At that time, I expressed my emotion in the comment area, but I immediately deleted it. This is not a question that can be answered in one or two sentences.
all say that a daughter is her father’s little cotton-padded jacket, which keeps her back warm. After the college entrance examination, the mother became her daughter's thermal underwear, which was close-fitting.
Therefore, I looked at this "daughter's" application form from a mother's perspective and discussed it with the parents.
I think: This is a very smart, courageous, confident, dreamy, and decisive child who will become a great success in the future! admire!
My son is like this. When he took the high school entrance examination, he only applied for the only school in the city called " National Top 100 Middle Schools ", but he ended up going to the orienteering school. I asked him, "Why did you fill out your application like this without any support?" He said, "The best place can give you what you want most. No big deal, you have to start over!"
A few years later, a man from a neighboring village My child did not apply to this "Top 100 Middle School" because he filled in his application, had no support, and lacked the ability to make decisions. His high school entrance examination exceeded the unified examination line for "Top 100 Middle School" by more than 20 points, and he was not admitted to this school. . There is not even a chance to seek the second best, to retreat to the second best.
Since the majors and high schools are equal and parallel, when filling in the application form, there is only one and no other. Why do major high schools have high admission rates? This is because the comprehensive quality of the students admitted to the major high schools through examinations is also relatively high.
Through years of observation and thinking, whether it is the high school entrance examination or the college entrance examination, filling out the application form is really a technical job. Therefore, at this time, parents should get into their children's hearts and give them wise guidance. You must not make subjective assumptions, be careless, and only consider your own feelings, which will affect the path your children will take in the future.
After my son took the college entrance examination, he said to me, "If you score below 620, you can repeat the course, and if you score above 640, you can leave." The result was that the score was 649, ranking 950th in the province that year. I asked him why he said that? He said that the score of the third model test was 650, which showed that I had tried my best and performed normally. If the score is lower than 620, your performance will be abnormal, so you need to retake it. Normal performance is like a person stretching out his fist. If you ask him to stretch it out a little more, will it still be powerful? Abnormal performance is equivalent to having a fist under the crotch and not extending it. If you extend it further, it will definitely be powerful, so you have to repeat it. As he spoke, he made a gesture for me. I said, oh, it turns out there is a reference point for whether to re-read or not.
Logically speaking, my son’s score should also be a gratifying score. But when I was filling out my application form, something went wrong.
He wants to go to a comprehensive university and major in science. After investigation and analysis, comprehensive one is out of reach, comprehensive two is one point short, and comprehensive three is 11 points lower. You think he is so angry! He hates himself for not being able to get one more point or a few points less? With scores that can't reach the sky and can't hit the ground, how can people fill in their applications? I was so angry that I broke my pen and threw it away, and slept all day.
On the third day, which was the last day to fill in the application form, I reluctantly applied for the third comprehensive school. You know, the scores in the high school and college entrance examinations are worth a pound, and they are weighed by the pound!
Because he was unconvinced, he did not reach the level he wanted in the college entrance examination. Later, through hard work, he was pushed by the school to study at Comprehensive First University in his senior year. All in all, after nine years of bachelor's degree, master's degree, and Ph.D., my son spent six years in Comprehensive First University, and then he calmed down the resentment in his heart.
Expert teachers all know that there are four parallel choices in the college entrance examination. The first choice is the ideal choice, the second choice is the basic choice, the third and fourth choices are the minimum choice, and they are also the choices that children can take or not. . When enrolling, applicants will be listed in the order in which they were filled in.
At this point, let’s go back and look at the application filled in by the “daughter” above, and you’ll know. According to the score of 543, it is very likely that the report was filled out with unwillingness, and it cannot be a joke. At this point, no one can make fun of their own life.
According to the order and rules for filling out the application, the first choice filled in by the "daughter" should be her only ideal choice, or it may be a helpless ideal choice. In other words, there is no selectivity and comparability. She filled in Peking University, which was out of reach (excluding special circumstances), and filled two Tsinghua universities in the guaranteed position. Anyone with a discerning eye would know at a glance that she was clearly violating the rules and filling out the application in reverse order. Who can say that this child has no "knot" in his heart?
The province where this "daughter" lives is also a province that is popular for the college entrance examination. Her score of 543 points should be above average, so we cannot take it from the surface that this child's application is ridiculous. Mothers, in particular, should not think that this is an unbelievable thing. They should go into the inner world of their children and explore "Why?" Her sentence "Tsinghua and Peking University does not stipulate that students will not be allowed to report if they do not have enough marks", which clearly revealed her own voice.
It should be a good thing that my mother knows about it. Because you unintentionally understand the inner world of your child, which is a good thing that you can't buy with money. Therefore, we must silently help children how to realize their ideals in the future. Shouldn't we think deeply?
What a pity! This incident was not only "shocked and speechless," but also moved online. This is the detail of family education ! Don't be careless or you will regret it.
After passing the college entrance examination, some children become emotionally unstable and psychologically fragile. This is normal. Mothers, in particular, must take good care of them and be competent as their children's "close-fitting thermal underwear."
If the "daughter" has such a decisive ability, she will definitely be a great talent in the future with a bright future. You must believe in your children and be kind to your children. No matter how high your children fly or how far they go, you can only send them blessings and never try to hold them back. We want our children to be able to develop freely and fly freely!
