let us take a look below.

Narrator: Uncle Wang

I am 76 years old. I used to think that my son was very filial, but since I went to his home for retirement, I discovered that he is far from as good as I thought.

My wife and I only have one son. It is the expectation of every parent to hope that their son will become a success and that their daughter will become a phoenix. Every parent hopes that their children will become talented. My wife and I also have high expectations for our son. I hope that in the future he will be able to push the waves ahead, and his life will be better than ours.

We have spent a lot of energy and money on our son's education, but his academic performance is still not good. Every exam fails to meet our expectations. We both often worry about our son's affairs. Later, when I was 40 years old, my wife got breast cancer and finally passed away.

I am not very good at taking care of children. When my wife was still alive, she basically did all the housework. After my wife left, our life was a mess. Later, I thought about finding another one for myself, so that someone would take care of both of us in the future, and my life would be easier.

But my son did not agree with my remarriage and even threatened me with death. I had already found a very good partner, but because of my son's objections, I finally broke up with him. In recent years, because of my son, I have never mentioned remarriage again.

My son did not go to college and only studied at an ordinary junior college. After graduation, I asked a friend to find him a pretty good job. The salary was very good and the job was relatively stable.

I also paid for all the expenses for my son’s marriage. I gave them the down payment to buy a house. I also paid for the decoration, appliances and furniture. I also bought them a scooter. It can be said that I have clearly arranged my son's life.

Many old people will choose to live with their children after retirement, but I think it is better to live a more comfortable life by myself. I can live how I want at home. I don’t need to look at other people’s faces or care about other people’s thoughts. I can live alone. It has to be lively and colorful.

So I didn’t choose to go to my son’s home for retirement. Although I’m the only one at home, I won’t live alone. When I'm at home, I like to read, practice calligraphy, and take care of flowers and plants. When I’m bored, I go out to relax, and I go sightseeing with my friends. It’s such a comfortable life.

Later, when I was 72 years old, I fell. At that time, my son happened to come back to see me. Otherwise, I really don’t know what the consequences would be. After this incident, I became a little scared, and I didn’t dare to live alone anymore. So after my son asked me to live with him, I agreed without even thinking about it.

My daughter-in-law told me that I don’t have to do anything when I live in their house, and they will take good care of me. I was very happy after hearing this. When people grow old, they hope that their children will be filial. So I offered to cover the living expenses at home, and I gave my daughter-in-law 3,500 yuan for living expenses every month. My daughter-in-law was very happy when she heard what I said, and she has always taken good care of me. I feel more comfortable than at home.

I have been staying at my son's house for about half a year. My grandson is about to go to kindergarten. The son and daughter-in-law want to enroll their grandson in a private kindergarten. Private kindergartens provide more teaching and the children can win at the starting line.My eldest grandson used to go to a public kindergarten and was already far behind many others, so my younger grandson can no longer follow in the footsteps of my eldest grandson.

Actually, I think kindergarten is just a place for children to have fun. Just have fun there and there is no need to ask for so much. If the child is smart, even if he does not attend a private kindergarten, he will definitely be able to keep up with his studies in the future. But my son and daughter-in-law didn't listen to me and insisted on enrolling my grandson in a private kindergarten.

Private kindergarten tuition costs 15,000 yuan per semester, which is 30,000 yuan a year, and there are also some tuition and miscellaneous fees, which add up to several thousand dollars. It is really not something that ordinary families can afford.

The couple couldn't afford the money at all. In the end, it was me who paid for the grandson's kindergarten. Later, my son and daughter-in-law enrolled my eldest grandson in several interest classes. The tuition fees for the interest classes were not cheap. They said they couldn’t care about one thing and lose the other, so I still paid for it.

Later, my son told me that he wanted to start a business partnership with a friend and asked me to borrow 100,000 yuan. I also disagree with this. My son's job is already very good. As long as he works hard and has my subsidies, he will definitely be able to live a good life. But he just wasn't satisfied and insisted on making troubles everywhere. He came to me crying and begging every day. I could refuse coldly for a day or two. But after many times, I still relented and lent him the 100,000 yuan.

At that time, I still thought that it would not matter even if I lost all the 100,000 yuan. I would just treat it as a lesson. I would turn back if I hit a wall in the future, and I could work well with peace of mind. But I didn't expect that my son secretly borrowed more than 200,000 yuan from outside. I didn't know until someone came to collect the debt.

I am really angry, but I have borrowed all the money, so I can only use my pension money to pay back the money. Since paying off the debt, my son has stopped worrying about it, but he thinks about it every day. He spends all his salary as soon as it is paid. If he has no money, he wants to ask me for it.

If I don’t give it, they’ll make a lot of noise at home. The couple often quarrels. Originally, I had more than 600,000 yuan in pension funds, but since I came to my son's house, the more than 600,000 yuan has not been spent at all, and it was all spent within a few years.

After the pension money was spent, my son was thinking about my old house again and wanted me to sell it. The old house is my roots. I definitely want to close my eyes there. It is impossible to sell it no matter what. So I righteously rejected my son's request, but I didn't expect that just because of my rejection, my son would treat me like a nose instead of a nose, and eyes instead of eyes, and I would be very annoyed every day.

Before, I often showed off to my friends that my son was very filial and lived a very comfortable life at his home. But now I understand that I cannot enjoy my old age comfortably in my son's house. To her, I am just a cash machine. Once I run out of money, he will immediately change his attitude and my comfortable life will leave me.

I finally figured it out. Living with my son for retirement is the worst choice I have ever made in my life. I will no longer continue to take care of myself at my son's house. I would rather die of old age alone at home than live in my son's house watching his face. So now I have packed my bags and returned to my home. Although I have no pension money, I still have a pension every month. If I live a frugal life, I can still have a lot left over. I can also save some money slowly, so that I can still live in my old age. Can survive.

really recommends that the elderly should not live with their children, and try not to rely too much on their children. They should solve the problems they can solve by themselves, and only by relying on their own abilities to provide for themselves can they live a comfortable life.