So have you already made a winter vacation plan for your children? I personally think that whether it is a winter vacation plan or a summer vacation plan, children should actively participate in it. This is the most important point.

At the beginning of the new year, many places have already entered the winter vacation state in advance.

So have you already made winter vacation plans for your children?

Are your winter vacation plans correct?

I have been helping my children plan their winter vacations for several years.

No, to be precise, he should make his own winter vacation plans.

Yes, my child makes his own winter vacation plans every year.

I personally believe that children should be actively involved in both winter vacation plans and summer vacation plans. This is the most important point.

Some parents make really beautiful and rigorous plans, some are even precise to the minute, and every day is clearly arranged.

I can absolutely say that such a plan is flashy and empty. It is impossible for children to perfectly implement every day's content according to your plan.

Why?

is very simple, this is your plan, or the plan you imposed on him, it is not what he wants to do.

Maybe you will say, I am doing this for his own good. During such a long winter and summer vacation, should I let him play with his mobile phone, watch TV and play silly at home every day?

Or if the training class is full, I can’t take care of it. Should I let the teachers of the training class take care of it?

Of course, we cannot waste such a long time during winter and summer vacations.

However, planning must be strategic.

First of all, when the holiday is approaching, we should guide our children, it is about to have a holiday, how do you want to arrange this long holiday.

I don’t think any child will say, I want to watch a holiday TV and play on a holiday mobile phone. Even if he thinks so in his heart, it is certainly impossible to express it in this way.

Maybe he will say that I want to preview the textbooks for next semester and how far I want to learn English.

Of course, in most cases, he cannot do it, because both adults and children are lazy.

Why should I stand when I can lie down? Why should I read and study so tiredly when I can play with my phone and watch TV without thinking.

So, that’s why it’s important to let your kids make their own plans.

Let him participate and let him say what he wants to do and how he should do it.

When he says what he wants to do, be sure not to express your own opinions and let the child finish what he wants to say.

Then, you follow his lead.

For example, how far does he want to learn English.

You can effectively suggest that we can watch English original cartoons, documentaries or movies, etc. These are all entertainment in nature, and children are generally willing to do them.

You can suggest that we memorize five words a day, five words a day. It is really simple, but after a month or two, his vocabulary is also very impressive. Memorizing five words may only take five minutes at most for a child. It is easy for him to do and will give him a sense of accomplishment.

For example, you can say that we do a hundred verbal math calculations a day. Slowly, his speed will become faster and faster, and his accuracy will become higher and higher. One hundred verbal calculations can only take ten minutes at most. In this way, two relatively difficult problems can be completed in only 20 minutes at most.

Plans like this can be listed slowly. Each project only takes a short time, and the child will have a strong sense of accomplishment.

And it must be emphasized that it does not take time to do this, it is easy for him to do, and children generally are not willing to challenge things that are too difficult.

We must not criticize children. We must have the courage to move forward when doing things. How can we be afraid? Children are children, and they will not be willing to challenge. You should make this matter very simple. When he does it, let him see the achievement for himself.

This is a sense of achievement that allows children to participate on their own.

Another most important point, I think, is that you must not be precise enough to do something every minute and every second.

For example, if you get up at 8 o'clock every day and your child doesn't get up until 8:30, you will scold him all day long. This is completely unnecessary.

For example, if you ask him to memorize English words and do it every morning as soon as he wakes up, if he wants to write at that time, can he count by mouth? That's totally fine.

I think as long as he finishes what he should do today, it will be fine.

Even if he waits to do these things before going to bed, even if he plays for ten hours before thinking of doing things, we should not be dissatisfied with the child at the beginning, but should slowly guide and encourage him to do it.

One principle is, don’t blame him when he can’t do it, and encourage him when he can do it.

For example, if he only remembers to memorize vocabulary words very late, but he does it, you must not be stingy with your words of praise, baby, you are awesome, you will definitely be able to complete the plan you made

, and he will memorize it fluently and accurately.

Do you know what is the most difficult thing for a person? It is self-discipline. You can reasonably do what you should do every day without your mother’s intervention. You are great. You know that most children cannot do it. You have done it. That’s great.

In fact, this thing is very simple, but he just wants to play and doesn't want to do it. It's normal. However, as long as he does it, he should be encouraged, which is a good start. Slowly, he will think that he is really good, and he will become more and more active in doing it.

If his plan cannot be completed, for example, he originally planned to memorize five words a day, but he still wants to do it after a week, we should not be impatient and slowly guide him to do it. He will definitely do it one day. As long as he does it, we should encourage him.

has at least a month of winter vacation. As long as he memorizes a word, he will make money.

We have a long time for our children to grow up.

No matter what happens, it should be done step by step. Things that are accomplished in a hurry often cannot last long.

Children are like budding flowers. We must be patient and wait for the flowers to bloom.

A winter vacation is neither long nor short. If I can use a winter vacation to slowly correct his study habits, I think it is a very cost-effective thing.

Even though he had a long vacation and made a perfect plan at the beginning, but when school was about to start, he only completed one or two items. I think we should also encourage him to complete one or two items during this vacation, and he will do better next vacation.

Children's growth is a long-term process. If you pass today, you will pass tomorrow.

Learning is also a lifelong matter, and the most important thing is to let children develop good study habits.

It takes a short vacation or a few years for the child to form a habit. Compared with the child's lifelong growth, the time cost is worth investing.

I have always believed that parents should be the ferryman, not the baton.

In the process of your child's growth, as long as you use the right method and have enough patience, your child will definitely be a good enough child.