Zhang Wei is very smart. He can recognize hundreds of Chinese characters at the age of two and recite dozens of ancient poems, so his neighbors call him a little prodigy.
Zhang Wei, who went to school, had excellent grades. He could be considered a third-grade math problem in the kindergarten class. He finished all the primary school courses at the age of 8 and was admitted to the university at the age of 11, so he was labeled as a "child prodigy", so he has always lived in being praised.
After 14-year-old Zhang Wei graduated from university one year earlier and entered the Institute of Theoretical Physics, Chinese Academy of Sciences, where he studied under Academician Yu Lun to pursue a master's degree; 18-year-old Zhang Wei studied under Academician Zhou Guangzhao in .
I originally thought that Zhang Wei could grow up as people expected, but who knew that he had not obtained a doctorate in China, but went to the United States, but died faster. When he was in the United States, Zhang Wei went to the tutor to argue several times because his tutor was rejected by his tutor. He did not think his tutor was wrong, and he insisted that he must let his tutor accept his tutor. He even ran to his mentor's house in the middle of the night and had an argument with his teacher's wife.
Because he has never been denied, he always thinks that what he has done is right. So he has always adhered to his point of view, even if that point of view is wrong, so he fell down because of his conceit.
Science is the truth. If you want to achieve something, you must honestly follow the rules of science to explore and research. If you want to achieve brilliant results based on your subjective wishes, you will be slapped in the face. The fall of Zhang Wei's prodigy proves this.
also fell due to complacency. The injury of Zhongyong during the Northern Song Dynasty was just because of his parents' complacency. He was able to recognize thousands of Chinese characters when he was young, and he could write inscriptions and poems by himself at the age of five. He was called a "child prodigy" by the locals. His parents thought their children were amazing, so they asked him to perform everywhere to make money, but because they did not allow him to continue studying. So at the age of twelve, his talents disappeared and became like ordinary children.
A child, once he is labeled as a "child prodigy", his life will be greatly affected. Because excessive praise makes people become more conceited.
Regarding Zhang Wei’s experience, the college junior class counselor once pointed out incisively that due to the needs of various factors at that time, they were overpromoted. The overwhelming praise made these teenagers become "popular people" for a while, so Zhang Wei has always lived in the voice of being recognized and praised, and a natural sense of pride occupied his entire psychological space.
Until now, Zhang Wei still believes that his paper has not been done before, because "because 'they' are all gods, they want that result and have another purpose. If someone has a very good ability and it is wrong to calculate a lot of things, then the gods and immortals cannot do whatever they want, so they are unhappy."
is like Shu Zhongyong's family. He thinks Shu Zhongyong is a child prodigy, so he no longer let Shu Zhongyong continue to study, so sooner or later, one day, the child will use up his knowledge reserves and become no different from ordinary people.
In short, this "child prodigy" who was admitted to university at the age of 11 and entered the Chinese Academy of Sciences at the age of 14 died because of his conceit.
In this way, whether to put a child as a "child prodigy" is also a thing worth thinking about. If your child is labeled as a "child prodigy", what would you do as a parent?
This is a child called a child prodigy. He fell because he was too conceited. If ordinary children are too conceited, they will still achieve nothing.
Xuanxuan is a very talented student. Since she has loved writing since she was a child, the essays she wrote are often read aloud by teachers as model essays in the class. In the sixth grade, she wrote a poem to a local newspaper and magazine. Unexpectedly, she actually published it. Since then, she has been writing articles for this newspaper and magazine, and has also published many beautiful articles. From then on, she has become proud and arrogant, unable to correctly evaluate herself, treat teachers, parents and classmates correctly, and thus cannot study basic knowledge hard, and end up in nothing.
Xuanxuan was determined to be a writer when she was in the sixth grade of elementary school and vowed to be a famous writer.If she could study hard for this, read down-to-earth, write seriously, and draw nourishment from books to improve herself, it would be great to have such ambitions. But she did not do it steadily, but was imaginative all day long and wanted to be a "famous writer who shines in the history of literature." She always thinks that she is born with the style of a great writer, saying, "My greatest capital is to achieve something, and to have youthful passion that cannot be compared with adult writers. It is enough to have passion."
Xuanxuan said: "School teachers are all mediocre people. They only know how to read the text in class and tell repetitive dead knowledge. There is no wonderful motto or strange witty words in ten thousand sentences." Xuanxuan hates all damn books and "boring knowledge" and hates reading. She says that books are written by others, adults, and the elderly, and she wants to create them! We need to make a breakthrough!
's disdain for learning and disapproval of teachers made Xuanxuan's grades decline. However, she regarded her parents' advice as "a long-lasting thing." In a school basic test, she scored 17 points in math and 14 points in foreign languages, and even her best Chinese language scored only 60 points. At this point, she thought that school education had restricted her pace of growing into a "famous writer", so she dropped out of school to specialize in literature to achieve herself.
For some reason, since Xuanxuan dropped out of school, she has submitted articles she wrote in her family to dozens of newspapers and magazines, but none of them published her works, which made her so angry that she scolded the newspaper editor for not knowing the goods.
A few years later, she got married and had children. Her dream of being a famous writer was gradually destroyed by the busy life in front of her and she became an extremely ordinary rural woman.
Going to college can be said to be a great glory in life, but if you are too arrogant in college, your end will be tragic.
Li Bing is a very outstanding young man. He was admitted to a key university with excellent results during the college entrance examination. After entering the school, he was valued by the leaders and teachers of the school because of his high scores and excellent communication skills. He became a cadre of the student union in this university. He soon joined the party and became a hot figure in the school. He was simply known to everyone and everyone.
The teacher's pampering, the envy of classmates and the flattery of some people gave him a feeling of elation. He took it for granted that he was the best, and since then, he became extremely arrogant.
He often doesn’t go to class because he thinks the teacher doesn’t speak well, and never participates in group activities, but often immerses in fun. The teacher was worried about his behavior and often advised him to avoid being arrogant and impetuous. But he always takes the teacher's words as a warning. He thinks that he is so smart, it is a piece of cake to deal with those exams. In this way, during his college years, his academic performance was mediocre.
is about to graduate from college, and Li Bing wants to continue his postgraduate studies, but his name is not on the list of the school that does not have a postgraduate study. So, Li Bing was unwilling to be outdone and told his classmates that he must work hard to pass the exam to study for graduate school. From then on, Li Bing began to study early and late. Helplessly, because he wasted his homework during college, he was very helpless when studying. As a result, he failed his postgraduate entrance examination and failed.
This failure is undoubtedly a blow to Li Bing, who is used to being proud. When Li Bing got the report card, he stood blankly for a long time, and his whole body was like a frost-beating eggplant.
The next morning, people found his body in front of the 14-storey teaching building, with a blood-soaked score note and a suicide note in his pocket. He said: "Because I know I can no longer be proud, I chose to die. For me, losing pride is like depriving my life."
Li Bing's failed life ended like this. In fact, until his death, Li Bing failed to understand the reason for his failure. It is precisely because he has always been self-indulgent, complacent and complacent, and does not know how to avoid arrogance and impetuousness that his young life that could have made a difference has come to an end. If a person sows the seeds of self-confidence, he will surely harvest the fruits of betrayal of his relatives and even bring unpredictable dangers.
Shakespeare shouted in his drama: "Reject fate, laugh at death, just hold on to ambition, forget all wisdom, thoughts, and horror. As you know, conceit is the greatest enemy of mankind."
A arrogant and conceited person can easily inflate himself due to small success in his journey of life. Once he expands himself, he will quickly lose his direction, and at this time, failure is not far from him.
Please search carefully to see if your child has some of the following symptoms. If the answer is "Yes", it means that your child has already become conceited. Is there a phenomenon of excessive self-esteem in
? I think I am very great, and no one else can do it. He rarely cares about others and is alienated from others. This type of child always starts from his own interests and never cares about others. When he doesn't seek anything from others, he has no enthusiasm for others. It seems that everyone should serve him, but he ends up neglecting the family. Is
a time when you look down on others? They always think that they are much better than others. This type of child is stubborn and arrogant. They always impose their own opinions on others. They are unwilling to change their attitudes or accept other people's opinions even though they know that others are right. I always like to elevate myself and belittle others and regard others as useless. Have
ever been overdefensive and obviously jealous? He has a strong sense of self-esteem. When others achieve some achievements, his jealousy arises naturally and tries his best to attack and exclude others. When others fail, gloat and do not provide any useful information to others. At the same time, when others succeed, this type of child often uses the "sour grape psychology" to maintain their psychological balance.
Looking through " Cihai ", the entry of "conceited" is followed by four simple and clear words: "Be self-respect; be self-respect." So, what causes the adolescents' conceit?
1 is an overly spoiled family education . Family education is the original source of a person's conceit. For adolescents and children, self-evaluation first depends on the people around them’s perception of them, and family is the first reference system for their self-evaluation. Parents pamper, praise, and praise will make them feel that they are "very amazing".
Second, it is smooth sailing in life. People’s understanding comes from experience. People who have suffered many setbacks and blows in life rarely have a conceited mentality; while people who have a smooth life can easily develop a conceited personality. Most of the children today are only children, and they are the jewels of their parents' eyes. If they excel in school and their teachers pamper them, they will easily develop a confident, arrogant and conceited personality.
Third, one-sided self-knowledge. Conceited people often narrow their weaknesses and exaggerate their strengths. Some children lack self-knowledge, take their strengths very prominently, and evaluate their abilities too high and low abilities of others, which naturally leads to a conceited mentality. When a person only sees his own strengths and cannot see his own weaknesses, he often develops a conceited personality. Children like
are often very happy to achieve success. If they achieve a small achievement, they think they are great. When they succeed, they are entirely attributed to their subjective efforts, and when they fail, they are entirely attributed to the non-cooperation of objective conditions. They are too narcissistic and self-centered, and look at their every moves differently.
4 is emotional reasons. Some children have a particularly strong self-esteem. In order to protect themselves, in the face of social setbacks, two self-protection psychology that are both opposite and mutual. One is inferiority complex, through self-isolation, avoiding further damage to self-esteem; the other is conceit, through self-magnification, to obtain compensation for inferiority complex and insufficient.
For example, some children with poor financial conditions in their families are afraid of being looked down upon by classmates with superior financial conditions, so they pretend to be noble and look down on the surface as if they look down on these classmates. This kind of conceit is a manifestation of excessive sensitivity to self-esteem.
people cannot be conceited. Especially for teenagers, self-confidence can inspire teenagers to fight, enable them to establish the determination to win, firmly believe in overcoming difficulties, and enable themselves to move forward bravely.However, self-confidence must be based on objective reality. Self-confidence that is divorced from reality will become conceit. It will not only not help people achieve careers, but will instead affect their lives, study, work and interpersonal communications, and in serious cases it will also affect their mental health.
There seems to be a world of difference between inferiority and conceit. Those who are inferior will look down on themselves; those who are conceited will look down on themselves too much. But by pursuing the root of it, we can find their similarity, that is, neither of these two people can accurately evaluate themselves and have no correct understanding of themselves.
The inferior person thinks that his skills are not as good as others. He is neither willing to fall into depravity like those who give up on themselves nor move forward bravely like those who strive for self-improvement. People with feel inferiority are like buds in the shadows. They yearn for success and envy glory, but refuse to grow and cannot stretch. They often look down on themselves and care about other people's eyes. All kinds of concerns lock in the pace of progress and are at a loss in the face of difficulties...
What is more terrifying than inferiority is self-confidence. The emergence of conceit often comes from some achievements that have been achieved, which is a further deterioration of complacency. It can be said that people with conceits generally have a certain amount of "capital", but they accidentally lose themselves in the face of success, thinking that they have become characters, so they are the only ones and cannot listen to others' advice.
inferiority and conceit are two extremes, but the results of both are the same, which will lead to failure in life. People with inferiority always walk with their heads down. Because they lack self-confidence, they often carry heavy burdens in their hearts and are overwhelmed, which eventually crushes themselves; people with conceits always walk with their heads up, because they are too confident and often arrogant, so they are confused and unable to distinguish things, either lost or fall.
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