Everyone hopes for a good life, but there are always people who complain as soon as they open their mouths.
The mouth is the two doors on the face. It’s right to open your mouth to receive blessings. If it weren’t for this, it would be better to shut up.
It is obvious that if you want to change a person's destiny, you must use your "mouth skills".
01
Eat less and be in good health.
The ancients invented the two words " Taotie ", which is a ferocious beast that eats whatever it sees.
" Sheng'an Ji " records: "Taotie is good at eating, so it stands on the cauldron."
After years of evolution, people use "Taotie" to describe overeating and bloating, and persuade people around them to control their diet, otherwise they will become wild animals. There are also proverbs like "70% full meal, three% drunk drinking" left behind.
But some people don’t believe in evil and have to be greedy for food. Northern Song Su Shi is one of them.
Su Shi likes to study food very much and has created many recipes by himself. Dongpo Fish , Dongpo Pork , Dongpo Elbow ... Let us open our eyes.
When Su Shi was demoted, he improved himself by showing off his food and also reflected his optimistic spirit. In short, in the ups and downs of life, he is still changing his destiny, which is worthy of praise.
Sadly, Su Shi's decline is also related to "eating".
When he was in his sixties, he was pardoned for his sins, and then he went to Changzhou and met his old friend and calligrapher Mi Fu .
Wine a friend with a thousand cups of wine . Without any suspense, they drank, enjoyed food, and went out for fun. The body was cold and greedy, and he drank ice water, which caused Su Shi to vomit and diarrhea. Even though he knew he was ill, Su Shi still went to the banquet, which increased the burden on his body.
More than 20 days after arriving in Changzhou, Su Shi passed away.
His life verified an ancient saying: "Those who drowned are all watery." Without restraint and overconfidence, the harm will be hidden in it.
Poet Li Bai , Du Fu , are generous, but when you hold up the wine glass, you can't put it down. The end of their lives is also closely related to drinking.
Sun Simiao said in "Qianjin Yaofang": "When you eat, you will be hungry and full."
Only by eating well can you live a healthy life.
No matter how good a person’s fate is, if his health is not good, he will take a sharp turn for the worse. No matter how hard a person's life is, if he is in a good health, there will be countless opportunities for change. Health is originally a wealth.
02
There are few words and good people.
Host Ni Ping said: "People say half of their words, and half of them say with heart. Just listen to what they say with their mouths, and what they say with heart is true."
It seems that people who can talk are not talking endlessly, but think and communicate with heart. The best communication is often very quiet and tacit.
has seen two stories.
A businessman lost a lot of money and lived a very painful life. He found a Zen master and poured out all the troubles in his heart.
After the merchant talked for two hours, the Zen master gently tapped the table with his hand and said : "The tea is cold." The three simple words made the merchant feel ashamed.
is now used to taste tea, not to listen to "complaints". If you have no money, you can make money. No matter how much you say, what's the use?
of Ming Dynasty Wang Yangming , and for a while he was the magistrate in Ji'an, Jiangxi.
A father and son went to the yamen to file a lawsuit and argued endlessly. The father blamed his son for being unfilial, and the son blamed his father for not caring about him.
Faced with long-lasting family affairs, it is difficult for anyone to judge who is right and who is wrong.
Wang Yangming said : "Shun is a rebellious son, and 闭 is a kind father."
Emperor Shun , filial piety moved the sky, 闭 made things difficult for Shun everywhere. Wang Yangming's words were very strange, which surprised the father and son, and then turned on the "reflection mode" - it was also quiet for a long time.
After stopping the quarrel, the father and son thanked Wang Yangming.
It can be seen from the story: people who know how to be human are, and they don’t talk too much, but they are good at it.
Ro Watkins once said: "If you don't have money in your bag, you must have a sweet mouth."
Very poor people, if you have a sweet mouth, they will be very popular and get more benefits.
Similarly, sad people will quickly adjust their mood when they meet someone who encourages them.
Everyone knows that 80% of the success of life depends on connections. If you can't even grasp the words and complain, complain, accuse, and make noise everywhere, how can you have connections?
Family, relatives, friends, and colleagues, if you want to have a good relationship, you have to use your mouth. But you really don't say anything. If you can talk about your heart, you will win respect and gather strength to change your destiny.
03
less angry and have a good attitude.
I read a sentence: "Temperament and blessings are like a pair of enemies, one rises and the other goes down, you are weak and he is strong."
has a generous and generous lady, her family is very happy, and her neighbors have a good impression of her.
The maid next to the noble lady said, "Some people say you are fake mercy."
The lady suddenly raised her eyebrows and blamed the maid fiercely. Her anger was not eliminated for several days, causing the maid to leave; after the neighbors learned about this, they felt that the noble lady was really "fake compassionate".
The good days of a noble lady are all the way to the end.
There are many ways to express anger, the most direct and fastest one is to "swear".
If you have too much anger in your mouth, you will feel uncomfortable, and the people around you will also alienate you. From then on, you will change the impression you give to others, and your connections, business, and family harmony will be lost.
Even if everything you have not lost, you will be unable to enjoy it because of too much anger and you will still be a person with a miserable life.
Throw away your anger, speak calmly, or sit quietly, and what you have in your destiny will turn into blessings.
04
Philosopher Bacon once said: "Fate is like the market. If you stay there, the price will most likely fall."
The good or bad fate is not static. Smart people are good at changing their destiny and bravely "innovate".
People with poor life are mostly without money, no connections, no good body, and no quiet heart. If you want to change your life, you must establish a set goal and immediately control your mouth.
Eat less, 70% full, and you won’t be tired.
Less words, listen more, and the relationship is good.
Leave anger, be at peace, and live a calm life.
You must understand that there is no way to be good or bad. If you open your mouth, just keep your mouth shut.
Author: Common people eat coarse food.
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