12-15 years old is the "peak age" when children enter the period of youthful rebellion. At this time, our children advance from primary school to middle school. If they fail to develop good study habits and work and rest habits, they will not be able to quickly adapt to junior high school life, and will become more rebellious and difficult to discipline. Regarding the education issues during the rebellious period between the ages of 12 and 15, parents need to do these four things to help their children go through the rebellious period smoothly.
The first thing: give your children "respect" and "recognition".
Parents are always used to treating their children as their own property, thinking that since they have given birth to children, the children should follow their own arrangements. Education under this kind of cognition will inevitably make children gradually lose themselves and lose their self-confidence.
Especially children who have entered the rebellious period, they no longer recognize the "authority" of their parents. They are tired of their parents always interfering with them, they hate their parents reprimanding them regardless of the occasion, and they hate not getting recognition for anything they do. All these make children live without "dignity", and lack of respect and recognition will only make children more rebellious.
We need to give children "respect", that is, respect the child's personality, do not impose our own ideas on the child, allow the child to have different ideas, and respect the whims and whims behind each child's uniqueness. This will be more conducive to the development of the child's personality and give the child more self-esteem.
We also need to give "recognition" to children, that is, to recognize the children's efforts and efforts. Children in the rebellious period especially want to be recognized by their parents, so that they can feel the support and encouragement of their parents. The recognition of parents will make the children more willing to work hard and get better and better. On the contrary, children who cannot be recognized will become inferior and sensitive.
The second thing is to learn to communicate with children and gain their trust.
Learning to communicate with children is a required course for every parent. An effective communication will make the parent-child relationship closer. On the contrary, ineffective communication will only make each other more tired.
What is considered effective communication? You can gain something from the conversation. On the one hand, the child is willing to share with you what is happening around him and hopes that you can help him analyze some things that are difficult for him to understand. On the other hand, you have truly entered the child's heart and gained the child's trust.
How to communicate effectively?
1. Don’t use your status as an “elder” to suppress your child. You need to have an equal dialogue instead of constantly denying your child’s ideas and making her unwilling to open up to you.
2. Don’t always interrupt the child’s speech and try to preach as a person who has experienced it, and use great principles to change the child’s mind. This will only make the child more rebellious.
3. Be a good listener, be a listener without prejudice, be a listener who can respond to your child's emotions in a timely manner, and let her know that you really want to chat with him.
