The traditional Mid-Autumn Festival is coming. There are thousands of lights, every family is beaming, admiring flowers and chanting the moon, singing and dancing, and celebrating the festive season...
I wonder if you feel this grand Mid-Autumn festival atmosphere, and how many days have you gone? Family relatives?
In addition to the small holiday that makes people a little bit happy, what else do you feel about this festival?
A friend said: Festivals pass each year, but the lively atmosphere is gradually diminishing. How can there be any excitement and excitement? The so-called grand festival atmosphere will eventually only exist in the text, farther and farther away from real life.
Do you agree with this sentence?
A few days ago, I happened to see this saying: Young people do not love traditional festivals because they are no longer traditional. In this month, how many young people are still willing to visit relatives for the holidays? How many young people still understand family affection in the traditional sense?
These remarks are very meaningful. In the hearts of many young people, the biggest significance of traditional festivals is probably only a small holiday and time to relax instead of meeting relatives. Loved ones.
read a report,In many young people’s social circles, the word relative is no longer there, so they don’t like to leave relatives.
This is something worth thinking about.
I have seen a piece of data, the generation after the millennium, the scope of family affection is constantly narrowing, and gradually it is limited to the relatives around them.
When the taste of the festival changes, the atmosphere of the festival naturally changes.
Needless to say, after 00, even after many 90s, relatives are gradually becoming blurred.
Before the Mid-Autumn Festival, my dad asked my brother to visit my uncle and bought a lot of gifts. My dad is too busy to go to see my aunt and grandma.
Unfortunately, my brother doesn't even know his uncle, and he doesn't know where his home is. Because he couldn't reach the door, his brother walked for nothing, and returned when he didn't find it.
Because of this, my dad ran for a trip in a panic. My brother was criticized by my dad, saying he was useless, and he didn't even know his relatives, so he didn't know how to call and ask!
Actually, this is not my brother's fault. Even if I am in my hometown and my dad asks me to go to my relatives, I may not be able to find the home of my uncle.
In other words, my uncle’s family didn’t even know that I was a relative. Even if I found it, it would be the case, and I would say greetings on behalf of my parents, put things down and turned away.
The next day, the younger generations of the uncle will come to my house again, which is equivalent to a courtesy visit, remembering their relatives.
Does this kind of relative have affection?
strictly speaking, there is no.
The uncle and the uncle only know my father and mother. Their younger generations don't even know how to call my dad, let alone my younger brother.
In this sense, in this sense, why bother to make a face and face a face, and make yourself boring?
From the point of view of grandparents, this is a kind of family love that can't be changed by anyone. But now, grandparents are no longer there, and the so-called relatives have slowly changed.
For many people, it is a tradition to give gifts to relatives during holidays, but at most it is just a form.
only one party has to stop giving a festival gift ,The other side decided naturally. After a few generations, when the elders can’t be the masters, who remembers the so-called kinship?
This is not the reality of the human heart, but the reality of society. The most fearful thing is that you treat others as relatives, and others don't treat you as relatives.
It cannot be denied that the changes in life are carried out quietly, and the passage of time is cruel. Over the years, many people's original perceptions have been changed unknowingly.
In the hearts of many of my friends, those distant relatives have gradually become a symbol, which is less and less meaningful.
I have asked many colleagues and friends, and many people don’t know how many relatives they have. This is true, not nonsense.
Back then, I was busy studying and studying abroad, and I couldn't go home once a year. Later, I was busy with work and fierce competition. I didn't have the energy to get to know my relatives, let alone walk around.
A friend said, "You are in a downturn. They look down on you and don't want to be relatives with you." You have a better life than them, and they will jealous at you and make two cuts. Young people don't talk about that implicit rhetoric, and like to go straight to each other, so some relatives don't care.
Many people have long understood this logic, and relatives who act on the scene have become one of the stressors of life.
Why is this happening?
After all, life is still under pressure. It is precisely because of these pressures that many contents of traditional culture are gradually abandoned by life. What is helpless is that traditional culture is losing, and it is gradually limited to form, but we can't stop it.
In previous marriage articles, I have written several classic real-life problems.
There are a lot of post-90s. Because of the pressure of life and work, some people have worked for several years and can't even save 30,000 yuan in their hands. Some people even don't even have 10,000 savings.
As a "moonlight clan", there are many people who often use flowers, and their wages can't last a month, so they often eat food. Life seems to be beautiful, and once I have to spend money, I realize that I am very downcast.
Some people say that after so many years of work and exhausted every day, they just can’t save money. When I was talking about marriage, I realized that life was too rough. Suddenly found that it is not difficult to fall in love, but not easy to get married and start a family.
Besides, some people just get married and have children and may not be able to live a lifetime. With such a short marriage, how can they be long-term?
such a scene,Many people are already too busy to take care of themselves, and of course they can't take care of other things.
This is an understandable mood, and we can't blame young people for not understanding family relationships. Because family affection is mutual, others don't understand you, why should you understand them?
So what are we for?
If you were asked to answer this question, how would you answer it?
is probably for a good wish. Everyone’s preferences are biased and are closely related to life. But with regard to nostalgia, the emotions are often similar.
After the hustle and bustle, we understand the value of tradition.
Many people say that in the workplace, there is no relationship with each other, so 's internal volume of is very serious.
For example, when a colleague quarrels, even if both sides say sorry to each other under the pressure of the leader, how many sincere apologies are there?
cannot be denied,Today's interpersonal relationships are much more complicated than a decade ago, and competition is everywhere. How realistic the mind is, how realistic society and life are.
The gap in life has changed the values of many people, and many people have become only standpoints without principles.
Don’t say too far, just say filial piety, this is a traditional virtue. However, how many young people remember what filial piety is?
During the Chinese New Year, not to mention buying warm clothes for parents, just buying a pair of socks, which is a luxury for many young people.
They like "cloud filial piety", expressing how filial to their parents on the Internet, blood is thicker than water, family affection is deeper than the sea, but in reality they all rely on a mouth.
I saw something like this on a short video:
A young girl’s mother passed away and she wore a white robe and knelt on her knees from time to time. Yan phone selfie. I patted my crying expression and deliberately manipulated his posture, which seemed pitiful.
The following text, I’m so pitiful, my mother passed away, and I drove 6 hours in the night to get to the hospital, but unfortunately I didn’t see my mother for the last time. My daughter did her filial piety for you. Can you please? Give a thumbs up?
After reading,I am full of emotions, what kind of a thing is this!
has to be sent out to make people see you cry, give you a compliment, compliment you for your beautiful appearance, and brighten your mother's face, is filial piety?
Everyone wants to be cared about, but the word "caring" itself is very extravagant, so I am afraid of using it in the wrong place.
In this case, traditional culture is particularly important. With so many imported festivals, how much of the subtle and restrained in our folk traditions is left?
Some parents are not good at expressing themselves, they are hardworking and resentful with their children, thinking that their children are too young and sensible. Over time, the changes in tradition will affect me. When I am old and unable to move, I will feel that the child is small, but the child is often more realistic than they are!
Reality is cruel and not cruel, usually related to endurance. The more cruel, the more you need to calm down and feel the tradition.
This is the meaning of traditional festivals. If there were no traditional constraints, many families would have separated long ago, let alone a more distant family relationship.
From this perspective, this is the meaning of the festival.
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