Shakespeare once said that love is always blind. Have you ever wondered what went wrong? To love someone based on feelings, is it really impossible to like someone? What is the basis for the so-called feeling to fall in love?
So this is our topic today-
So what is it? He just said that is the common cognitive shortcut when a person is making judgments and thinking. Cognitive shortcuts such as
often happen emotionally and in life. Even if you have never been in a relationship, you will often be misled by this mode of thinking, that is, when you think the relationship is very complicated, you will go into this mode of thinking. And if you use this feeling to be nice to someone and fall in love, you may still think that thoughtful behavior is a kind of scheming.
So why is this? It is because we people often use some psychological shortcuts to solve current problems, and those vague and complex information are reduced to simple information that is easier to judge.
The two psychologists Naams Tversky and Daniel Connerman follow the view of bounded rationality and point out that people are often irrational when making decisions and judgments under uncertain conditions. Biased. The interesting thing is that such deviations are also regular . So why did we become like this?
because when we think and judge rationally today,Such a state actually takes a lot of time and cognitive effort. Especially in love, there are so many uncertain factors that you can't imagine, which makes it very difficult for you to remain rational.
So in the end, just do what you think is right based on your own feelings, that is, you will rely on your cognitive shortcuts to make wrong judgments.
There are four common Jesse methods that often occur in our lives.
The first type is availability , this kind of people will only make judgments based on the information they know about things directly, including the difficulty and information memory in your memory The number of people come to determine the same thing and make the possibility of this situation happening, which will cause you not to seek other relevant information.
For example, like news reports that a plane crash caused many deaths. Then you may imprint such memories in your mind, and you may think in your heart that flying by plane is very dangerous, causing you not to dare to fly by plane. But in fact, there are far more people who die in car accidents on the road every year than in plane crashes. Just because of the plane crash, there will be a lot of media reports that make you think this is a very eye-catching information.
Then We people use this kind of memory to set the alarm clock as a reference for subsequent judgments, and our hearts will make qualitative judgments on certain things.
People’s psychology is really not that simple. Thinking in a cognitive shortcut way, it is difficult to grasp the thoughts in people’s minds and some situations that may happen in the future.
The second type is representative Jesse method ,This kind of person makes judgments on other things only by taking what he considers to be typical as the basis of judgment. To put it simply, it's like you use stereotypes to face those people you meet for the first time. You may not fully know them yet, and you directly make biased judgments, leading you to have an inaccurate impression of others.
For example, I think the most common thing in life is that the personality of some of your constellations is this way, this way, and then the person who looks at that constellation will say that you have this kind of personality.
cause you to make others unhappy, because you don't know me, then you directly help me define who I am. Some people will have prejudice against certain people from the beginning because of this.
There is actually a very typical example, that is, many people think that toss an even coin, if the first five times are heads, then when toss the sixth time, you think there is a high probability that it will appear The opposite. However, the result of each coin toss is independent. Regardless of the previous result, the probability of the result of the next toss is half.
is this kind of psychological shortcut. Although it allows us to make decisions quickly when faced with uncertainty and allows you to think very quickly, it is also easy for us to ignore shaping events. Factors that play a role.
The third type is anchoring quickness method , that is, when we judge things, we will tend to the data we know for the first time, and we will make subsequent judgments based on the data.
For example, when many people are in love, you count back to the person you like every second every second, but the other person’s response frequency is not so high, you think he doesn’t care about you, but if a person cares, you can’t completely Only rely on a single event to judge his behavior.His idea is that you have to consider various situations to accurately judge your relationship, not because of what he is doing today.
The last fourth is the simulation , which means judging possible things based on the ease with which certain endings appear in the brain. The difference in accessibility is that one is based on the memory of experience, and the other is based on the fictitious imagination.
That is the simulation method, especially when we experience the kind of unpredictable or negative news, we people use the reverse reasoning method to eliminate the abnormalities that occur before the result occurs. To put it simply, it's hard to buy a daughter. I know it early, but I can't think of it. It's as simple as that.
It’s like you met a scumbag today, you would want to know that you didn’t know him before, and I won’t be so painful now.
These are the four cognitive shortcuts that I will share with you today, These cognitive shortcuts actually happen quite often in our lives and feelings, but the shortcut is one This way of inference, he allows us to simplify our decisions. Although this can make quick judgments, it may prevent you from making the best choice.
Finally, I hope everyone can judge rationally, think rationally, and make decisions carefully! ! ! thank you all! !
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