For each of us, there will be acceptance and giving every day. Among them, acceptance means obtaining from others or elsewhere, while giving means turning one's own things into someone else's.
I don’t know if you have thought about it, what is acceptance and giving? What do not belong to acceptance and giving? Let’s first read a short story...
According to legend, Sakyamuni once went to the capital of the kingdom of , , and lived in the Jerusalem Garden.
Shortly after Sakyamuni lived in the Jetavana to the Lonely Garden, one day a young man came to him. Unlike other local people's attitudes, this young man spoke rudely when he saw Sakyamuni, looked very angry and started to swear in the most intense words.
Sakyamuni was not angry. With his cultivation, he would not only not get angry because of Wuming's abuse, but he even knew why this young man was so angry.
It turns out that after listening to Sakyamuni's teachings a few days ago, the young man's brother became a monk and followed Sakyamuni to practice.
But the young man was very unaware of his brother's choice, so he found the Jerusalem to the Lonely Garden, and the beginning scene was created.
Sakyamuni listened to the young man's venting peacefully, and stopped by himself until he said that his throat was thirsty and tongue was painful, and then he asked softly, "Young man, have your relatives and friends visited your home?"
A young man answered casually after hearing this, of course there is, but monks, what can that mean?
Shakyamuni continued to ask him, when your relatives and friends come to your house to visit, have you prepared food to entertain them?
Hearing the young man continue to give a positive answer, Sakyamuni still asked him plainly, if the relatives and friends who came to your house did not enjoy the delicacies you prepared for them, who would the remaining food belong to in the end?
The young man was a little angry when he heard such a "mind-retarded" question and replied loudly, since it was the food prepared by my family, and the guests who came did not eat it, of course, the rest belongs to me. Could it be someone else's?
Sakyamuni smiled and said, "Young man, when you come to me, you not only speak ill of me, but also wantonly insult me." But I didn't even refute it. Is it like a relative and friend who didn't eat your food?
Since I didn't accept it, then the vicious words and abuse you just now are like the leftover food, who will belong to in the end?
The young man was a little anxious when he heard this, and couldn't help but raise his tone and said that although you don't accept it, I've given it all to you.
Sakyamoni still said calmly, since those abuses are not accepted by me, how can you give them to others?
The young man was stunned for a moment and still asked Sakyamuni loudly, then tell me, what are you accepting and what is giving? What does not belong to acceptance and what does not belong to giving?
Sakyamuni sighed slightly and said that if you scold me, I will scold you back. If you are angry with me, I will be angry with you. If you beat me, I will be angry with you. If you beat me, I will be fight back. If you fight me, I will fight back. This means that there is acceptance and giving.
On the other hand, I respond to the insult with silence and treat your anger calmly, that is, I will not respond to the fist with my fist, and I do not respond to the fight with my fight without my fight. This situation does not belong to acceptance, let alone give.
The young man said loudly, I once heard from our virtuous elders that people with high cultivation will not be angry when facing insults and insults from others. So are you angry or angry today?
Sakyamuni said with the calm expression, "A person who has permanently eliminated anger, what else can make him angry?" You need to understand these problems:
People who are good at self-control and live will not have anger, let alone those who are wise and liberated.
The act of responding to anger with anger is a bad thing. Only those who do not respond to anger with anger can win the most difficult battle. Because they not only understand why the other party is angry, they can also calm themselves and raise mindfulness .The consequence of
is that they not only defeat others, but also defeat themselves, benefiting both themselves and others, and being a good doctor for both sides.
Of course, if someone thinks that such a person is a fool, he is just an ignorant person who doesn’t understand. They have no idea that not being angry is better than being angry, good deeds are better than being bad, and giving is better than being greedy, and honesty is better than lies.
And sages will not be angry, nor will they have any thoughts of harming others. For each of us, an angry heart is like a running wild horse; and if you want to control a running wild horse, you have to rely on the control of the reins.
But do you know that controlling the reins of a galloping horse is far from being able to control the inner control power.
After listening to the explanation of Sakyamuni, the young man who was furious immediately understood and finally confessed his recklessness in front of Sakyamuni. The story of
also tells us a truth: gains and losses need not only "master", but also "guest". Any single aspect is not valid.
And if we do not accept some of the anger and hurt in our lives, how can we be considered "get"? This is worth our deep consideration.
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