believes that by everyone's side, there will be some aggressive people. Often these people work very hard and do things more vigorously. They can do high-intensity work every day, and their energy seems to be exhausted.
People with a competitive heart generally do better than most people. This can be regarded as some of the benefits that a competitive heart brings to them, but the disadvantages of a strong heart can not be ignored.
tends to look bright on the surface of competitive people, but in fact these people live more tired than most people.
Because aggressive people always like to compare with others, they are always pursuing how to live what others want. Often these people will lose the truest self, even if these people finally achieve their goals, TAs May not feel so happy.
Being competitive can promote our development. A moderate competitive mind is good for us, but there must be a limit in everything. If the competitive mind is too strong, it will be counterproductive, and too strong will hinder our development.
Next, I will talk to you in detail, why those who are competitive and strong, the fate is often not good, nothing more than the following three reasons.
1. Competitive people are more jealous.
Competitive people are more jealous than ordinary people. They may also be doing one thing. Competitive people are the starting point for doing things, and the starting point for doing things with ordinary people. different.
Ordinary people may simply want to do one thing well, and enjoy the rewards that it brings after doing it well. Often ordinary people have few distracting thoughts in their minds when doing things, and can do things faster and more efficiently. Do one thing well.
People who are competitive are doing things to prove themselves, because those who are competitive are very jealous, so they want to prove that they are better than others, and they try to do something well in order to prove themselves.
These people will have distracting thoughts in their hearts when doing things, and it is often not easy to do one thing well, and it is easy to go to the wrong path because of jealousy.
In fact, jealousy has both good and bad sides. A moderate amount of jealousy will not let us get along, but can encourage us to work harder.
However, once jealousy is too much, there will be problems. Too much jealousy will make us feel very painful, and too much jealousy will blind our minds and easily lead us to some wrong paths.
So for those who are aggressive, it is best to suppress their jealousy, and don't let the jealousy go to your head, or you will suffer damage.
2. Competitive people do not want to cooperate with others
Generally, those who are aggressive, prefer to do everything by themselves, and are not willing to cooperate with others to do things, and are not willing to delegate power to others.
TA people are unwilling to cooperate with others, and the reason they are unwilling to delegate power to other people is because they can't worry about others and worry that they will mess things up.
Therefore, TAs are more inclined to do things by themselves. Only doing things on their own will make them more at ease. This often makes them very tired.
TA, even if they are managers, it is difficult to have a relaxing time. Many times these people take over all the work and cause their subordinates to do nothing. This is not what a good manager should do. attitude.
A good manager is not single-handed, but knows how to work together to find the value of each employee, so that each employee’s value can be fully realized, and each employee can work in a suitable position. The manager only Responsible for the final acceptance results.
Otherwise, if you do everything yourself, you have to do what your subordinates do, and your own efficiency will be very low, and the efficiency of division of labor and cooperation will increase.
Therefore, for those who are aggressive, it is best to learn how to collaborate with others. Don't always work alone. Only if you learn to work in a team, it will be more beneficial to your own development.
3. Competitive people are more stubborn.
Competitive people tend to be more stubborn. It is usually harder to listen to other people’s suggestions. Competitive people always think that they are always right, and they don’t like and do not want others. People point to TA.
is also because these people are too stubborn, so they often encounter in lifeNail often suffers some lessons before he repents.
Sometimes it is not a good thing to be too stubborn, such as Liu Bei's counselor Ma Di, Ma Di is a very stubborn person, and also a very conceited person.
Zhuge Liang once sent Ma Di to guard the important area of the street pavilion. Ma Di thought he knew a lot of military strategy, so he fought according to his own theory. He was unwilling to follow the suggestions of people around him, even if Zhuge Liang ordered him. After that, Ma Di lost the street pavilion, and was beheaded by Zhuge Liang after returning to the camp.
can learn from Ma Di that being too stubborn can easily lead to trouble. It is best not to be too stubborn, or it will make us suffer.
Sometimes we have to understand that there are people outside of us, and there are many people who are stronger than us in society. It is best to listen to other people’s suggestions before doing things, so as to help us avoid some risks and benefit our future development.
So for those who are aggressive, it is best to change their stubborn minds, otherwise they will be in trouble if they suffer a loss.
